Problems with Neighbours

Gambit

J_i_m wrote: »

Supermarkets and carparks are ideal grounds for inconsiderateness, always raises my blood pressure :P It seems to be more of a cultural thing though really, I'm not convinced that people go out of their way to be inconsiderate or anti-social, it's just that it simply doesn't occur to many people how their actions effect others.

The problem is, confronting such a thing so often makes it worse.

Completely agree with you Jim although do you not think that by saying nothing, these people will just carry on doing what they want as no one has ever said anything to them. This is especially true for those who dont think about how their actions affect others - maybe by pointing things out you could just make them stop and think about it and they won't do act that way next time... or not, but I live in hope

Gambit

Amanita wrote: »

You have my sympathy OP. I am lucky enough to have a house with a private garden and no children within earshot ( and that was an absolute requirement- I've served my time listening to the screams as well).

Thank you! Although the problem is that you cant control who moves in next door. My neighbours tell me of how quite things were two years ago before that fmaily moved in and they have been in the flats for 15 years!!

Amanita wrote: »

I find it sad that the "rights" of people with young children are more important than the "rights" of the rest of us without them. As a child I was never allowed to annoy the neighbours and my own children were brought up to be considerate of others.

Added to that, kids can go to school and say/do what they like to teachers knowing they cant do anything as all their powers have been taken away!

Tinkaf1

I have 3 children and I can understand how the noise from a neighbour can wind you up. My neighbours at my parents house had a barbeque one evening, we had all been sitting out enjoying the evening sun with my parents, but the noise coming from the adults and kids next door was terrible! Kids were actually less of a problem than the drunken adults who were swearing and being loud. LOL! Had to usher my children inside to protect their ears. My Mother was very annoyed that they were so inconsiderate.
We now live in an area with bungalows all around. I tell my children they can play in the garden, but no screaming loud or they have to come in. I worry they will disturb others.
I see my home as a sanctuary and your behaviour shouldn't impact on others and their enjoyment in their sanctuary. Making a din, parking cars in the wrong place, putting a trampoline next to the boundary so a head bounces about the fence every 3 seconds for hours on end etc. is unacceptable. I would move somewhere quieter if I were you.

bitemebankers

Tinkaf1 wrote: »

Kids were actually less of a problem than the drunken adults who were swearing and being loud.

For what it's worth, I've found this to be far more of a problem than kids. The latter are usually in bed fairly early, but the adults go on disturbing the peace all night with their drunken antics.

Even then, as long as it's not every night, surely a little tolerance could prevail?

Racky_Roo

before you decide to make a formal complaint, remember that any issues with neighbours have to be declared on the forms when selling - you don't want to find that you can't sell a couple of years down the road because of this issue.

whitesatin

Yes, thanks, enjoying the sunshine despite the children playing in their gardens. We bought/moved in during the winter so this is our first experience. Kids scream these days, that's a fact. When my own two were little they were not allowed to scream but these days it happens, along with all the other noises that are now acceptable, lawnmowers on Sundays, trampolines, music in gardens etc. It is all part of life these days, we are all affected and all contribute. It can be annoying at times but we have to get on with it.

I was sitting on my garden swing seat yesterday, enjoying the late afternoon sunshine, I had managed to block out the children playing around me. They were no outrageous by any means. All of a sudden a woman's voice shouted for them to keep the noise down as her son was trying to sleep (4.30pm). The poor children went indoors, probably quite taken aback. What on earth was that about? Even with shift workers, they have to learn to deal with noise. Babies sleep through everything.

I have two little grandchildren who scream with delight when they visit and play in the garden. I try to keep the noise down but they are so excited.

I am waiting for the lady to come and knock and my door to ask them to be quiet. I will ask her for some tips maybe.

Live and let live, I say. Summer is an outdoor time, just make the most of it.

la_farfallina

A gentleman with Tourette's syndrome used to live in a flat opposite me.

During summer there were very regular outbursts of "F"^k off you f*!"@*g C""t" (from him, not me) and I would have welcomed the noise of kids gaily laughing and playing instead.

My radical solution at the time was to keep me windows closed.
Tis communal living, I'm afraid.