Grrr so annoyed with social services...

teabag29

Also he said he doesnt want any contact supervised by us because 1 contact will lead to 2 and then 3 and in a years time when it all gets too regular my ex may for example tell us to go for a coffee whilst he has dd for a bit and we will see no harm in it as theres been no problems up to that point. I did point out that it was ss themselves that gave me the advice about contact though.

esmy

But you seem to have no intention of your daughter having contact with you supervising again in any case so if that's now being seen as maybe not the best way to have arranged it, you'd already decided that for yourself. Had you planned to continue seeing him or be in contact with him?

teabag29

No, after seeing him in October i got the impression he wasnt interested in our dd and was more concerned in asking me how i was etc hence why ive said no to contact since. I have no problem with them saying best to do it through courts as this is what ive been saying for past 5 months but what i didnt understand is why they had such a problem with us supervising it when it was ss who gave me the advice in the first place. I took their advice and did it as they said and then they (allbeit a different dpt) tell me i shouldnt have done it that way so thats why im confused.

puddy

how long ago was the incident that broke your daughters arm and am i right in that it was a different borough who gave you the advice to the borough that said 'its not acceptable'?

if so, then a) good practice really would dictate that any future contact should be assessed first at the time but b) im afraid different boroughs will give different advice and practice decisions

teabag29

yes it was a different county 80 miles away that gave the advice and the incident was 5 years ago

gizmo111

teabag29 wrote: »

yes it was a different county 80 miles away that gave the advice and the incident was 5 years ago

Things have changed a lot in Children's Services in 5 years.

teabag29

oh i guess, didnt really think of it like that

RacyRed

I hope that you feel better about things now and will let us know how things turn out teabag?

Good luck