Should I pay for this?

clairec79

It's not uncommon for professionals to have shirts ripped in rugby (not every game sure but not unheard of)


so I don't think you can say that it's something that should never have happened unless your son did something wrong.

I wouldn't have asked if it was my son's shirt that got ripped (although he'd have had a massive lecture off of me and I wouldn't replace it for him, at least not straight away) but as they had I may pay towards it but certainly not the whole amount

bulchy

If my son went out to play rugby in a new £25 t-shirt, I would warn him that if it got damaged in anyway, it would be his own fault for wearing said top to play rugby, that way, if he came home with it damaged I could then say 'I told you so' ds plays foorball and wears old tops for practice and the teams top for games, he wouldnt dream of wearing something new and expensive as hes been warned plenty times while growing up that he must take responsibility for his own stuff. However if a friend maliciously damaged any of his posessions then I would back him up
Sue

onlyroz

I think that your son should pay, or at least offer to go halves. It will be a valuable lesson learned.

DVardysShadow

hermanmunster wrote: »

No - they should be playing in £3 shirts from matalan - then no need to get stressed!

Agree. Offer £1.50 as fair halves and offer this out of good will rather than duty.

janthemum

No way would I pay!

Googlewhacker

1984ReturnsForReal wrote: »

Halves.............

best advice yet, both peoples fault so both pay half

floss2

USM wrote: »

Unless my understanding of rugby as a sport has slipped recently, there is no move or part of play which involves hanging onto someone's shirt....

Beast wrote: »

..... Rugby is a rough game but played correctly clothing shouldn't be damaged.

Sorry, but I have been watching professional rugby in both codes for over 15 years, and have often enjoyed the sight of a well-formed chap changing his shorts on the field, or having to have a shirt with 2 sleeves fetched from the changing rooms. If you watch any televised games, damage can often been seen - in fact, the latest trends for tackling at our club seems to be "hang on to his shirt till he falls down" or "grab his shorts so he can't run away"

Nixxx wrote: »

As it was both their fault, I'd pay half.

I agree, and have done so with my 2 sons when they have inadvertenly damaged someone's else's property.

giddy-aunt

Thank you all for the various replies.
My son and his friends are all rugby player for a local team/school so they do know that the rules etc,but this was during one evening down the park,so rules etc wont come into it IMHO.
They are 16 year olds just to clear the age up.
Personally, I would have to agree with a few here stating that if my DS came home with a nearly new/ not cheap,ripped top,then I would have to be blunt and tell him tough-you are responsible for wearing it and it is not a top made for playing rugby...ie pulled etc.
I would never dream of taking the top to the other mum and expect to be paid in full for it!
I do feel morally obliged to pay-but only half.

luxor4t

globetraveller wrote: »

..... Can't think that I see many ripped shirts in rugby games.

Beast wrote: »

....... Rugby is a rough game but played correctly clothing shouldn't be damaged.

USM wrote: »

Unless my understanding of rugby as a sport has slipped recently, there is no move or part of play which involves hanging onto someone's shirt....

:rotfl:Looks like the umpteen teams DH played for weren't playing "properly" then!


More recently, "One of the enduring memories of the tournament - apart from Jonny Wilkinson's winning drop goal - was the sight of England players having the shirts literally ripped from their backs." http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/sport/article-9103614-nike-to-fix-rip-off-shirts.do etc etc

Edit: good compromise OP.

giddy-aunt

liney wrote: »

Is his mom actually aware that the T-shirt was ripped playing Rugby? Does she understand it was a complete accident, and that he may even have grass stains and or cuts/bruises?

I might be inclined to offer him £10 towards a replacement, but i'd not be spending £25. If it was that important to him, then he shouldn't have been playing a contact sport in it.

Hi, Yes she is aware that they were playing rugby and that she knows my son would not have been malicious in any way and did say that to me, but they were both competative-both.

I feel as if the other mum doesnt want her son to have to take any responsibility whatsoever.-they are both 16 for goodness sake.