child maintainance with out contact

scottishchick27

mummyoftwomonkeys wrote: »

I can see where your coming from that you don't want to upset your kids but why did you have to cut off all contact? why couldn't you have been up front with your husband and said that you needed to live apart because you were scared what you might do but would still be around to see your kids? just leaving will mess your kids up even more. My mum walked out on my dad, she didn't leave because of mental problems but because she put her love life 1st and me and my brother 2nd, she didn't cut off all ties but hasn't been around much at all and its really messed things up! sorry but I think you are making a huge mistake, you brought those kids into the world you need to be there for them! Im actually quite annoyed tbh

Why? It's not really any of your business if the op has felt that is her only option. Why resurrect a three month old thread when you could've just continued to slate her in the abortion thread? :mad:

scottishchick27

Cross posted with There goes Trouble who has put what I wanted to say so much more eloquently

helphelphelphelp

with regards to a bank account, i thiught the on line ones had a sort code of their own so your location would not be known at all

pinknfluffy0

this is a pretty old thread, I am now in contact with my husband and am paying him nearly half what I earn, I am also in contact by email with my oldest 2 children.

January20

There_Goes_Trouble wrote: »

It's not your place to be annoyed.
It's not your place to tell the OP she's making a mistake.
It's not your place to compare her situation with yours when they are clearly totally different.

If you read this thread properly you will see the OP feels her presence in her childrens lives is detrimental to their well being.

If you notice the date of this thread it is 3 months old, and if you read more recent posts from the OP you will see that she is begining to re-establish some contact with her children.

I think that there is a whole lot more to this thread than the OP wishes to share and since her original question was relating to how to send money to her children, it was not necessary for her to share such intimate details of her personal life. She was not asking for opinions about whether or not she should have left home and we readers are in no position to make judgement on that aspect of her life.

Just because you feel your Mother should not have left you, doesn't mean the OP in this thread should not have left her children.

In another thread the OP mentions suffering severe depression. I mention this here because the OP has put the info out there herself. Now, I am in no way suggesting that these stories are anything like the OP's situation, but if you google 'depressed mother kills her children' you will find stories all over the internet. Now you tell me that those children wouldn't have been better off if their mothers had had the courage to admit to their illness and leave home to protect their children.

OP if you find any of my post offensive please let me know and I will delete it. I am just feeling very annoyed on your behalf with the previous post!!

DO NOT delete your post on any account! I think it expresses very eloquantly what a lot of us think! It is certainly what I think. Thank you!

ETA: Pink you shouldn't feel you have to justify yourself to posters who are quite simply ignorant and nasty!