Should I pay for this?

DavidHayton

The "boys" are 16 years old! They are old enough to sort this out between themselves. I wouldn't be paying, that's for sure.

David

themull1

I wouldn't pay either.!!

LJM

what did his friends mum actually say to you did she say she wanted it replaced

jellyhead

Are they friends? Do they hang around with the same kids?

If it was likely to cause a rift between friends and possibly make my son unpopular with the others then I'd pay even if I thought the other mum was being ridiculous.

If it's just a kid he knows at school and he isn't going to be spending much time with him socially, then if my 'child' was confident enough to shrug it off and buffer all the bullying about being poor and a cheapskate, then I might let him brazen it out.

I think the other boy's mum is being a bit inappropriate though, to be honest. Is she very protective?

FatVonD

Nicki wrote: »

My experience is that most people who can afford it easily, would not ask others to pay to replace items damaged by accident, so although the top was expensive and maybe more than you would pay for your children's clothes, I would guess the other child's family can't afford to replace it. It may have been a present or something the child saved up to buy.

Totally agreed!

mandi

Both of my sons have had clothes damaged while playing football /rugby , Its life. I would never ask another parent to pay and trust me I am not loaded ,

giddy-aunt

LJM wrote: »

what did his friends mum actually say to you did she say she wanted it replaced

Hi, Well she came to my house with the ripped shirt and proceeded to show me the rip...then went on to say that her son had said that my son,when he had told me about the texts that I hadnt believed him (unfounded as I hadnt had time to have a chat about the ins and outs of it),so I think thats whats happening is that her son is making sure that I know about it ....Im really not sure as then she went on to say that, she -mum-doesnt want my son to have a telling off for ripping the lads shirt-it was very confusing....

Suzanne_Louise

It was her son's decision to play in that t-shirt, so really, it's his fault! Clothes are often ripped whilst playing rugby, and if he plays often, he should know this. If they'd been in a competitive match on a pitch, would they be asking their opponents to replace kit?!

I wouldn't be paying, if I were you.

giddy-aunt

jellyhead wrote: »

Are they friends? Do they hang around with the same kids?

If it was likely to cause a rift between friends and possibly make my son unpopular with the others then I'd pay even if I thought the other mum was being ridiculous.

If it's just a kid he knows at school and he isn't going to be spending much time with him socially, then if my 'child' was confident enough to shrug it off and buffer all the bullying about being poor and a cheapskate, then I might let him brazen it out.

I think the other boy's mum is being a bit inappropriate though, to be honest. Is she very protective?

Hi, They are all friends.The other lads that were with them couldnt believe that the lad was making such a fuss and demanded my son the full cost of the shirt.
The friends have said to my son that they would never expect someone else to pay for something that the lad was happy to join in with and one of the roughest players to boot!
I wasnt there so Im not going to comment about how rough the game was etc.
Im not sure about the mum being overprotective (maybe shes having a hard time with a foot stomping 16 year old).

I would just like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for their responses.

make_me_wise

Personally I would offer to pay half of the cost to replace it. It does seem daft to wear such an expensive item of clothing when joining in with a rough game. You would hope that at that price it would be much better quality clothing.

I wasn't there when it happened obviously, so dont know how responsible your son was for the damage. By paying half the replacement cost each boy is taking their share of responsibility for what happened.