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thriftyscotslass

40somethingmum wrote: »

Thrifty .... I am in the same place as you at the moment.
My DS1 is 11 and is on the autistic spectrum with losts of OCD issues. He is starting secondary school in September and I am terrified for him . We attended an induction type evening at the school last night and it scared me half to death. They are very strict , give 2 hrs of homework every night etc etc . I am not sure how he will cope with it all but he strangely enough is very excited about it all ( which is good) but I feel traumatised.

I suppose we have to just get on with it .

Love

40SMXx

(((Hugs))) 40SM, my ds entered secondary school with 3 level 5s and a label of being quiet, shy and slightly "odd". Things just went downhill fast for him from that point on. He was officially diagnosed at 17 after 5 years of CAMHS, psychiatrists, educational psychologists, mental health professionals - you name it, we've got a badge for it somewhere. He hung on, attended 25% of his GCSEs courses, took his exams in a room by himself and obtained 6Bs and 4Cs. He left 3 months into 6th form as he literally could not cope any more, we were dealing with suicide ideation at that point. The system failed my son and imho continues to fail him.

I am not typing this up as scaremongering (honest) - many schools are nowadays geared up to dealing with ASD and many ASD children fly through school and college and it is a really positive experience for them. However, there are instances (like ours) where schools are not geared up and you need to get your elbows out and fight, fight and fight again. Good luck, Thriftyxxx

Bitsy_Beans

40somethingmum wrote: »

Thrifty .... I am in the same place as you at the moment.
My DS1 is 11 and is on the autistic spectrum with losts of OCD issues. He is starting secondary school in September and I am terrified for him . We attended an induction type evening at the school last night and it scared me half to death. They are very strict , give 2 hrs of homework every night etc etc . I am not sure how he will cope with it all but he strangely enough is very excited about it all ( which is good) but I feel traumatised.

I suppose we have to just get on with it .

Love

40SMXx

Perhaps he'll like it because it's predictable? Mind you I would be a bit about 2 hours homework. Honestly the kids spend all day in school and then expected to do a futher 2 hours? Sorry just a personal bug bear of mine

Willow92 wrote: »

Oh and now more negativity about my dog walking...

Perhaps in your head tell them to !!!!!! but outwardly smile sweetly and say "you're entitled to your opinion however mine is actually different. If I don't every try at something how can I possibly know if it will work or not." And breathe, there will always be someone who gets on your wick, just tends to be worse if it's family

Triciaxx

I'm too late posting for Marru to read my 'Good luck' message but the vibes will still get through.

40somethingmum. My Aspie, OCD grandson is doing well in senior school most of the time. He went into the 'special unit' at first and can still go back any time he wants to if it gets to be too much. Not only is the school doing well, though they moved him during junior school twice till they got the right school, but my DIL is always ready to "take names and kick a*s" when needed. It's a difficult balance but she says she got no where by being nice so she feels she has nothing to lose.

I can't help wondering how many kids fell through the cracks in the system in years gone by. I remember a boy at my junior school who showed all the signs but the spectrum hadn't been recognised then and he ended up in Borstal. So sad.

Memory_Girl

OK Willow - short list of things people told me I would never be able to do


Read .......... Erm Arbiter for World Speed Reading Championship:rotfl:

Write - three books, one script and counting:D

Pass any exams - 10 OGrades, 5 Highers, 3 CSYS. 1 ONC, I HND - Oh yes and I have written courses for Universites now

Drive - OK this was my Dad and still have issues with left and right:D

Work my Dream Job as a Stage Manager - at one time I was the youngest SM in the West End

Live in London - did and loved it thanks!!!

Have kids - who are these two lovely young men?

Survive as a Single Mum - I'm here aren't I?????


Now don't get me wrong - I still have an Auntie who thinks I should go and get a proper job:rotfl::rotfl: The thing is I have learned to say "thanks for that, will think about it! then go on and carve out MY OWN LIFE!!!

I bet of you ask around here you will find we are all pretty much surrounded by negativity -the only difference is that mostly we decide not to play that game.

The great stuff belongs to unreasonable people - and I'm sticking to it:D

MG

PS Fingers crossed for you Marru

Willow92

Thanks for that Memory Girl

greenbee

Bathroom work booked in for August first, so I now need to choose tiles, bathroom cabinet and one of those illuminated magnifying mirrors you get in hotels... So one major frog well on the way to being sorted

thriftyscotslass

MG - really good post and that is the trick isn't it, don't listen to other people ( a mental !!!!!! is essential), keep pushing and fighting for what you believe in Willow don't give up.

Greenbee - an illuminated, magnifying mirror - ooh the reflection always scares me :rotfl:.

Triciaxx wrote: »

I can't help wondering how many kids fell through the cracks in the system in years gone by. I remember a boy at my junior school who showed all the signs but the spectrum hadn't been recognised then and he ended up in Borstal. So sad.

My dh is an undiagnosed ASD but very mild compared to ds. The tradegy is his mother (who I never met), ds's grandmother. She most probably would also have been ASD, she was institutionalised in a mental asylum and given ECT to "cure" her. It's scary when you think that was only 40 years ago and the attitude was lock 'em up, out of sight, out of mind... but to listen to some people, that was the good old days :eek:

greenbee

thriftyscotslass wrote: »

Greenbee - an illuminated, magnifying mirror - ooh the reflection always scares me :rotfl:.

scares me too ... But I need something with decent lighting to do my make up in on the rare occasions I wear it!

thriftyscotslass

Memory_Girl wrote: »

I bet of you ask around here you will find we are all pretty much surrounded by negativity -the only difference is that mostly we decide not to play that game.

And when we do, we come on here, vent, get a hug and then get our @rses kicked (in the nicest possible way) to move forward positively. Seriously, if I didn't have here, I would be lost - so many people I know in rl just want to sit and wallow.

clairewop

Has anyone used the wordpress site mr F sorted for me??

Would anyone be able to tell me how to use it??