finding out the sex of an unborn baby

galvanizersbaby

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

I think she had chosen it in her mind but not confirmed it with the hospital.

I'm amazed this is causing arguments, who cares if someone does or doesn't want to know beforehand?[/QUOTE]

I agree - I've found out the sex of all 3 of my children beforehand - I wanted to know - hospital were happy to give their best guess (though I understand that's all it is and not 100% definite)

taxi36

Pollycat wrote: »

I based my comment on the fact that in your original post you said she HAD chosen the hospital but would change that if they wouldn't tell her the baby's sex.
And the fact that you said she WOULD change hospitals.



That's what you initially wrote, it now seems that the facts are different to what you said in your first post.

No.....actually the facts are as they have always been? Until my Daughter actually attends a booking appointment she is not actually booked in anywhere.
Actually , even after she "books in" it is still her porogative to change hospitals if the need arrises.

rachbc

I'm amazed someone has such strong opinions on what someone else does with their pregnancy care when it has no affect whatsoever on them or anyone else. I chose to find out with one of mine and not the other it made no difference.

peachyprice

Evansangel wrote: »

I've heard people say "If you dont find out it gives you an incentive to push it out." But it doesn't really, you have to push it out regardless

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Like we have any choice in the matter.

Rockinbikergal

taxi36 wrote: »

Seems that maybe I didnt word my OP correctly , or maybe you are reading my words and taking a different meaning from it.
My Daughter has not yet been "booked in" to any hospital as yet and so the reason I asked my original question is that she would like to find out the sex of her baby if she can .

In our local area we have 4 reachable hospitals and it seems that most people who are expecting atm or have recently given birth have known before hand the sex of their baby.

We have heard that 3 out of the 4 hospitals will happily tell expectant mums the sex whilst ONE hospital has a policy of not telling.

This hospital is the one my Daughter had considered delivering her baby in and so in my OP I merely meant that given the policy of not telling , my Daughter may change her mind.

If she had already attended her booking appointment then she would not go to the extreme of changing but as she isnt yet booked in , changing her hospital choice wouldnt be a drama.

I recently gave birth in the RVH and they would have told me what I was having had I asked. In fact the radiographer asked before she started to explain the 20 week scan measurements etc as she could see what he was at the time but both my husband and i agreed that as it was a surprise pregnancy we would wait. I had a feeling I was having a boy throughout the pregnancy and I did think it might be nice to have it confirmed but by my choice we decided to wait and see what popped out. If your daughter does go for the RVH they have fantastic facilities and the staff are wonderful there. I was in for 3 days before I gave birth and a further 3 days after I gave birth and I cannot praise the staff highly enough for the care we got throughout the whole pregnancy

HTH

RBG x

Pollycat

taxi36 wrote: »

No.....actually the facts are as they have always been? Until my Daughter actually attends a booking appointment she is not actually booked in anywhere.
Actually , even after she "books in" it is still her porogative to change hospitals if the need arrises.

Maybe you should read your first post.

You use the word 'chosen' as in 'chosen to have it delivered in the Mater'. That is the past tense of the verb to choose and indicates that a choice has already been made.

You used the words 'would change' as in 'has said that she would change which hospital she uses if it means that she finds out sooner.'

If you had said 'she has the choice of 4 hospitals but hasn't booked in anywhere yet' that would have made the situation clear.

If you had said 'she may change her mind on which hospital she will book in to' that would have made the situation clear.

I'm not denying her prerogative to change her mind.

I'm explaining why I made my first comment on this thread.

Ginger_Poodle

My consultant told me that he would scan the bump at my next appointment (I had loads as I was on treatment due to a history of miscarriages) and tell us if we wanted to know. I would not have asked but it didnt matter at the end - she was in a little cot next to me by the time my next appointment came round, so I could just look! And, goodness me, I had wanted a girl more than anything so when she was born I was shrieking "Is it a girl? Is it a girl?" a little too loudly (god bless the magic that is gas & air).

Anyway - it is a personal decision, and no one should be expected to justify it to anyone else what they decide to do. Your baby, your call (just as long as you love him or her!).

PolishBigSpender

Of course it's just me being curious and impatient. Is there a law against being curious and impatient?

OrkneyStar

Am presuming the only 100% way is an amniocentesis- as that is a DNA based test ? Of course I am not sure an amnio just for sexing is justifiable, as there are risks.

galvanizersbaby

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

Of course it's just me being curious and impatient. Is there a law against being curious and impatient?

Nope not last time I checked - it does however sadden some people apparently but I for one can live with that