Tips for newly cohabiting couple...

split_second

haha the side of the bed thing, if you both had double beds you will probably both want the middle

leandygandy

split_second wrote: »

haha the side of the bed thing, if you both had double beds you will probably both want the middle

This is very true - we were both 'starfishes' and soon learnt to sleep on one side, although it took weeks of waking up covered in odd bruises before we realised we must have been fighting each other in our sleep :rotfl:

iamana1ias

Person_one wrote: »

I hate to bring it up, but do they have access to joint monies in the event of the death or serious illness of the other?

They're quite well off and their money is spread out all over the place. Neither of them will have any problems.

My point was that their money is theirs (jointly) but they've never needed a joint account to manage it.

Person_one

iamana1ias wrote: »

They're quite well off and their money is spread out all over the place. Neither of them will have any problems.

My point was that their money is theirs (jointly) but they've never needed a joint account to manage it.

To each their own of course, but plenty of couples who aren't well off could find themselves in trouble if one partner's account was frozen or they were in a coma and couldn't access it! Its worth thinking about that kind of stuff when deciding on plans for finances.

kr15snw

Hmmm if your getting Sky get multi room so you can say 'right im going upstairs! Sod this!!'.

We no longer have multi room or sky+ (box broke, can't be bothered to buy a new one as we're moving soon) and OMG I HATE HATE HATE not being able to tape my rubbish (I'll admit it, I watch pure and utter rubbish, lol). So now we tend to argue over that ALOT. Hehe. Plus I don't get home in time for Neighbours and struggle to catch this now

Sid_Wolf

get some earplugs if either of you are snorers, number one thing that starts arguements between me and OH is me nudging him in the night because he is keeping me awake

ElleR

Ooo this is very exciting, good luck! :beer:
I couldn't wait to move in with my bf. We'd already lived together at uni (separate rooms though) so knew most of the odd habits but we found things got much better when it was just us two. Compromise is a must and adjusting things as you go along. We used to do our own ironing and both go to the supermarket. But him wearing creased clothes and me being dragged to the supermarket every weekend was no fun for either so now I do the ironing and he goes food shopping! We both enjoy each chore (strange, some might say:rotfl:) so it's much better.
We split everything else, both cook, he used to wash up and I'd dry up but we swapped one day and it's stuck! Same with the side of the bed we sleep on, lol. Some things might need work and discussion but once things are sorted and running smoothly it will be great.

Mojisola

Read this site thoroughly - https://www.advicenow.org.uk/living-together/

Mojisola

split_second wrote: »

bills staying in my name, no point changing and as long as i get roughly half, i'm not fussed.

Won't that cause problems when asked for a utility bill as evidence of identity?

We have them split between the two of us.

donquine

Mojisola wrote: »

Won't that cause problems when asked for a utility bill as evidence of identity?

Good point.

We also have both of our names put on our bills so if there is a problem, either one of us can ring up. If the bills were in one person's name only, the other wouldn't be able to deal with any issues and sometimes one of us will find it much more convenient to deal with something than the other (e.g. different days off, etc).

A joint bank account will make the money side of things easier for all couples with ok credit ratings, but as long as both individuals have access to a stash of savings, it won't be a disaster if a joint account isn't set up.