The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

mrsrainman

Thanks guys!!
Spent yesterday in a bit of a daze. Tried to stop thinking about 1 thing and something else would pop into my head.
Did watch the wedding though. Did you see the verger cartwheeling down the aisle afterwards?? Think he might have been on the communion wine :rotfl:
Got to psyche myself up to ring the Halifax today. I know it won't go away on it's own.

Still no sign of Miss Piggy?? Maybe she's gone on holiday??

Have a good saturday y'all!

MrsR xx

mrsrainman

beckseven wrote: »

Alcohol is not enhancing my life and it hasn't for a long while so I'm just going to ditch it altogether for me and my family.

What a powerful statement. I send you all the luck in the world that you are able to stick to it. And you always have everyone on here to help you

MrsR xx

barshamhillbilly

Yes - can't believe it .... I have done 5 whole weeks without ANY alcohol

Though I have found myself pacing up and down the beer isle in a panic twice

Luckily both times I managed to walk away with nothing but ginger beer from the next isle over

Fingers and legs crossed that I can keep it up

BHB

XX

Trasijocha

Morning all,

Good luck Beckseven, totally abstaining DOES get easier with time, the longer you are AF the easier it is to cope with the bells when they ring.

Well done barshamhillbilly on your 5 whole AF weeks. This is a fantastic achievement.

I totally agree with you Beckseven about alcohol no longer enhancing your life, I felt like that and knew it was time to give up.
I think a lot of people are feeling this way.

29 af days thanks Shaggy.

barshamhillbilly

Trasijocha wrote: »

totally abstaining DOES get easier with time

yep - totally agree with this

Though I am struggling to find a coping strategy for those 'pain in the arris' moments that send me to the Tesco beer isle for a wander up and down. :eek:

Alcohol certainly is not on my mind every hour of the day from when I get up like it used to be

Mrs BHB has had about three bottles of wine during my 5 weeks and even that hasn't been a real problem ...though I guess if she was drinking Stella ......

rustybucket

Well done Barsham, reading some of these posts are hitting home, beckseven I so agree with this now.

But I had a bottle and a half of red, red has always been my tipple, and I enjoyed it last night. I needed to it to chill as I'm studying at the mo, exams in June but it's making me really grumpy, not fair on the other half, can't wait for the exam to be done then I'll cheer up I hope.

However I didn't enjoy waking up feeling crap, depressed (it is a depressant after all) it's not enjoyable at all any more, I don't like wasting the next day/two days feeling crap and grumpy.

I do think this month has really made me think about my drinking, one thing that has amazed me is how empty my recycling bin is nowadays compared to how it used to look with those empty bottles of plonk hanging out......

It's been nice not even needing a drink in the evenings, I just want that to continue and the AF nights to become more the norm....

I reckon the most I've done prior to this month is 12/14 AF nights and they've been pretty rare.

rachelww1

I've been drunk every night since Wednesday. This has got to stop. I was that wasted last night that apparently I fell asleep in the pub. And then I went round a mates house and smoked 4 fags ( I haven't smoked for over 5 months).

My mum went to see the oncologist on Weds. We have only recently found out that she has cancer. She was told that she has it in her bile duct and her liver, and they can't operate. She could have chemo, but it won't cure her, would make her very sick, and would possibly only prolong her life by a couple of months, so she has decided not to have it. I respect her decision entirely

Unfortunately I seem to have hit my self destruct button. I did exactly the same when my dad died of cancer 13 years ago. I needed to be sober this morning to tell my 13 year old son the news, which I have just done, and he seems to have taken it very well. My 18 year old daughter already knows, as she lives with my mother, and she is understandedly upset, but is coping fine. I am not going to tell my 7 year old son, as he won't understand.

I think I've 'dealt' with it now, and I really need to stay AF so I can be there for the kids, and enjoy the time I have left with my mum. It just really upsets me, the unfairness of it all. She's never smoked or drunk alcohol (completely teetotal and so was my dad), so why did she get it, and why can't they do anything about it. I'm too young to loose my mum too, I'm only 39 and she's only 74.

I do feel very selfish at the moment, and getting hideously drunk has been my way of coping over the last few days. But it stops now. I'm not a better person when I drink, and it does nothing for me. I know I definately can't drink in moderation, so I think I need to stop completely. It won't be easy, and I think I'll have to tell my husband, which won't be easy either. I have felt very out of control over the last few days, and I don't want to feel like that any more.

I know I've rambled, and I'm sorry for the long post, but I need to get it out somewhere. Can you put me down for 31 days for May please Shaggy. It will mean me changing the way I do things, who I mix with, and how I am as a person. But as I don't like the person I am when I'm drunk, it has to be done.

maman

shaggydoo wrote: »

I don't think the bells will stop for me - but I only hear them sometimes

I've been cutting-down for over two years and I still hear them occasionally. Fortunately now, when I give myself a good talking to, I listen!

Chloris wrote: »

Bells here too last night :rotfl:. But managed to feel more relaxed about it and was AF. Making 21 for April so far! I am actually really pleased as I have been AF since 11 April, so this is a long run for me. It doesn't sound like much of an achievement but I am going to build on it.

Well I think it is! Well done you:T

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Yes - can't believe it .... I have done 5 whole weeks without ANY alcohol

That's amazing BHB, is this a record?;)

beckseven

Rachelww1 don't beat yourself up-you are having such a terrible time at the moment. I know when my mum was very ill with cancer five years ago I coped and self medicated myself with a bottle of wine every night and cigarettes to try and keep my mind off things. Good luck with staying alcohol free for May-I'm trying to do the same. Mind you I must have had a fuzzy wine head this morning because I thought there was 30 days in May-doh! Thanks for everyone's kind words about me not drinking-I'll look to trasijocha and bhb for inspiration this month and everyone else who is doing so well.

maman

Beckseven is right rachel, do whatever you need to cope and don't beat yourself up. Sometimes, trying to move forward on too many fronts can be too much. I think your May target is admirable, good luck.