My home is a mess

bearcub

That's good that you're picking up, jacci. Try not to look at your arm atm. Any op has to have effects, and your arm just has extra special effects!

Kitty, your ds is old enough to realise you did it for his good. Last year, a little girl rode out of the park on her bike, ignoring her mum telling her to stop, and out onto the road in front of our dd1's car. As it was, dd had just turned out of a car park, so was going hardly any speed at all, and the girl wasn't hurt, but it was an enormous shock to them all. Never too early to teach youngsters to treat roads and cars with great respect.

Abigailflo, we messies (and I'm very new on here) are people who would dearly love our houses to be cleaner and less messy, but we rarely seem to get there. As far as I've been able to make out, on here everyone encourages everyone else that they CAN be cleaner/tidier, but the world isn't going to end if they're not. Everyone's different, of course - my mum hates mess, but I go through phases of being fairly tidy, then phases of don't really care. Tbh, though, our house is so tiny, that any amount of mess means we're falling over things, which is why a lot of my craft stuff is spread around in this spare room - at least OH can't fall over it!

Buffythedebtslayer

Room not tidy.

Guinea pigs bathed and cage clean tho.

room is disgusting and so it conservatory.

*cries*

xx

Adela31

*hugs teh buffy*

Rummer

Today I am going to try and tackle the laundry, I am convinced it is an organic organism that reproduces during the night! Anything else will be a bonus!

Emm-in-a-pickle

Jacci & JPS - hope you both feel better soon - & JACCI, I agree Don`t Keep Looking at it! The healing process takes time, and the denser the tissue the longer it can take. Bone is dense tissue, right? The arm is `a work in progress`, so don`t fret yourself inspecting the unfinished work!
Hugs to all Messies, whether needed or not!
Abigailflo - your post made me envy you a little on two counts only:
1) That you get a long enough lunchbreak to go home and do housework. Even if I lived 5 minutes from the huge hospital where I work, my half-hour break would only give me 20 minutes at home. As it is, it takes too long to get from the ward to the canteen and back so most of us don`t go there!I use my break to nip out to my car and SIT for 20 minutes, as that`s the only real `sit-down` time we get (I`m not saying I`d swop my job for any other though!)
2) That your household don`t trash your efforts!

You say you can`t sit in a messy room, you have to set about clearing it....I get brief phases like this in the rare intervals when the living room is really pristine, and it worries OH, not because there`s a danger of me getting OCD, but - because it just Isn`t Me!
We are all different, but I believe most `Messies` who post here find it helpful because we support & encourage each other to strive a bit, but without reproach or disdain.
You are justified in taking a pride in your tidy routines, as are the Flyladies.
I take pride in putting my ancient white bathtowels on the line, because after all these years they are STILL snowy white. But I don`t have a problem in adding here that my bathroom is a shithole at present, I`ll get around to it, but have to prioritise elsewhere in the house.
I take a pride in the fact that my family are never fed on `ready meals`, that I shop frequently for fresh produce and wouldn`t buy a cabbage that didn`t have `squeaky` fresh leaves, and that the bit of worktop space free to use & my big chopping board are always cleaned before use even if they look ok already ...but I don`t have a problem admitting here that the kitchen floortile colour is presently unrecognisable.
Last year I was alone in the house for a few days, and it was an opportunity to get suck in cleaning/tidying AND keep it that way, without OH and DS and DGD here to make a mess. It was horrible.

helen_jelly

Emm - my kitchen floor is a a yucky grey colour - should be beige!!
Jacci and JPS - glad to see you are both on the up
Buffy - huge hugs
Bear - my house will be more of a mess cos the kids are on half term and its pointless trying to keep it tidy as they just trash it quicker than I can tidy it lol

Just made cupcakes so they're cooling - kiddies are eager to decorate them so that'll be the kitchen trashed
I have managed to do some washing and drying today - thank God for the tumble dryer

Love and hugs to all

Helen x

laurel7172

(((Oh, Buffy)))

Look, if the pets are clean and cared for, then good on you and everything else will wait.

I'm afraid I never let my children have guinea pigs or hamsters, and though already having the sort of lazily persistent cats who would have most likely have camped out on the roof of the cage until the poor creatures died of fright is a valid enough reason, I also knew *I* would always have to look after them-and the thought of yet another time consuming and dirty job was enough to send me into a tearful tailspin in advance. xx

spinningsheep

Longtime lurker on here, and I do sometimes despair at the state of my lounge, kitchen and hallway, which are our "communal" areas if you like. I have 2 logders and their partners stay 4 nights a week or so and we all rub along great, but I get so frustrated sometimes and their complete lack of "houseproudness"! Now I am quite OCD when it comes to basic cleanliness and tidyness but they really are not. I dont mind the upkeep of the lounge as it is where I spend most of my time, but they will quite happily leave bits all on the floor, the throws all half of the sofas etc. I have to hoover the lounge EVERY day, I like it clean and tidy and I simply cannot relax after work without my little do up, then I know its clean & tidy, I can then chill out. The kitchen is my bone of contention. One is an ex chef and loves to cook, but is not quite so hot on the clean up, or at least HIS version of clean up. I will often find a gloupy soup in the sink where its all blocked with food, and old food on pans, glasses put to drain on board as well as pans so all the food bits get stuck to them like a film....eeew. That is if clean up happens at all. But he/they know that I cannot just look at it, and I often end up re-cleaning up after them as they have done a half ar*sed job lol. I feel a bit like a mother hen looking after her brood sometimes but I quite like it in a perverse kind of way! But hey thats me. There rant over!! I am trying to tackle a room a week of junk, we have it a plenty. Today I did the kitchen, feel most satisfied now

bearcub

Thanks, helen. I can't keep up with who has children and who hasn't. I really can't remember how tidy or otherwise my two were as children, but I know what they're like now! (I won't say anymore, as one's a member of this forum!;)).

Our two DDs always had pets - one had guinea pigs, the other rabbits, plus we had cats. I have to say the girls were always good at cleaning out and looking after their pets. I think we have more mess from pets in our retirement house, than we ever did in the family home! :cool:

Spinningsheep, welcome, and what a battle for you, keeping the tide of messiness under some sort of control. Sounds as if you don't really mind all that much, though.

rosalie-lavender

Just popping in here to say that the dumplings made with Dairylea last night were successful. Perhaps not as light as when made with suet but quite tasty. Now I have to go and clear up the jammy mess on the cooker. That will teach me to stand texting my daughter at the same time as making jam. Next time I will at least face the stove so I see it boil over and can turn it down in time.:eek: