My home is a mess

jpscloud

I can't say it better than Cat Yorkshirelass... I feel exactly the same with all my family who are all better off than me. Most don't judge at all, but I know the odd one does and I dread them seeing my house. Luckily I have several family members who are at least as messy as me to feel at home with :rotfl:

GreyQueen

:j I have been in the kitchen cupboards and reconciled the inventory of jam jars with their lids and have decided 11 empties (from big coffee jars to titchy mustard jars) are going to be my inventory and anything above and beyond that will be freecycled.

Have discovered empty jars are hot property on Freecycle; who'd've thunk it?:o

Will now have more space and have also decided no more than 6 empty water bottles for reuse will be kept.

Gosh, the kitchen cupboards are looking spacious right now and I've cleaned thru. Maybe some of the carp living on the counters can get behind closed doors.........nah, mustn't get too ambitious.

Have a good day y'all.

BTW still can't find my bedroom floor and the living room is a tip; can I stay in the Messie Club pleeze?

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Well just posted in here a day or two ago, without really reading the thread, just a couple and the title. You have a lovely community going here. CP - a bit after your posting, but i was really saddened reading your post where you were sat in the rain crying, and I do think that your hubby needs to take some of the strain off you. Some people do not understand, its not really being horrid. When my daughter (18yrs old) screamed at me, well what do you do, i explained the washing, cooking, cleaning, she said anyone can do that, so i let her get on with it. 3 weeks later, she was in floods, pleading with me to do her washing, she had nothing clean, but i made her do all her washing. I would cook a nice meal and she had instant noodles and crisps, and had to wash a plate and spoon. Not normally a strict parent, but it needed to be done. She never complains now when i ask her to put her nicely laundered, folded pile of washing away and now does the dishes if i cook. If you challenged your chap to a week of housework, he might have a better understanding of what you do. Anyway, glad that you feeling much better. As for me with my no kitchen syndrome, i managed to organise myself better and am now the proud owner of a kitchenette in my sitting room and i have only 1 inch of dust now, not 2.

MessyMare

Save_Dosh wrote: »

Well just posted in here a day or two ago, without really reading the thread, just a couple and the title. You have a lovely community going here. CP - a bit after your posting, but i was really saddened reading your post where you were sat in the rain crying, and I do think that your hubby needs to take some of the strain off you. Some people do not understand, its not really being horrid. When my daughter screamed at me, well what do you do, i explained the washing, cooking, cleaning, she said anyone can do that, so i let her get on with it. 3 weeks later, she was in floods, pleading with me to do her washing, she had nothing clean, but i made her do all her washing. I would cook a nice meal and she had instant noodles and crisps, and had to wash a plate and spoon. Not normally a strict parent, but it needed to be done. She never complains now when i ask her to put her nicely laundered, folded pile of washing away and now does the dishes if i cook. If you challenged your chap to a week of housework, he might have a better understanding of what you do. Anyway, glad that you feeling much better. As for me with my no kitchen syndrome, i managed to organise myself better and am now the proud owner of a kitchenette in my sitting room and i have only 1 inch of dust now, not 2.

I thin part of the problem here is that I'm still getting used to working a 45 hour, 6 day week (well, 5.5 days but Wednesday is knackering anyway as I have so much to do). I used to work a lot more hours than that when I worked in a children's home but it was shift work, so I'd often have a group of days off to de-stress. OH is used to living on his own- has done for years. With me, he sways from being fiercely independent to wanting me to look after him, and it's sometimes very difficult to judge what's expected of me. He did help me plough through the washing up pile, as I pointed out that it was all from making him dinner. I love him with a passion, and I know he does too but we're both rather insular. I've been hurt a lot in the past, as has he, and we tend to crave our own space. He likes me to stay out of the way when he's in a bad mood, and treats me the same but I prefer to have someone close to distract me and calm me down.

But today, while he's up in the loft, I'm sat up here in bed with the dog beside me chilling out and researching my new business on the internetz The house looks like a bomb has hit it but this is my only day off, and seeing as I ended up busy all last Sunday, I'm taking advantage of it!

kittywight

afternoon folks ....

lazy sunday afternoon day here (as usual lol)

thankfully the freezer seems to have re frozen.... phew

havent done much today except a quick trip to lidls to get something for lunch

holidays tommorow .......... i still havent packed


better get a move on

xx

VJsmum

YORKSHIRELASS wrote: »

Hi everyone, been away for a few days so have just done a bit of catching up on what everyone is up to.

Hope tomorrow goes well Helen. Hugs to those in need and yay to those who are partying or eating too many matchmakers - does you good to live dangerously once in a while!

OK I am fretting. I am going to be fretting all week. My sister is coming to visit next week for 3 days. I love my sister but she has the most beautiful, immaculate house ever. Think lots of cream and nothing out of place and you get the idea.

My house is nothing like my sisters. It needs decorating and new carpets as well as lots of diy things doing that we never seem to have the time and money for. I know I shouldnt care about that but I do. Whats worse is that I dont want my sister feeling sorry for me because my house is a bit tatty around the edges.

I really want to enjoy spending a bit of time with my sister without feeling like this but I cant - how stupid is that?

Do you know what tho? I always feel a bit sorry for people with houses like that - no offence to your sister but how much time and effort must go into that? And what other things are they not doing in order to have that immaculate house?

My sister's house is completely clutter free - and they have 3 kids! The kids aren't allowed to have more than one toy out at a time, the oldest, who is 14, has to tidy after the younger 2 and has to have her room inspected once a week and, if it isn't up to scratch, gets pocket money docked!

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CP - I wouldn't worry whats expected of you, what do you want and expect. I am single, and i think that makes a difference. I would not wait hand and foot on someone (prob why im single), i really think it needs to be a 2 way thing, its respect. I dont crave a relationship, but if someone slotted in and made me feel really good about myself, then great. I think its great about your internet business, but if your house was sorted, it really does clear your mind. My place is normally ok, i would not say great, but having this gynormous mess at the moment through having a new kitchen installed and electrics being rewired, really immobolises (spelt wrong drr) me. I know from experience that organised life = organised mind - so much easier said then done. I wish you well, and hope that you and your partner, whom you both seem to love very much, find time for sorting out yourselves.

p.s. ANYONE - going for interview on 7th, need Access and Excel (minimal knowledge), don't have on my computer, anyone know an easy way to learn online, thanks ??

laurel7172

Staggers in...trees...gone..even the big ones I thought I was going to have to pay somebody to do. We just started thinning them out to make them look less intimidating and therefore less expensive, and suddenly they looked do-able.

Shed-which needed work I didn't have the time, skills or inclination for-disassembled and removed by a lovely chap from Freegle midweek. Climbing frame Freegled-eventually. Mahoosive woodpile sold on ebay for £10-as my mum said, it would have been a bargain if we'd paid somebody £10 to take it away....

So....five panels to replace on the fence behind the shed, a few last stumps to saw off at ground level and I'll be done...you know, apart from completely re-landscaping and planting the garden.

And the house is obviously still a tip. I think I may fall into bed with a thud like...um...a falling tree tonight.

Christmas chocolate....ummmm....yes, we had some of that too...I did very well last year and didn't buy any until Christmas Eve, but this year the will is weak. Maybe no more until the weekend before Christmas....unless they bring back coffee Matchmakers or the day has a Y in it...:rotfl:

jpscloud

GreyQueen, I'm positive no one gets banished from the thread for a bit of demessying! Well done on the jam jar blitz. I have been ruthless in the kitchen and now have no mess in there but guess what... there are three large boxes of stuff in the [STRIKE]junk[/STRIKE] spare room that I'd totally forgotten about, and still one in the living room that I can't forget about because I trip over it daily

Kitty, glad the freezer is okay! Good luck for your hols, I hope you have a fabulous time.

Helen, hope the memorial service went well.

Laurel, well done on the clearance! I bet that feels good.

Love to all, hope everyone had a relaxing and enjoyable day. I'm off to bed in a bit as I get up at stupid o'clock to miss the traffic for work.

Edit... SaveDosh, I found this site by googling, haven't checked it out but it might be a good place to start: http://www.gcflearnfree.org/computers

YORKSHIRELASS

Evening everyone. Have defrosted the freezer this afternoon. I really needed to do it while it was fairly empty so made myself get on with it before I do some shopping tomorrow.

Thanks for the kind words about my sisters visit. The problem is that my sister and I live very very different lives. She has lots of money and just wouldnt understand the first thing about living old style. In fact if she read some of the things on this forum she would think we were bonkers. She will probably look in my cupboards and see all the value stuff and think "oh poor sister she cant afford proper food" I have tried to explain it to her before but it falls on deaf ears. I do love her but sometimes I cant believe we really come from the same family! I am looking forward to spending some time with her though so I will make the house as clean and tidy as possible then chill out. Well I will try anyway ...

Have a great holiday Kitty, come on get that packing done!

and Laurel - I wondered if you were having a Christmas tree this year or if you have seen enough of them?

oh and CP - well done for having some feet up time. You have got to make time for yourself or it all gets too much. We are all guilty of that I guess.

Right, off to try and prepare the kids for back to school tomorrow. I have a feeling DS2s shoes are stuffed under his bed covered in mud. Why is it only me thinking of these things while OH lounges on the sofa watching telly???