My home is a mess

snookey

Well I did get off my bum and clean,kitchen cleaned, four loads of washing done, two massive stacks of clean clothing,bedding ect put away.

Yorkshire lass we could do with a skip for all the junk in the cellar. May get one in a month or two but they are so expensive. Our council used to put a big skip at the side of our house every few months until an idiot builder stacked it with bricks and rubble.

Im just going into the kitchen to fold up the stuff thats coming out of the drier ,put wet in the drier and load washing machine again.

Take care everyone.

hart44

Good morning everyone

I had a massive clean up yesterday as it was the 1st day without OH in the way.
I even caught up with my ironing
I stripped DS's bed the had a massive fight to get a mattress topper on as he said his bed is hard, he has a cabin bed with built in wardrobe under it, so I had to tip the matress on its side and tug the sheet through. It would be funny for some to watch but not funny for me

I have not been down the end of my garden to check what the inside of my shed looks like, the wind yesterday took 2 strips of the felt off the roof it could have been worse but our garden is very long and slops down so the wall is as high as the shed that end and helped shield it.

DS is back to school today and DD has 3 days off work so has taken pup to her BF's so this is my 1st day alone, just me and little dog :j

I plan to rearrange my sewing area as it is slowly taking over the whole dining area

I may not drop by tomorrow till evening as I start work again after the break, I clean for Mrs W in the morning then the new job in the afternoon
I wish someone would pay me to do my house I might manage to clean it then lol.

I hope everyone has a good (and safe) day

snookey

Morning all. Up early to see dd off to school and onto pay bills.

Love to all.

gilly1964

YORKSHIRELASS wrote: »

Thanks guys - well the Insurance people cant send anyone out until 17th January - they have been inundated with claims apparently. Need to go out tomorrow and take lots of photos then work out what we can patch up until they come. Have a feeling this is going to be a long drawn out process. If nothing else the shed is going to have a massive clear out which may be a good thing - OH has said we should maybe get a skip!

Luckily the weather is a lot calmer tonight so thats something. Hope everyone else is OK. Messymare I can recommend the helpline at ACAS for good employment law advice.

Need to take the Christmas tree down and tackle the mountain of ironing tomorrow morning. Off for an early night I think!

YL - do you have home emergency cover on your insurance as they should at least then come out and do the minimum required to make your home safe - good luck with it all xx

thriftwizard

Hoping all who have suffered damage in the gales can get it sorted quickly & with a minimum of fuss, and hoping that it's not a case of those who shout loudest get help soonest, whether they're most in need or not.

Just a quick question here - does anyone else find that when they do finally manage to tackle their domestic mess, other members of the household seem to do anything rather than help/co-operate/be pleased? I seem to be fighting an uphill battle here; the harder I try to sort it out, the more other people "resist"! There's almost a territorial element - I belong here, I'm marking it as mine by leaving my mess in everyone's space - and an element of "Aaaaargh - Mum/the wife's trying to get out from under! It won't feel like home if it's tidy!" which I'm sure is entirely unconscious, but how do I address it with a bunch of young (and older) adults who are hardly ever all together under one roof?

And come to think of it, it's happening in my workshop too; two of my friends, who belong to the patchwork group that meets there, are constantly "tidying" the workspace, but never put things back where they belong, just any old where out of their way. Which means I struggle to find equipment, or fabric of a specific colour, or trimmings, when I need it for something else, and wastes a lot of time. They are good friends, and I don't want to upset them unduly, but I do need to tell them to put things away properly somehow - its' not as if it takes any more time! Also, one has brought things like plates & knives & forks into the little kitchen; but it's not a real kitchen, just somewhere to make a cuppa and keep the biscuits when it's not being used for dyeing. I know she has to come a fair distance on the bus to the workshops, usually spanning mealtimes, but it's not a home-from-home, it's a place of work. It's that territorial thing again; I need to put my foot down, but I'm not quite sure how to do it!

Georgiegirl2012

Hi - I think I may have posted on this thread a couple of weeks ago, but can't really remember, so please excuse me for interrupting so rudely.

Thrift Wizard - I'm finding a similar thing. I'm not sure what's happened to me, but I currently have an almost obsessive desire to clean and tidy. I'm looking at it as a positive outcome of my depression which is what resulted in my total slovenly ways in the first place. My eldest son said to me yesterday "are you getting cross because I dropped something on the floor and haven't picked it up yet?" about 5 seconds after he dropped it.

In terms of the patchwork group couldn't you say something along the lines of "now I know how they are feeling at home, I can never find a ****** (insert expletive of choice here) in this cupboard - who's been tidying it and putting things where I can't find them?"

Or just explode and throw everything everwhere and when you find what you want tidy it all back up putting stuff where you want it.

HTH

snookey

Hi thrift Id label everything and politly ask them to put thinks in the correct place.

helen_jelly

Morning all

Thrift - workplace - just bring it up that you are struggling and could they help you by asking if they aren't sure where to put stuff, Family - just bloomin tell them to sort themselves out!! Not alot of help sorry ;[

Today I have
school run
visited Garden Centre - bought a couple of reduced bits for pressies
shopped at Sainsbugs [I now have enough soap powder/liquid for the year]
shopping put away
washed up
WM on
TD on
coffee done
Next door dogs let out for a pee
Stairs under cupboard - all sorted and re-arranged
DR - hoovered
DR dusted
Table cloth removed and clean one replaced
Yacked to DH via text
order confirmation paperwork printed
more washing and drying done
tidied up the LR floor and the coffee table
hoovered the LR

Helen x

ETA - I like Snookeys suggestion

Chris25

[QUOTE=thriftwizard;49865257.


And come to think of it, it's happening in my workshop too; two of my friends, who belong to the patchwork group that meets there, are constantly "tidying" the workspace, but never put things back where they belong, just any old where out of their way. Which means I struggle to find equipment, or fabric of a specific colour, or trimmings, when I need it for something else, and wastes a lot of time. They are good friends, and I don't want to upset them unduly, but I do need to tell them to put things away properly somehow - its' not as if it takes any more time! Also, one has brought things like plates & knives & forks into the little kitchen; but it's not a real kitchen, just somewhere to make a cuppa and keep the biscuits when it's not being used for dyeing. I know she has to come a fair distance on the bus to the workshops, usually spanning mealtimes, but it's not a home-from-home, it's a place of work. It's that territorial thing again; I need to put my foot down, but I'm not quite sure how to do it![/QUOTE]

Perhaps you could explain that as you use that area for other things, you are worried about her stuff getting broken/damaged or whatever - if you have the space, could you suggest she brings in a tin or container that she stores her bits in?

My daughter, when she feels like tidying up, just sweeps things into drawers which drives me mad. Outwardly the rooms night look better but the rubbish is still there - just unseen

The other thing she does is tidy the shelves in the kitchen so they look, in her words, 'prettier'. This usually means the tea bags which are in an old fat container, just right for the size of the box they come in, are relugated to the top shelf & all the not-used-very-often-items which are in lovely colour co-ordinated boxes & caddies all go together on the bottom shelf - next to the kettle!!

sonastin

[rant mode on]

OH is still recovering from his hernia op and yesterday overdid it a bit tidying his garage. So today he is under strict instructions to take it easy, by which I mean take it easy, not get on with a task he considers to be easy but which requires physical effort and stretching of the stomach muscles!

This resulted in a very long whinge about how booooooooored he gets sitting around doing nothing. So I offered him a couple of easy, abdomen friendly jobs like, washing up. Laundry. Pairing up his socks. To which he turned his nose up with a "but its so boooooooring" :mad: Like I get a kick out of doing those things when I get home from work.

The good news is I have a much higher mess-tolerance threshold than he does and I am getting well practised at ignoring the passive-agressive observations that "we" need to clean this place more. If he wants it clean he can bloomin well shift his carp so I can get at it to clean!

[rant mode off]

apologies for that. Just had to get it off my chest! If I get home to find every single mug has been used for tea again, I reckon you'll hear the screams from wherever you are