Those who are waiting to TTC

euronorris

Wahooo! exciting times Bride2be! I hope your wedding day goes super smoothly and you enjoy every second of it!

I've told OH, many times now, that it will most likely take a while. But it doesn't sink in. He's still convinced he has super sperm! *rolls eyes*

browneyedbazzi

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Definitely desperate for the weekend - I'm off to Venice tomorrow! :j

comp - I'm so jealous that you're going to venice this weekend! I've wanted to go for a really long time but there are so many places on the 'to see' list that I haven't got there yet.

euronorris wrote: »

No, you are not alone. We're almost there!!!!!!!!! :j:j:j

I haven't had much energy, but admittedly that is due to a lack of sleep in the first half of the week. Looking forward to a looooooong lie in tomorrow!

I think the reason I've felt so tired and lacking in energy this week is because I've been fighting off a bug...and today I lost the fight! Been sent home from work so it's rest time for me (although I will have to do some work this afternoon I can do it from the comfort of my sofa!)

euronorris wrote: »

I'm thinking about doing the C25k (couch to 5k) challenge. Has anyone else tried it? I'm a bit nervous/shy of running in public on my own! lol

I haven't heard of C25k but it sounds interesting -is there a link or something with more information?

Hope everyone is having a happy Friday!

euronorris

Here you go: http://www.coolrunning.com/engine/2/2_3/181.shtml

Have fun in Venice COMP! (sorry, I missed that earlier! Doh!)

clearing_out_my_pockets

I fully intend to have a good time! Although I'm currently seething at a 'friend'. I am the type of person who stews and won't say anything when someone annoys me. So I know that will be playing on my mind while I'm away. Still, at least the fact that I'm abroad will mean I can't log into facebook and comment on the offending status (unless I've caved and done it before I fly out...)

browneyedbazzi

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

I fully intend to have a good time! Although I'm currently seething at a 'friend'. I am the type of person who stews and won't say anything when someone annoys me. So I know that will be playing on my mind while I'm away. Still, at least the fact that I'm abroad will mean I can't log into facebook and comment on the offending status (unless I've caved and done it before I fly out...)

I hope the trip takes your mind off the upset with your friend...perhaps some time seeing new things, eating good food, and being away from normal life will help you get past the angry stage.

I'm not keen on confrontation so I often don't address things that have bothered me head on...I think this can mean things drag on in my head and causes more stress/upset in the long run. I'm trying to learn to either deal with the person/issue if it needs to be done or, if I'm not going to do that (because I really don't want to or don't think the situation is worth the confrontation etc) then I try to just learn what I can from the situation then move on. Way easier said than done, but I do manage it sometimes and think I feel a lot better when I do!

clearing_out_my_pockets

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

I'm trying to learn to either deal with the person/issue if it needs to be done or, if I'm not going to do that (because I really don't want to or don't think the situation is worth the confrontation etc) then I try to just learn what I can from the situation then move on. Way easier said than done, but I do manage it sometimes and think I feel a lot better when I do!

I think this is the problem - I do need to deal with it but I just don't know how to! I can't learn anything from the situation other than that 18 years of friendship apparently means nothing to some people There is genuinely nothing I can do to change the situation. Anything I say or do is going to completely end our friendship. Although it seems it's at an end anyway.

euronorris

My therapist would tell you to say what you feel to your friend. That's what she's always telling me, as I am guilty of avoiding things also. It's so much easier said than done. Half the time, I walk out of the session thinking ' Yeah, I'll do that. It's not so bad.' but then bottle it! lol

clearing_out_my_pockets

Exactly! As I say, anythig I say to her will take our friendship beyond the point of no return and I'm to cowardly to do that! Particularly as I know I've done nothing wrong.

(Apologies for taking the thread off topic!)

euronorris

I understand. But, she'd also point out that if the friendship is making you unhappy, what will you really be losing?

And no problem. We all go a little off topic from time to time. I'm about to give my response to work after my mid-year review. They ain't gonna like it! :whistle:

browneyedbazzi

euro - your therapist gives good advice.

comp - often a good way to raise a subject with someone and start to address the issue is to say 'you did/said/didn't do x and that made me feel y'. It may be that the other person didn't realise how what they were doing/saying would affect others (there are a lot of people on this planet who just don't see things from the perspective of others).

Although sometimes it can feel like there's no way back from whatever has happened, there often is if people are willing to talk and work at resolving things. If you think the friend is lost to you anyway (which is a pretty terrible thing), then what possible harm is there in trying to have a conversation? You may still lose the friend, but you'll be in a better position to deal with the loss and move on. I know it's a cliche, but closure really is a good thing!