finding out the sex of an unborn baby

pigpen

OrkneyStar wrote: »

Surely with the 10th, you would have got used to it by now lol x

not at all...4 years ago I was told I was menopausal and there was no way I'd have more children.. then I get 2 in 14 months! with no cycle between.. all pretty scary.. I can do 2 year gaps.. 14 months makes me go :eek:

moomoomama27

ViolaLass wrote: »

This is the bit I don't really get, why would you care? And why do children have to be dressed in pink for people to think they're a girl?

I totally agree!

When I had my second DD she was dressed on occasion head to toe in pink, 2 people that day told me HE was lovely!

I don't think people care all that much, and most don't even notice! I certainly wouldn;t be offended if someone asked me whether I had a boy/girl!

Manufacturers have it made now they've started making equipment gender specific, it means more money when you have to re - buy it in the other colour!

We always stuck to neutral equipment and bedding, so it could be reused, and as there's a small gap between my second and third child, and the are different gender. I bought alot of unisex PJ's and tops so I could re-use!

Clothing is not an excuse to find out the gender, but impatience is!

I found out with all 3 of mine because I am impatient, and that's the only reason!!

moomoomama27

pigpen wrote: »

not at all...4 years ago I was told I was menopausal and there was no way I'd have more children.. then I get 2 in 14 months! with no cycle between.. all pretty scary.. I can do 2 year gaps.. 14 months makes me go :eek:

You want to sue the person who told you that!! A woman who is coming up to menopause often has a last ditch surge of hormones, often making them as fertile as a woman in her twenties for a short period of time.

pigpen

moomoomama27 wrote: »

You want to sue the person who told you that!! A woman who is coming up to menopause often has a last ditch surge of hormones, often making them as fertile as a woman in her twenties for a short period of time.

The woman was a gynaecologist! She wanted more sociable hours (shrug!) so decided to be a GP so she could spend more time with her family.. so I actually thought she would know what she was talking about/looking at.. never mind.. too late now.. and I guess in a couple of years I wouldn't swap the 2 of them for the world.

I should sue but it is really not worth the aggravation I have had enough dealings with solicitors the last 2 years to do me a lifetime!

OrkneyStar

pigpen wrote: »

not at all...4 years ago I was told I was menopausal and there was no way I'd have more children.. then I get 2 in 14 months! with no cycle between.. all pretty scary.. I can do 2 year gaps.. 14 months makes me go :eek:

Ah ok, I did not know all of this!
Still you will be an old-hand at this lark now surely. All the best with it all!
x

tiamai_d

andy.m wrote: »

Everybody who finds out has a great justification why.

We have a beautiful Son, in the first 6 months or so he wore white, blue, yellow whatever.
At no point did the sex of him within my wife's womb have any bearing whatsoever on whether you would have to buy clothes.

The ONLY reason to want to know is impatience

Or because a boy would increase your chances of having Pre ecalmpsia for a third time and then there would be the risks assosiated with having pre eclampsia for a third time after developing eclampsia, HELLP and having had a placenta abruption and nearly dying the last time.

But totally it was so I could see what colour sleepsuits to buy. My health and the health of the baby never popped into my head. Nor did the implications of what exactly would happen if I did die this time. Or the worry and stress and guilt over chosing to continue with the pregnancy, which was a suprise after a coil failure (which may or may not still be in me somewhere).

It was allll about the pink or blue. :cool:

For the record, it was a girl and no pre eclampsia or nearly dying. I did also buy pink sleepsuits once she was born and she was sure that she was a girl because they never do fully decide till they are out. :rotfl:

plumpmouse

I've had people say he about my DD when she has been in dresses/ totally in pink. I can also remember a couple of people calling my ds a girl when he was in blue. Makes no difference what they wear people still somehow manage to get it wrong :rotfl:


I didn't find out with either of my children. With DS I don't remember being told he was a boy, following a traumatic birth I didn't really have a clue what was going on.

However I have to say one of the nicest memories and experiences I have had in my life was when the midwife held my baby up just as she had been delivered by elective c-section and said look what you have and I said "a girl". It was wonderful and a big surprise as my ds had convinced me the baby was a boy!!!

iluvfreebies

hey op - just wanted to say I know that Antrim def tell you the sex if you want to know and its possible to see at the 20 week scan. They say its 95% accurate and i will certainly be trying to find out what my wee munchkin is when i have mine there on tuesday

Hope everything goes well for your daughter whereever she decides to have her little one x

GobbledyGook

Taxi

I'm glad your daughter is doing well now, hope her morning sickness isn't too bad.

Can I just urge you to encourage your daughter to see any sexing scan as a hunch or educated guess please?

When I had my second child the sonographer was "utterly convinced" that I was having a boy. We hadn't found out with our first baby because I wanted a surprise, but had (in a moment of madness) promised the ex that we would find out if we had another.

After that scan in my head I could picture my son, we discussed and chose a name and although we didn't buy lots because we had neutral stuff from our first we bought a few things (teddy, a wee outfit and a few boy things). Basically we were both totally in love with our son that we could picture and imagine as part of our family. Even though you know it's not 100% you think they have done it so many times so you just believe it without really knowing that you are believing it, if that makes sense.

I had a homebirth and it's just as well really because I had a girl. When I looked at her there was just nothing, no feeling. She wasn't my son, she wasn't the child I'd imagined giving birth to or having in our family. It took a while for me to adjust and I'm glad I wasn't in a busy hospital because I'm not sure I wouldn't have been convinced they'd mixed "my" baby up with this one. It's nice to have a better idea, but ever since then I always urge people to be aware of the fact that it may be wrong and it can have a big impact.

In fact I always urge people to know that you might not always have that surge of love people talk about right away when you have a baby because I think it's something that takes many, many new mothers by surprise.

peachyprice

plumpmouse wrote: »

However I have to say one of the nicest memories and experiences I have had in my life was when the midwife held my baby up just as she had been delivered by elective c-section and said look what you have and I said "a girl". It was wonderful and a big surprise as my ds had convinced me the baby was a boy!!!

Oh I second that, although my little minx did rather spoil the suprise with a very girly squawk the moment she was lifted out.