Want house left empty by old lady who is in care.

suki1001

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

That completely depends on the situation and the person, surely?

My nanny's father has been living with his wife and daughter for the last 6 years. His wife has now died, and he wants to go into a nursing home, because his daughter works, and he wants the company during the day. His choice.

Some people also need round-the-clock, specialist care, that can't be done at home.

Because no-one has the time for him at home. That's why he wants to go in a home. Perhaps he feels in the way. That's very noble of him.
I know plenty of people who have round the clock care at home. Depends on the situation. Doesn't make it right though. At the end of the day we all make the selfish descision to not full time care for our loved ones. The majority of it is for selfish reasons. Myself included. I could be really altruistic and care for my nan full time, but I choose to work and look after my young family. It doesn't make it right. Afterall living in a home means her quality of life is far poorer than it would have been if she had managed to stay at home. Her independence is lost and she's become institutionalised. Lets not romance the situation. It's rubbish this happen, yet people are vindicating someone who's interested in buying a house. Shoving grandma/grandad in a home is worse, beleive me I know.

Can't believe people are bothered someone offered to save ea fees and mortified someone suggested that they wouldn't have to tidy up. Ok timing might be a bit harsh, but i think they just want top prices for the houses, because the family are greedy, that's why they don't want to accept first offer. Nothing to do with other people being insensitive. To do with getting what they want.

Ought to have a good hard look at yourselves, instead of pointing the finger at other people.

Yorkie1

Good heavens suki, you're making this post all about you and your family history. Stop attacking people for having a different perspective. You have imposed your own views onto what others' experiences have been and re-interpreted them. Who are you to tell someone you don't know, that their relative's choice is made out of guilt rather than personal preference? It's insulting to the poster and to their relative. It's you who needs to wind their neck in.

There is nothing wrong with anyone wanting to get the best possible price for the house; it isn't greed. If the money is going to fund nursing home fees then there is every justification for wanting to achieve the maximum price. £20-50K makes a lot of difference.

Londonsu

suki1001 wrote: »

Because no-one has the time for him at home. That's why he wants to go in a home. Perhaps he feels in the way. That's very noble of him.
I know plenty of people who have round the clock care at home. Depends on the situation. Doesn't make it right though. At the end of the day we all make the selfish descision to not full time care for our loved ones. The majority of it is for selfish reasons. Myself included. I could be really altruistic and care for my nan full time, but I choose to work and look after my young family. It doesn't make it right. Afterall living in a home means her quality of life is far poorer than it would have been if she had managed to stay at home. Her independence is lost and she's become institutionalised. Lets not romance the situation. It's rubbish this happen, yet people are vindicating someone who's interested in buying a house. Shoving grandma/grandad in a home is worse, beleive me I know.

Can't believe people are bothered someone offered to save ea fees and mortified someone suggested that they wouldn't have to tidy up. Ok timing might be a bit harsh, but i think they just want top prices for the houses, because the family are greedy, that's why they don't want to accept first offer. Nothing to do with other people being insensitive. To do with getting what they want.

Ought to have a good hard look at yourselves, instead of pointing the finger at other people.

I would suggest you google deprivation of assets and how it affects means testing for care home fees - as I said in my own post, the sale was stopped by the LOCAL AUTHORITY not the relatives wanting more money if anyone is greedy its the LA

poppysarah

My only experience in this area is of my OH's aunt's house after she went into care. The estate agents priced it what I thought was shockingly high and some bloke came along and offered a bit less as "he wanted it for his son"... anyway he did it up and it went on the market ... and didn't sell. He must have spent a fortune doing it up as he remodelled it a fair but... I assume he either rents it out now or actually let his son live there like he said...

He'd have got the house at the price he paid *regardless* of what excuse he gave as it was pretty near the peak price ever paid on the street.

I'm not sure how OH's mum would have felt about her sister's house being fought over or having notes put through the door - but she knew it had to be sold and wanted a fair price for her sister's care charges.

The emotional bit is emptying it all out and sorting through a lifetime's possessions.

Jinx

If the OP is known to the family then I am sure the note will be interpreted in the best light, that they want to note interest in the house but not intrude....

pogofish

chrisfenton7 wrote: »

Is there a process we can go to in order to make an approach to buy it.

We understand from neighbours that she has been taken into care and will not be coming home.

Maybe you should start learning about squatting?

http://www.redpepper.org.uk/squatting-for-beginners/

http://www.squatter.org.uk/

C_Mababejive

suki1001 wrote: »

Jeez, you're comparing this person to your own money grabbing relatives, because the op put a note through the door? Give the guy a break! He/she's interested in the house and wanted to express that fact. Family truely are the worst, this person is more or less a stranger wanting to buy a house. If he'd have said "we're thinking of mugging an old lady", I could understand the responses. I think the only reason why there has been no response is nothing to do with sentiment or emotions, its to do with the fact that there is no family about or any other person to deal with the note. If it goes to the EA, then maybe they'll see the note, can't see how they'd be offended, they'll be pleased.

You missed the first line,it was a friend,not a relative and she was offended because she was grief stricken at the loss of her father and all she could see was others selfishly trying to look after their own interests with feigned concern for her.

C_Mababejive

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Where there's a will, there's a relative.....

I knew it was something like that..!

No more wills for me. My only hope is Heir Hunters...