As The Workhouse Approaches....How To Do Everything To Avoid It, the Old Style Way

ceridwen

Must do a little bit of "catch up" in the garden too:
- chop ends off some huge bottles from bottled water to use as mini cloches
- reason: got some little food plug plants ready to plant up and dont want resident slugs/snails thinking "Nice kind human - more for us...." - so WILL be good and put a little "cloche" on top of each of them and hope this will work.

Note to self: too late to grow own "complementary flowers" from scratch and so must buy a few as soon as poss. as I think it may be down to me not having got any yet this year that leaf miners are being rather a problem this year. That garlic spray AND garlic granules on the soil arent working...:mad:

CRANKY40

freudianslip wrote: »

mmmhmmm. I felt guilty when I worked and now I stay at home with my children I feel quilty because I'm not a yummy mummy, guilty because I haven't access to the car to take them to clubs, guilty because we can't go to the forest after lunch or galivant here there and everywhere, guilty that I'm not completely composed all the time, guilty that I haven't got a fantastic farm house kitchen and guilty that they haven't go a 'park' in the garden, guilty that they don't have a play room, guilty that I'm not up to the ideal of a yummy mummy.

My husband once said to me something about all these really great mums that (an ideal I have in my head that is) they take their children to all these places because they can't bare to spend quality time with them, entertain them, play with them at home so go out to allow their children to be entertained from other sources.

I did make me think. I'm an alright mum.

I gave up feeling guilty for Lent last year, and I haven't taken it up again. As a widowed mum to a 6 year old I am doing the best that I can for both of us. My house isn't spotless (kitchen is always clean though), and my child sometimes eats junk, but so what. Life is here to be enjoyed as well as worried about, and it's important to have the fun and the worrying in the right proportions and not let one or the other take over.

mardatha

Well I take it yesterday was summer in Scotland Today its back to normal. 10C max and grey overcast

redlady_1

CBHM - it takes a bit of time to adjust but you will get there. In some ways it is frightening and in others very liberating. My ex used to complain about a butter knife. I thought it was going to be named in the divorce!!! So by habit I used to put it in the sink when I had finished with it. Once on my own, I went to do exactly the same thing and thought "NO"" so I took it straight back out of the sink and put it on the kitchen side. A small action but very liberating. Give yourself time and space as you need it. Take care.

Oh and my MSE "cloaking" device is back in use again so unless a quote is used I wander around in my own little world.

freudianslip

There's sometimes I get really frustrated by being 'told' what to do in my relationship. Don't get me wrong, we've a good relationship but sometimes I could just scream and feel stifled. I'm more than capable of making a decision but because he always has a different way of doing something and is quite stern and old fashioned that the man is always right (from his dad, terrible attitude against women he has but because I know where this has stemmed from I give old husband a lot of leeway) it has now got to the point where I automatically ask him what I should do, just to avoid 'I would have done it this way'.

I'm scared though, that i'll lose my confidence.

My mum was widowed at 33 and I respected her so much when I was growing up. Even though she was scared to take us out into the big bad world for fear of something happen, we basically stayed in our locality till we were growing up, she was an independent force in the home. DIY 'problems' she would be straight on it.

When you think about life, situations and people watch you get so many answers as to why you behave the way you do.

7_week_wonder

mardatha wrote: »

Well I take it yesterday was summer in Scotland Today its back to normal. 10C max and grey overcast

Tell me about it: I'm sat here with a quilt and a hotwater bottle and a howling east wind woke me up a silly o'clock:mad:

Completely OT but I'm so chuffed: my 81 year-old mum is getting the hang of email - she can now reply to stuff I send her no bother:T

And to keep on topic: my make ends meet tip for the day: if I've had a jar of preserved fruit or veg or whatever I always keep the left-over vinegar, syrup or oil etc when I've finished the jar. Flavoured vinegar gets added to stir-fry sauces, flavoured oil gets used for pasta sauces and I used some ginger syrup the other day to make an amazing ginger flavoured icing: yum yum.

GreyQueen

Phew, what a lot of posts to catch up on, I've had whole pot of tea in the time it's taken me to pick up where I left off at 3 pm-sh yesterday.

pennyroyal just a heads-up about this herb; NEVER USE IT IF YOU'RE PREGNANT OR A PET IS PREGNANT. Or might be pregnant. It's toxic in that circumstance (it has been used as an ingredient to end pregnancies in times past) but otherwise isn't dangerous insofar as I know.

I've been really hammering the allotment duties every evening this week, so much so that I have let everything else slide bar eating and sleeping (and the forums ) and as a result my home has gone a bit pear-shaped. So, today's resolution is to hit the domestic front and do laundry and cleaning, food shopping and tidying. I have a tiny flat but it has just as many mess-makers as a bigger home; bathroom and kitchen esp. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with the everyday stuff which is a sure sign of overtiredness and the need to get some order into the environment.

As a reward for the anticipated domestic-goddessdom, I shall take a trawl down a streetful of charity shops to see if there's anything utterly irresistable which needs to come home with me.

Hope everyone has a super Saturday, whatever you're all up to.

69chick

I have come back to MSE recently and am making some headway with the grocery challenge...

BUT we are all (family of 5) currently staying with my parent while our mortgage goes through and are due to move into our new home in the Summer...the thing is I have just done a spreadsheet and when we move in money is going to be sooooooo sooo tight! I have budgeted for everything I can think of (much smaller budget than I have been working with) but out salaries only cover the basics so I am today feeling very scared...

This is a great site for picking up lots of money saving ideas and sharing tips etc.. so think I will be setting it up as my homepage in future

I just wanted to say, thanks to everyone on here for all the great ways to get the most out of every penny :T

saveabobortwo

:hello:Sorry about yesterday i had a moody:mad: on having to deal with some problems,slept on it and feeling better today:D hope we can all still be friends.:grouphug::happylove

freudianslip

Hi saveabobortwo. I didn't mean to ignore you yesterday, and I can understand why you thought we all were, I really can. I just didn't understand your posts really and thought better of commenting. So pleased you are back this morning.