finding out the sex of an unborn baby

abby1234519

Or in my case, finding out early just prepares me for whats to come. First time mum and all that. I'm only young and I don't think I will find out the gender for any future children I might have. It just helps me get my head around all of it and as I refer to him by the name I have chosed.

Obviously if he turns out to be a she I won't be disappointed, either gender is ok in my opinion!

My hospital said its 75% to be a boy, he wouldn't open his legs but I am pretty sure there was male genitalia on the screen!

taxi36

Pollycat wrote: »

That's the impression I got too, OrkneyStar.



I know it's none of my business but if it were me, I'd want to go to the hospital with the best ante-natal/maternity care rather than to a hosital that would tell me the sex of my baby before it was born.

Taxi36
Having read your thread about your daughter's pretty traumatic experience on learning she was pregnant, I do appreciate your daughter's impatience, but I do think considering changing hospitals for that reason is a little silly.

Seems that maybe I didnt word my OP correctly , or maybe you are reading my words and taking a different meaning from it.
My Daughter has not yet been "booked in" to any hospital as yet and so the reason I asked my original question is that she would like to find out the sex of her baby if she can .

In our local area we have 4 reachable hospitals and it seems that most people who are expecting atm or have recently given birth have known before hand the sex of their baby.

We have heard that 3 out of the 4 hospitals will happily tell expectant mums the sex whilst ONE hospital has a policy of not telling.

This hospital is the one my Daughter had considered delivering her baby in and so in my OP I merely meant that given the policy of not telling , my Daughter may change her mind.

If she had already attended her booking appointment then she would not go to the extreme of changing but as she isnt yet booked in , changing her hospital choice wouldnt be a drama.

Evansangel

I had to know. Im impatient and curious and its hardly a big surprise, its either a boy or a girl.

(Edit: My hospital offers to tell you but i paid for it 4wks earlier)

I've heard people say "If you dont find out it gives you an incentive to push it out." But it doesn't really, you have to push it out regardless

Those who choose a surprise are much more patient than myself

taxi36

Just on a further note. I have an illness that whilst not directly linked to males , it is a hell of a lot more common in males.

My own son was tested for it when he was born and I would expect that if my Daughter delivers a Son then he too will need tested.

ViolaLass

Apricot wrote: »

I think it would be a lovely suprise not to find out but for me there were practical reasons why I wanted to know (eg. My sister had a lot of girls things which I have borrowed but I would have had to buy it all if I was having a boy).

Why would you have had to buy new for a boy? Does the colour of his babygro matter that much?

Would a boy really be so upset if he were dressed in pink or a girl in blue? Would you bond with him/her less or find them more difficult to love?

GarnetLady

And why exactly should it be a paid for service? I think you'll find when they're looking at a baby that closely that chances are they'll see anyway.

As it is, they don't tell us here and I did pay for a scan, the findings of which were actually confirmed by the consultant who did my anomaly scan. I don't consider it a flimsy reason to find out because I want to bond or be prepared, we've budgeted for this baby and got things in sales that we wouldn't have been able to do in time had we not found out.

You must have a pretty sad life to get so worked up about other people wanting to know. After all I don't see many people going around saying 'ooh it's terrible, imagine not finding out the sex' do you?

And if it's that important to someone's culture that they have a boy, I think you'd find that they would pay for a private scan regardless of whether the NHS told them. And it's also why hospitals have disclaimers in case they do get it wrong.

Pollycat

taxi36 wrote: »

Seems that maybe I didnt word my OP correctly , or maybe you are reading my words and taking a different meaning from it.
My Daughter has not yet been "booked in" to any hospital as yet and so the reason I asked my original question is that she would like to find out the sex of her baby if she can .

In our local area we have 4 reachable hospitals and it seems that most people who are expecting atm or have recently given birth have known before hand the sex of their baby.

We have heard that 3 out of the 4 hospitals will happily tell expectant mums the sex whilst ONE hospital has a policy of not telling.

This hospital is the one my Daughter had considered delivering her baby in and so in my OP I merely meant that given the policy of not telling , my Daughter may change her mind.

If she had already attended her booking appointment then she would not go to the extreme of changing but as she isnt yet booked in , changing her hospital choice wouldnt be a drama.

I based my comment on the fact that in your original post you said she HAD chosen the hospital but would change that if they wouldn't tell her the baby's sex.
And the fact that you said she WOULD change hospitals.

taxi36 wrote: »

My Daughter is expecting a baby and had chosen to have it delivered in the Mater as this is where her Mum gave birth to all of our Children but she has been told by a friend that the Mater have a policy of NOT revealing the sex of the unborn baby incase thet get it wrong.

My Daughter really wants to know what she is going to have (impatient I know) and has said that she would change which hospital she uses if it means that she finds out sooner.

That's what you initially wrote, it now seems that the facts are different to what you said in your first post.

LittleMissAspie

I think she had chosen it in her mind but not confirmed it with the hospital.

I'm amazed this is causing arguments, who cares if someone does or doesn't want to know beforehand?

galvanizersbaby

ViolaLass wrote: »

Why would you have had to buy new for a boy? Does the colour of his babygro matter that much?

Would a boy really be so upset if he were dressed in pink or a girl in blue? Would you bond with him/her less or find them more difficult to love?

To be honest my view is that with many newborns it can be quite tricky to distingish the sex just by looking - at least peeps have a head start if baby is wearing a gender specific colour.

At the risk of opening a can of worms I think if people want to dress boys in blue boyish stuff and girls in pink girly stuff there shouldn't be a problem

Apricot

ViolaLass wrote: »

Why would you have had to buy new for a boy? Does the colour of his babygro matter that much?

Would a boy really be so upset if he were dressed in pink or a girl in blue? Would you bond with him/her less or find them more difficult to love?

Yes it matters to me that people know what sex my baby is. It matters that my child's first outfit is one that I have lovingly chosen with her in mind. I wouldn't want my son having a pink bouncy chair, pink baby bath and a pink pushchair - Im not saying there is anything wrong with that but I don't want it

A baby boy may not be upset if you dressed him in pink day in day out but try and see how he feels when he looks back at baby photos of himself and sees everything around him is pink. He's going to think you wished for a girl.

As I said if I couldn't have found out the sex I would have paid for a private scan but I could find out so I did.

If the scan was wrong - well that'll be the biggest surprise of all!:D