My home is a mess

Cat501

hi all, just a very quick one.....First of all, thank you for all the support.
Fru - get well soon!! xx I do know what you mean - the last time I was really mentally motivated to clear up was when I was in bed with a heavy cold. Definitely psychological!

YL I didn't realise your son was struggling with so much, poor lad, that must be incredibly hard for you all ( xxx

DD2 left last night, went and took what she deems her money for the week (CTC, CB and maintenance) out the bank and went to her friend's. Some tickets arrived for her today, I think they are for the bus or train down to her dad's. Every second just now feels like a struggle to keep living.

I was late for my appt - was absolutely convinced it was for 12.30, looked at the letter while I was waiting on the 12pm train and it was actually for 12. Train 5 mins late, half ran half walked. the ten minute walk at the other end and ended up having a major panic attack combined with crazy sobbing en route. Took about 10 minutes to calm down enough to speak when I got there - good start :/And I don't think I really put things across very well

Anyway the upshot is she's unsure how to diagnose me, atypical depression probably but other issues too and am being referred to the psychologists for psychotherapy, CBT, can't remember what else she said. Have to see her again at the end of July. Meds will be MAOIs - yikes - but may start on a reverse MAOI because I have to have that general anaesthetic at the start of August.

Just wanted to let you know what happened because you've been so supportive, but I'll be trying hard not to moan in future, at least, not on this thread

Oh, and I did the dishes and took a bag of carrier bags to the charity shop.

Hugs all xxxx

snookey

Frugal hope your better soon.
Cat lets hope this is a turning point. Dont stop chatting about how you feel as you know a problem shared is a problem halved.
Iv spent almost three hours in a walk in centre with dd as she has a water infection. Hoping all goes well whilst she is away with school. Apart from the water infection she feels well.
My home is still a mess as dog kept waking me up through the night barking. I think the stray cat made a number of appearances and that set him off. Could have strangled him.
Will be cleaning and clearing this week.
Take care everyone.

sonastin

Don't you just hate it how the world doesn't stop turning when you're ill?! :rotfl: I've been fit enough to rejoin the rest of the world for a couple of days but catching up on the stuff I should have been doing when I was hiding under my duvet has almost been enough to send me back to my duvet again

I think I'm caught up on the laundry. The bathroom is now clean. Kitchen is clean apart from the floor which needs mopping. Haven't actually got around to putting any washing away as yet but that might happen by the time weekend comes... or maybe not :rotfl:

bearcub wrote: »

Sonastin, sorry to hear you're feeling so rough. Your OH sounds a nightmare. Maybe it's time you thought of you first, and just forgot the occasional meal or washing for him, huh?

You're right OH is a bit of a nightmare. I keep thinking I should stand up to him making me feel bad about not doing stuff but the trouble is, its not like he's not doing anything. He mostly works 10-12 hour days and there's just a few occasions when the weather is bad or something hasn't gone right that I come home to find him watching TV and waiting for his dinner. The rest of the time, I'm finding myself cooking at 9pm because he's only just come in for a shower. My problem is that I don't want to do 12 hour days too - I would rather we both worked 9-5 and shared the day-to-day chores but he wants to get on and make the house nice. I just wish I knew how to make him see things from my perspective. I can't blame him for that either - you just have to take one look at his mother :eek: I've never met a more selfish self-centred woman. Given the example he had to learn from, its amazing he has any idea how to do anything for anyone else.

Frugal - hope you're feeling better soon.
Cat, Muffin Man - same goes for you too, although I appreciate "feeling better" sounds much hollower in your situations. Really though, you need to work with the medical professionals - they are trying to find the right solution for you. Cat, if that involves a spell in the hospital then that might be the right answer. Do it because it is what YOU need though, not just as a reaction to the fight with DD.

Everyone else has been putting me to shame with the work they've been doing. I'm trying to work out how long I can blame the cold for not catching up on the housework

Baileys_Babe

Today was not as productive as yesterday, unsurprisingly.

Today I have achieved:

2 loads of laundry washed & dried outside
WM loaded and set to run over night
Grocery shopping done and ALL put away
DW 1 load done, emptied and everything possible reloaded (probably wont be full until after lunch tomorrow)
Tomorrows porridge soaking

Spent lots of today reading to DD and helping DS go throw all our lego find the pieces for the lego kit he wanted to make (without the instructions), it was lovely and relaxing to spend a few hours with my children doing things they enjoy.

Hugs to everybody that needs them.

bearcub

Morning Messies.

Cat, in the words of a Pink Floyd song "We've got to keep talking", and that is particularly important for you. While there's talk, there's life, so keep sharing. When you're not sharing, write your feelings down. Please never feel you can't share with us.

Sonastin, I can understand the problems with your OH. My DD2 is working long hours atm, as there's every chance that her job will end in October. Her bf is pretty good, but there are times when DD can't believe that he hasn't done certain things in the flat. At the same time, he is a builder so, although he may not always work a full day, his job is physically demanding, so he just wants to chill when he gets home.

Baileysbabe, there are times when de-messying just has to wait. I know it's corny, but kids grow so fast, spending time with them, is time well-spent - for both sides!

Off to see to the equines. See you later.

sonastin

I've decided... if I don't do any cleaning, the dirt will be there waiting for me tomorrow. If I do do the cleaning, the dirt will be back waiting for me the day after tomorrow :rotfl:

A clean house is an impossible proposition unless I want to spend every day cleaning. Which I don't. So I'm making a stand. My aim is not to clean away the dirt for it will only come back. From here on in, I am restricting myself solely to preventing the dirt from multiplying :T

Given that we're going to keep having a mould problem until we get central heating installed, that is enough of a challenge in itself

Cat501

hi guys - running on autopilot a bit, but I think that's a good thing right now. Have washed up and taken chicken fillets out of freezer to defrost for tea, but that's all. Phoned mum and we're going to Home Bargains :j so I can buy some storage boxes and vacuum storage bags (I don't expect them to be much good at £1.99 for 2, but at least it is somewhere to put things and I can't afford the dear ones). The boxes will be used for DD1s stuff which is still piled up all over the living room.

Need to sit down and work out my finances without DD2s money coming in. I wish I could have kept up the no smoking, I was doing pretty well for a month just there but it ALWAYS seems to be around that time that I slip back into it. Really bad time to quit (even my surgeon said, changing meds+having an operation=NOT the time to stop due to the depressant effect) - and advised me not to try again till a few weeks after the op). But I can't afford it aaargh! I guess I'll just have to cut down as much as possible.

Just got sidetracked cleaning out the dispenser drawer in the washing machine (!) and cleaning the bathroom basin. The things you'll do when you're trying to hold off going to buy cigarettes:o

bearcub

Pretty shrewd thinking, sonastin! :T

Fruball

That gave me a much needed smile, Sonastin and think you hit the nail right on the head there!!

Cat - I haven't smoked or had wine (obviously!) since Monday evening and wonder if now is a good time to knock them both on the head as it takes 4 days to break a habit and I have a 2 day head start due to the norovirus... It would save me a fortune and when i think of what I have saved over the last 2 days, it's kind of making me more motivated... Good luck if you decide to quit xx

sonastin

Cat501 wrote: »

I wish I could have kept up the no smoking, I was doing pretty well for a month just there but it ALWAYS seems to be around that time that I slip back into it. Really bad time to quit (even my surgeon said, changing meds+having an operation=NOT the time to stop due to the depressant effect) - and advised me not to try again till a few weeks after the op). But I can't afford it aaargh! I guess I'll just have to cut down as much as possible.

One of the things that helped me cut down massively in the days before I managed to stop completely was to buy a different brand that I didn't like (happened by accident - all that was left in the machine in the pub!) I can't remember what they were now but it wasn't a particularly obscure brand just not one that I liked. Because the cigarettes didn't taste right, I would think twice about lighting up. Because I wasn't ready to stop completely, I'd put up with it in the end but because I didn't enjoy it, it was a bit longer until I reached for the next one. I don't know what you smoke at the moment but if you can get your hands on the minging-est, nastiest, cheap&dirty pack you can find, it might help with the not spending so much on it for the next couple of months.

I had a friend who worked in eastern europe for a while and the ones he brought back with him were always foul - perhaps find yourself an eastern european shop and see if they can sell you something to put you off!