Living life, loving life.......hypno's having a ball!

youareallhelpingme

Hi Hypno, I have a query on Amazon selling.

I sold a book nearly a month ago and have a proof of posting slip (not signed for). They have suddenly come back now to say they didnt get it and want the money back. I would have thought they would have chased within a week or so as the T&C are post within 3 days of sale, and the timescale has given them enough time to read it, makes relevant notes and then pull as fast one!

Have you had anything like this as I am concerned I will have to refund them even though I posted it :mad:

hypno06

Ooh, sorry, Me....my experience of Amazon selling doesn't extend that far!

I think that on the "up your income" board there is an Amazon sellers thread - they will almost certainly have an appropriate answer for you.

Good luck x

youareallhelpingme

thanks, I'll have a look. This is the only one I've sold x

hypno06

Morning chaps and chapesses.....

Have been feeling in a state of, well I don't really know what, recently.....more specifically since I came back from hols. Perhaps I wasn't as "balanced" as I thought I was.....and the enforced rest on holiday has highlighted that. Not sure

It is quite a bizarre feeling really, because things really aren't bad in my world. I think that maybe I am acknowledging some of the mahoosive changes in my life that have happened over the last couple of years. Things are settling down, and I need to work out which general direction I want to be heading....yet at the same time not looking too far into the future.

Learning to live one day at a time, yet making provision for not being faced with a shock in the future, is not always as easy as one might think.....I am discovering!

Seaxwyn

Hi Hypno. It's not surprising you feel a bit unsettled after all the changes in your life, and the highs as you rediscovered fun! Life's always going to be a journey with things to learn and adjust to. Hope your post-holiday wobble isn't getting you down. We need periods of reflection. I'm sure you'll come out of it more sure about where you're heading.

Triciaxx

hypno06 wrote: »

Morning chaps and chapesses.....

Have been feeling in a state of, well I don't really know what, recently.....more specifically since I came back from hols. Perhaps I wasn't as "balanced" as I thought I was.....and the enforced rest on holiday has highlighted that. Not sure

It is quite a bizarre feeling really, because things really aren't bad in my world. I think that maybe I am acknowledging some of the mahoosive changes in my life that have happened over the last couple of years. Things are settling down, and I need to work out which general direction I want to be heading....yet at the same time not looking too far into the future.

Learning to live one day at a time, yet making provision for not being faced with a shock in the future, is not always as easy as one might think.....I am discovering!

It is only about a year, isn't it? Less since you moved into this house. You may have been so concentrating on being positive for the children while it was going on and then the feelings of relief that the strain was over that the underlying enormity of the change didn't really become real till you stopped (on holiday).

With hindsight, it took me at least 2 years to get my equilibrium back after the breakup of my first marriage. I was certainly in no fit state to take long term decisions till then.

Go easy on yourself. Do what you enjoy and go with the flow for a while. (())

hypno06

Triciaxx wrote: »

It is only about a year, isn't it? Less since you moved into this house. You may have been so concentrating on being positive for the children while it was going on and then the feelings of relief that the strain was over that the underlying enormity of the change didn't really become real till you stopped (on holiday).

Yes, 18 months since he left and 9 months since we moved house. I think what you say is quite right. I know that I didn't actually realise just how much I had "kept going" until I stopped on holiday, which was a bit of a shock to me. Now I just need to deal with it!

Onwards and upwards......again

beanielou

Keep plodding hun in your fab shoes

lionheartedgirl

hi hypno,

not sure I can really find all the right words other than to say I think I can relate (although I don't have the children side of things and I wasn't married as long as you).

I didn't deal with the break up of first marriage until everything got dragged up after the wedding that wasn't, and then everything hit at once! :eek: So I was determined that this time I would have to just go with everything I felt and be miserable for a while even if others couldn't deal with it. However, I didn't take enough time away in the immediate aftermath and I really regret that now.

It is only now I have stopped for a bit, carried on, and then stopped again and reflected a year later, that all the emotional stuff is really coming to a head in terms of what on earth to do for the long term. Things are good and I have come a long way, but as to what is next, who knows.

As for you, what you have achieved in these few years is awe inspiring, and it's never truer that until we stop, we don't realise just how heavy going things have been and how much we have carried with us (plus you have carried things for others too - children etc)

You have some awesome foundations in place, you can plan as much as you can for future eventualities, but you can never plan for everything.

I am rambling now, but just wanted to offer some words of support as you have said a lot that has inspired me and helped me along the way.

Wallow/wail a while if you need to but then, as you say, onwards and upwards time for a new diary possibly?

PS look up Cry Cry Cry by Alice Gold on youtube - the lyrics are spot on. It's crying in a happy way I think!

Keeping_Motivated

Triciaxx wrote: »

It is only about a year, isn't it? Less since you moved into this house. You may have been so concentrating on being positive for the children while it was going on and then the feelings of relief that the strain was over that the underlying enormity of the change didn't really become real till you stopped (on holiday).

With hindsight, it took me at least 2 years to get my equilibrium back after the breakup of my first marriage. I was certainly in no fit state to take long term decisions till then.

Go easy on yourself. Do what you enjoy and go with the flow for a while. (())

This makes alot of sense...I think when we are going through big 'stuff/changes/shocks' we have no choice but to carry on or we will go under so carry on we do and once everything 'dies down' it is then that we collapse and stop coping for a while.

I know this has certainly happened to me in the past, once the trauma was over I really struggled with my confidence and I lost alot of weight which seemed odd because by then the actual traumatic stuff was over and I dealt with all that..but our bodies and our minds eventually tell us they are tired and give in I suppose.

Its just hard to relate that we feel like that when everything seems 'ok' when we coped 'fine-ish' when the problems were actually happening.

After all the above waffle I am aware thats how I felt but may be nothing of the sort for you so I hope you feel more settled soon :A