As The Workhouse Approaches....How To Do Everything To Avoid It, the Old Style Way

greenbee

taurusgb wrote: »

Greenbee....Thank you so much , really appreciate the information
- can I ask where you get the magnesium citrate from please?

i get it from the health food shop. It might be worth seeing a nutritionist for more advice. I also have a lot of time for reflexology for hormonal issues.

Kirsty - if you're not sure whether you are menopausal you can ask your GP for a blood test.

kirsty822001

greenbee wrote: »

i get it from the health food shop. It might be worth seeing a nutritionist for more advice. I also have a lot of time for reflexology for hormonal issues.

Kirsty - if you're not sure whether you are menopausal you can ask your GP for a blood test.

I will, thankyou :-) I had no idea u could have a test! May try get some reflexology if it helps too!

ginnyknit

Hiya Kirsty,I didnt get offered the blood test till last week. the doc recorded that my menopause symptoms started in 2002 and Im still like clockwork, every flipping month at 51 so now they finally decided to see whats going on

As for costco, buying in bulk will save you trips to the shops for basics thus saving you all that money you would spend on other bits and bobs at the same time. That alone could add upto hundreds of pounds a year.

redlady my OH was wishing we had a cellar today but we have solid floors and I hate closed cellars any way (claustrophobia!!) They are either wonderfully dry or regularly damp in my experience - I hope you manage to seal yours up. We looked at buying a cottage once that had a cellar that opened out on the back to lush green fields cos the house was on top of a hill - now that I would love.

trifles

:DI have found Arnica gel useful for joint pain, which since I became menopausal,was really causing me a lot of discomfort.Can get this at chemists who sell homeopathic remedies.Also very good for bruises to help reduce swelling and pain.Another place to buy large bottles of this is on a well known shopping channel on TV.
For the epsom baths mentioned,rose geranium oil,6 drops swirled in your bathwater with 1-2 cups epsom salts smells wonderful,but is great for settling weepy,hormonal states. Buy this oil at health shops or internet-lasts a long time.I carry a small facecloth wrung out in cold water to which I added 2 drops rose geranium oil and 2 drops lavender for flushes,Good if placed on the temples or back of neck when the tropicals hit you:eek:
Susun S Weed's New Menopausal Years is a good source of nature-based advice on herbs and diet particularly.I found her suggestion of sage tea for hot flushes wonderful.Cheap if you grow this herb:).Good for reducing feverishness generally
Hope this helps! Here's to a 'cool' nights sleep,ladies:D xx

CorBlimeyHowMuch

All this talk of hot flushes made me smile...I had a hot flush today when I tried to move my settees into new house/cottage, they just wouldnt go in through the door at the front:mad: or the side lean to thingey either...damn:o:o meant they had to go back to my friends garage, living in a cottage with narrow access and small entrance doors isnt quaint , hence the reality has hit home that Im on my ownsome for real:eek: and its up to me to get my brain into problem solving gear and get shifted fast. The reality is frightening that this late in my life I have to start all over again and its all down to me, yes I have friends and family, but they have there own commitments so its down to me now to start remembering long lost skills of coping and budgeting and sewing, cooking etc and do just as the say Calm down and Carry On... . Lifeis begining anew, I have to keep reminding myself of just how lucky I am, although financially strapped, I have my health, a roof over my head and the capacity to live life to the full unlike some who through circumstances of health etc dont have that choice so why is it my knees are shaking and Im full of dread???

I know I can do it, and I will, I shall get there, the journeys exciting and doable but I feel like my feet have lead weighted shoes on, ah well time to be positive.

Im up at 3amish as my minds buzzing with the list of things to do to get into this cottage, when in reality its just a case of get my furniture in, wipe out a few kitchen cupboards, stow away my frugal shopping bits and make up my bed and do a bit each day, I mean I have oodles of hours minutes and seconds to fill, as I lost my job recentley, got divorced and basically have all this spare time so why am I dithering and faffing about???? This journey to singledom and sanity wont start itself so, ok ,plans for today are shower, get dressed, go meet blokey to get gas cooker fitted (Gas Safety Certificate, check meter readings, ooh this list :p) and then to wipe down paintwork, use friends carpet cleaner to giv:pe carpets the once over and clean windows, in the bad old unhappy days I would have just hired someone to do all this well thats not an option now, its time to put on my self sufficiency hat and get on with it.

Will update on my progress later, thanks for reading just typing this has focussed my mind on the forthcoming to do list.

S:pun hopefully shining here today, so armed with my trusty bottle of bleach, Stardrops old towel cloths and vinegar window cleaner its hey ho off to work you go lassie dig up that Scottish work ethic and go go ,ok ,Im off thataway>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> cheerio xxxx

Hardup_Hester

Good luck Corblimey, you will get there, I had to start from scratch 10 years ago, I'll keep you in my thoughts.
Hugs Hester

ceridwen

CORBLIMEYHOWMUCH

...well...my thoughts FWIW - on "Why am I dithering and faffing around?" as regards your move..well, if you've only recently become single then I would hazard a guess that its down to not having A.N. Other as a "sounding board"/source of ideas/etc and having a "bit of a blue flunk" about whether you are making the right decisions/doing things the best way/etc.

I have been single for quite some time - in any sense of the word "single" and have always remained single (according to yer standard definition of...) and one does find, after a while, that you just get on and automatically make all decisions/formulate all opinions on how-to and what-to/etc because yours is the "only head available" to do the thinking/planning and what-have-you.

Even having been single for years - there ARE still odd moments of "having a blue flunk" from being the "only mind on the subject" about something and I get nervous about whether I've made the best possible choice/done things the best possible way etc. Its just life...

I would imagine its harder for someone who has just become single after years of not being "the sole mind on the project" - but one 'toughens up' after a while - rather than thinking "Agh:eek: - why do I have to do all the thinking/doing?" and it then becomes second nature (at least most of the time....).

I have a theory that its easier to do the Hard Man/Soft Man routine in life when one can always choose the "Soft Man" route and get "him indoors" to do the "Hard Man" role...but when one has to "play both parts" oh boy......:eek::rotfl:(of course...I know someone will come on and disabuse me and say "Well in my relationship I have to be the Hard Man with the World - as hubby always goes straight into the Soft Man role - and someone has to be Hard Man when needed.....). I'll apologise in advance to anyone who has no option but to do the Hard Man role in the World even when they have a partner....:o

EDIT: Make that "blue funk" - but "flunk" DOES sound even more appropriate sometimes - as in one wants to "flunk out"....LOL

Kittikins

Ceridwen, I get you:

"there ARE still odd moments of "having a blue flunk" from being the "only mind on the subject" about something and I get nervous about whether I've made the best possible choice/done things the best possible way etc. Its just life...

I would imagine its harder for someone who has just become single after years of not being "the sole mind on the project"

Even 6 years after my exOH walked out on me, I still have occasions where I think oh heck, wish I had someone to bounce this idea off/am I doing it the right way etc etc.

Corblimey - we're all there with you in spirit, I was "lucky" in that I didn't have to move when I became suddenly single, but the fear of being overwhelmed with everything there is to do and not wanting to ask others to help is deeply ingrained. But, in my experience, if you can ask people for help with a specific task that you've already sneakily calculated they might be good/strong at, they're usually flattered to be asked. Friends in my experience, tend not to offer as they often don't want to offend you by making you think you can't cope, but they love helping out on the odd occasion

Kimitatsu

greenbee wrote: »

I also have a lot of time for reflexology for hormonal issues.

Kirsty - if you're not sure whether you are menopausal you can ask your GP for a blood test.

Can I second this please I see a lot of ladies for hormonal issues from irregualr periods all the way through, and reflexology really does work. You can find someone in your area eithe by looking on the AoR (Association of Reflexologists) or the Professional reflexology website. Everyone listed on there has to have professional insurance and have passed the exam which allows them accreditation.

You can request a full blood test for whatever you like at any time from your doctor, and they will arrange it for you.

7_week_wonder

Phew - what a lot of pages to catch up on!

Grrrr - why do insurance companies think they can increase their premiums by 40% without us noticing:eek: Fortunately; ten minutes with comparison websites meant that I've managed to get the same cover at even less than last year. Now I just have to wait until 9am so I can phone the old company and tell them not to renew.

I'm hoping to get out into the garden today and sow some more carrots and beetroot as the last lot didn't germinate. And a kind soul at work has given me a couple of courgette plants (which are already flowering) plus two aubergine plants (can they survive outside? they'll have to as I don't have a greenhouse) and a "white pumpkin" plant which I'm intrigued about. So I'm going to try and get them all into the soil.

Have a good weekend all.