My home is a mess

Emm-in-a-pickle

Good Morning Messies!

Well, I`m not quite sure how I`ve let myself get talked into this, but DGD is having a friend here tonight to sleepover.....
("Why now? -me
"While my room is clean!" - DGD)
I`ve also agreed to go and pick the friend up this afternoon....
Never met her, dunno where she lives, but DGD`s mama has drawn me a map (!) and assures me that the friend is very sound, etc., and not `posh` or likely to be phased by animals like yappy Littly dog or leaky old Daftie-dog. (That`s something I`ll explain to the girl when she gets here I think. "When you get up to the loo in the middle of the night beware of puddles on the way" (DGD`s room is downstairs, loo is accessed by going through LR) Or maybe I should tell her to bring wellies.... We`ve not had a wet LR rug for a few days now so it`s bound to happen soon.
DGD has eagerly offered that they will cook their own tea!!!
Not in my train crash of a kitchen - it`s bad enough when DS does it unsupervised!
Sleeping arrangements are lots of spare bedding on the floor, so that`s ok, as long as they keep Littly dog out of there because the cat thinks it`s her territory.
There`ll no doubt be giggling till all hours, and in the morning they are going to a comic convention and want to be up early -
I`ve agreed to take them into town and drop them off, (DGD`s mama will collect them afterwards and drop the friend at home) but I`ll NOT do the wake-up call, so they get me up when they`re ready. Hopefully this might encourage them to get some sleep.
I always had a houseful of other folks` kids when mine were younger, but this is the next generation so I`ve got out of that routine for years...DS thinks it`s very sporting of me, OH thinks I`m mad. I`m just glad DGD is so pleased, and hope it goes well.
I`m not going to have a cleaning fit, but when DGD gets up I`ll enlist her help with a bit of tidying and dusting, otherwise the place will have to do.

dibuzz

Rather you than me, I've never liked having other people in the house although when youngest's girlfriend comes round I do manage to get some plates back from him so it's not all bad. I just feel nervous around people I don't know well.
Yesterday was a bad day and today isn't much better. I think it feels worse because I've finally had some good days but I'm trying not to think about it and get on with things.
Youngest 2 clearing out their rooms would be a huge help but neither of them will do it, they don't even make excuses now, just refuse to do it.

Emm-in-a-pickle

Dibuzz, ((HUGS)) Sorry you`re feeling down again, but there will be more good days, you are getting there so try to think positively...like your youngest 2, my DS prefers to live in a hog-wallow as his `norm` - unless his GF is coming to stay, then he cleans but it gets trashed as soon as she goes home. I now just ignore it as long as his mess stays his side of his door!
DGD is different, I`m still hopeful that she`ll start being a bit tidier someday, haven`t given up on her yet.
Well, we finally found the friend`s house and now they are both in DGD`s room, babbling away happily and watching some DVD`s. Seems a nice kid, a lot like DGD, sort of geeky and not tarty! They`re having pasta salad for tea, I`ve done the pasta and they can assemble it when they want it.

pollypenny

You've both been busy! I'm shattered after Tai Chi this morning and a pile of ironing.

While we are doing well at keeping house tidy, there is mess in the covered way between the house and garage. OH still hasn't sorted the paint tins!

Baileys_Babe

dibuzz wrote: »

Yesterday was a bad day and today isn't much better. I think it feels worse because I've finally had some good days but I'm trying not to think about it and get on with it.

I agree once you start having some better days those that aren't seem even blacker. Try to keep on plodding on and hopefully tomorrow will be less black.

Emm-in-a-pickle

Hi Messies!

Hope everyone`s having a nice Sunday, whether you`re de-messying or just slobbing out.

Our sleepover went fine, no bother at all, and (as I predicted) there was a wet rug this morning - but I was up first anyway, so WM on, mop out, and cleaned kitchen & dishes etc. The girls slept late , then took ages getting ready, and I finally dropped them off at their convention.

Now thinking I should potter in the garden for a bit, while it`s sunny but not too hot. Last time I did quite a lot out there in a fairly short time, but it`s just looking wilder than ever now, can hardly see where I`ve been. Think I`ll get the timer ...

mothernerd

Hello, I'm running back here. I tried to follow the flyladies but it was just re-inforcing all the things I can't manage/ am failing to do.

dibuzz try to think of it like climbing a set of stairs. You are afraid of falling back to the bottom but you know that isn't going to happen. Each step is an effort but then you are a little bit further away from the dark place. I always tell myself I will get through this, I have been through worse.

I too generally avoid visitors, but find young people are very accepting. If you feed them, give them somewhere to sleep (bedding on the floor - we put all the old mattresses in DS3's attic bedroom when we used to have lots staying at the weekends) and listen to their problems (even if you can't do anything to help), they will love you forever.

I have been desperate for exercises to help my leg get better. I now have exercises and am struggling to get through them - sometimes they hurt and sometimes my body won't go into the positions I need it to and I haven't yet managed to do as many sets as I am supposed to, but they are helping and I will persevere. I must remember to take my painkillers - keep lying awake then realise I am not sleeping/ getting on with things because there is a pain - not severe but just a nagging ache in the background and the pills have been given to me for a reason. Also started to wake at 5am (keep telling myself this is better than not being able to get to sleep until 5am).

Yorkshire lass that is an excellent list - organisation, focus. Definitely need lots of that. When I had counselling last year, one of the things I promised myself was more outings - going to the cinema, a day out and so far I have done nothing (I did run away from home one afternoon before Christmas when the decorating/ cleaning got to much - just went to the Christmas market, wandered round looking at things, ate a baked potato with chilli and came home (read a book on the bus going and coming home).

I am actively avoiding some rooms in my house (full of things I can't do/ move/ lift or need to up ladders - all still banned activities) - the little bedroom (1/2 painted), the living room (piles of laminate flooring, originally 3 piles but 2 slightly different shades so 4 more piles where I started trying to sort it because you have to put the slats side by side to compare and then there were some short pieces) and the dining room just looks like a refugee station for house bits (nearly dry washing that has been brought in, large plant pots and other things going out and outside jobs that were brought inside to finish off when it started chucking it down). If I look at it too long I am afraid I will start to cry so it's just a quick in and out and don't think about it.

It's a bit strange because there are now so many things I can't think about that I feel really detached - it's like living in 2 parallel universes inside the same space. Hoping it makes the job of selling the house really easy (the physical bit is still a challenge) as I have no emotional attachment to this house whatsoever - as soon as physically possible it is going to achieve showhome status and i will inhabit like a ghost for however long it takes.

Best wishes to everyone.

pollypenny

Oh, that Flylady thread scares me to death! There us more to life than cleaning!

That said, because I've had a busy week and a bad back, nothing much done in the house , but I've been like a whirling dervish!

Eventually cleaned the Sahara dust front the front door, too!

dibuzz

Today has been better, I've managed to sort out a pile of clothes belonging to youngest son and put them all in a huge bag which I will get eldest son to move for me as I can't lift it. I'm just going to dump it in his room if I can find a space. I'm determined to reclaim my bedroom.
I've also hoovered the living room, hall and stairs and put air in eldest son's tyres

alec_eiffel

Hello everyone,

I guess everyone is more or less familiar with grant plans to get everything clean and tidied for a particular purpose then all of a sudden the deadline is fast approaching and you haven't got much done. that's where I am. It's less than two weeks before we go away for a night, MIL is coming over to pet sit and I haven't done anything to clean up (she is beyond tidy).

I had great plans to do a bit each day to get ready but DH has taken loads of time off work recently and instead of doing the house we've been out having fun *yay*. Today I have a ton of plants to stick into the borders so don't know if anything will get done today either!

Ah well. Hope everyone is finding something to smile about.