Want house left empty by old lady who is in care.

suki1001

DVardysShadow wrote: »

Eh?? Oh, crime. Bring back hanging and flogging.

I'm merely putting everybody's reaction into perspective. It is a crime the way we deal with our elderly in this country, shoving our old into nursing homes, to become institutionalised. Nursing homes are not nice places and no substitute for family. Compared to someone putting a note through the door because they're interested in a house. If you'd have read my other posts, the hanging thing was mentioned. Typical Jeremy Kyle audience waiting to boo the baddie.

C_Mababejive

You could do as at least two people did to a friend at the bun fight after her fathers funeral.

Just sidle up to them,express your condolences..and mention the house/slip them your phone number.

One even suggested it would save money on estate agents and there would be no need to clear it out/tidy it up.

Well they do say..where theres a will...theres money to be made.

ILW

I would have thought that at some point, if she, the family or whoever stands to inherit wish to sell, an EA board will go up. You can then make an offer.

suki1001

C_Mababejive wrote: »

You could do as at least two people did to a friend at the bun fight after her fathers funeral.

Just sidle up to them,express your condolences..and mention the house/slip them your phone number.

One even suggested it would save money on estate agents and there would be no need to clear it out/tidy it up.

Well they do say..where theres a will...theres money to be made.

Jeez, you're comparing this person to your own money grabbing relatives, because the op put a note through the door? Give the guy a break! He/she's interested in the house and wanted to express that fact. Family truely are the worst, this person is more or less a stranger wanting to buy a house. If he'd have said "we're thinking of mugging an old lady", I could understand the responses. I think the only reason why there has been no response is nothing to do with sentiment or emotions, its to do with the fact that there is no family about or any other person to deal with the note. If it goes to the EA, then maybe they'll see the note, can't see how they'd be offended, they'll be pleased.

Mrs_Arcanum

One point surely would be on going nursing home costs (unless in Scotland). Sale of any property owned is usually required to fund this.

Chyna-s

googler wrote: »

Seconded.

An image of circling vultures comes to mind....

Parasite was the first thing that came to my mind.

googler

Mrs_Arcanum wrote: »

One point surely would be on going nursing home costs (unless in Scotland).

What do you see as being different in Scotland?

jh2009

suki1001 wrote: »

So you prefer the leave the house to fall to bits approach? Leave it empty, no-one should live in it approach. I would have seen no-one who did that a vulture. I had enough going on with my Grandmother, without having to deal with a house, I was more bothered about my Grandmother, if someone had have made an offer before the house went on the market, that would've really helped, even if we'd have had to have waited, especially if it was going to be used as a family home. So interesting it's seen as vulture mentality. In fact lets hike the price and costs up even more by using an EA, it's only someone else's money (ie - Grandma's). There's plenty of vultures from the other side of the house sale. Family are usually the worst, they usually don't want to accept the first offer because they won't get as much inheritance as they'd hoped especially as now most of it will go on care home fees, now that's what I find disgraceful.

Your circumstances may have been different, but my gran saw her home as like her own little kingdom. She wanted to live there until the end of her life, but sadly last year her health declined and it became impossible.

A tactic they use when they put someone like this into a home is that they tell them their stay will only be temporary. One resident in her home had been there for 9 years, and had been telling everyone he was going home next week for the last 9 years!

Selling the home in way means that theres no way back. Its demoralising to them if you tell them. Its a home that also holds family memories to, and the older persons lifetime posessions.

We had 2 approaches.

1. From a relative who said that she had always wanted a house like my grans. However she had never visited in my grans 70 years living there, and had a son who was known to be a property developer.

2. A neighbour who said my grans house was "perfect" for his mother. But he was also in the building trade, and there were 2 similar homes within sight of my grans home that had been for sale for months that would've been just as suitable for his mother, so why did he not buy them?

All this happened within days of moving my gran to a home, which was quite an emotional and difficult period for the family. These approaches were totally unwelcome.

Of course you don't want to see the house empty and falling down, but at a difficult time for our family we did not need people interferring in this way, regardless of whether how genuine such an approach may have been.

neverdespairgirl

suki1001 wrote: »

It is a crime the way we deal with our elderly in this country, shoving our old into nursing homes, to become institutionalised. Nursing homes are not nice places and no substitute for family.

That completely depends on the situation and the person, surely?

My nanny's father has been living with his wife and daughter for the last 6 years. His wife has now died, and he wants to go into a nursing home, because his daughter works, and he wants the company during the day. His choice.

Some people also need round-the-clock, specialist care, that can't be done at home.

neverdespairgirl

C_Mababejive wrote: »

Well they do say..where theres a will...theres money to be made.

Where there's a will, there's a relative.....