finding out the sex of an unborn baby

Pollycat

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I do wonder why the OP's relative would change hospital based on baby sex or am I reading this wrong ?

That's the impression I got too, OrkneyStar.

taxi36 wrote: »

My Daughter really wants to know what she is going to have (impatient I know) and has said that she would change which hospital she uses if it means that she finds out sooner.

I know it's none of my business but if it were me, I'd want to go to the hospital with the best ante-natal/maternity care rather than to a hosital that would tell me the sex of my baby before it was born.

Taxi36
Having read your thread about your daughter's pretty traumatic experience on learning she was pregnant, I do appreciate your daughter's impatience, but I do think considering changing hospitals for that reason is a little silly.

MadDogWoman_2

I think one of the reasons is that in some cultures boys are preferred over girls so there is the possiblity of the pregnancy being terminated as it is the "wrong" gender. Consequently hospitals in areas with high populations of this culture have this policy.

I chose not to find out the gender when I was pg, she was a surprise baby after lots of heartache, IMO it's forms part of the whole experience guessing if you're having a boy or girl, but it's everyones personal decision whether they find out or not.

andy.m_2

Apricot wrote: »

but for me there were practical reasons why I wanted to know

Everybody who finds out has a great justification why.

We have a beautiful Son, in the first 6 months or so he wore white, blue, yellow whatever.
At no point did the sex of him within my wife's womb have any bearing whatsoever on whether you would have to buy clothes.

The ONLY reason to want to know is impatience

andy.m_2

MadDogWoman wrote: »

I think one of the reasons is that in some cultures boys are preferred over girls so there is the possiblity of the pregnancy being terminated as it is the "wrong" gender.

People sued the hospitals who got it wrong because they had bought stuff for the wrong sex and painted rooms incorrectly etc.

Chakani

andy.m wrote: »

Everybody who finds out has a great justification why.

We have a beautiful Son, in the first 6 months or so he wore white, blue, yellow whatever.
At no point did the sex of him within my wife's womb have any bearing whatsoever on whether you would have to buy clothes.

The ONLY reason to want to know is impatience

So...? I find it strange that you're so bothered, and especially strange that you're being so judgemental about it on a thread about someone else's pregnancy choices.

Perhaps you found that it was better for you not to know, that's great, and I'm sure no baby cares what colour it is dressed in (my daughter is currently asleep in a blue babygro, and blue grobag, as they were passed down from her older brother - she seems to be sleeping fine regardless :rotfl:)

I chose to find out, I loved knowing that I had a little boy/girl growing in my tummy and I felt that for me part of the bonding was knowing. I didn't ever regret it, but wouldn't have paid for a scan if it wasn't offered.

Both ways are fine, and it really makes no difference in the long run.

Apricot

andy.m wrote: »

The ONLY reason to want to know is impatience

Maybe so, but does it really matter to you that much that other people want to bond with their baby before they are born? To be able to pick one name and to decide on colours for a nursery and first outfits?

As I said I think it's great when people don't find out but it's not exactly going to be the biggest suprise in the world when the baby is born unless a puppy comes out. It's either a girl or boy.

mum2twinsx2

Waiting makes it a nice surprise.

taxi36

andy.m wrote: »

it saddens me that everyone needs to know these days as to the sex of the unborn baby.

Then you must be very easily saddened !

peachyprice

Apricot wrote: »

Maybe so, but does it really matter to you that much that other people want to bond with their baby before they are born? To be able to pick one name and to decide on colours for a nursery and first outfits?

See, this is why I don't think they should tell based purely on a scan. Imagine bonding with your little girl, talking to her every day, naming her, painting her room, choosing her clothes all before she is born, then bam, she's a boy. If there was a safe way of telling 100% then fair enough, but there isn't.

I know every mother will say that it doesn't matter, but the boy you have delivered is not the child you bonded with and prepared for, that has the potential to be very damaging to that boy.

I found out with my twins, just because after the shock of finding out there were two I as least hoped to have one of each (they were two boys)

I didn't find out with by daughter, even though I had an amnio and the sex was in my hospital file in a sealed envelope.

andy.m_2

Apricot wrote: »

Maybe so, but does it really matter to you that much that other people want to bond with their baby before they are born? To be able to pick one name and to decide on colours for a nursery and first outfits?

As I said I think it's great when people don't find out but it's not exactly going to be the biggest suprise in the world when the baby is born unless a puppy comes out. It's either a girl or boy.

So you admit there was no justification then? :rotfl:

Fine if you want to know, but you won't put baby into his nursery until 4 months anyway so that arguement is shot to pieces, bonding is only possible because you know the sex? pur-lease.

I have no problem with people wanting to know, it is up to them, it is the frankly ludicrous reasons they give to justify it as though they "had" to know for some reason or other.

I believe it should be a paid for service offered, that is my gripe.