The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

darwins_mum

Where is everyone today? Are Chloris, Miss Piggy and myself the only members of the Wide awake club this morning?
Laundry on the line, off to the tip with garden rubbish from yesterday mammoth clean up and then collect DS1 from the train station.
As soon as I finish my breakfast in bed.
Have a great day y'all
DM

shaggydoo

phoenix_dragon wrote: »

Good morning Yesterday was rather traumatic, as I started bleeding on Thursday night, and spent over 3 hours waiting for a scan yesterday to tell me what was going on. Turns out the baby is fine, and I saw the heartbeat, but there is a bleed near the sac so if that gets bigger it could still go bad, but at the moment it's OK. That was the most tortuous night and 3 hours of my life.

Still AF, so 15/30.

:(:(:(:( Oh how worrying! Hoping everything goes well. Take it easy.

Shaggyx

shaggydoo

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

I have been 3 weeks without a can in my hand (or a glass;))

Whooo Hooo well done you :j:j:j:j

moo2moo

The withdrawl symptoms of a heavy social drinker

My OH has been alcohol free for 20 days.

The first week was a breeze. Minimal cravings, major stomach upsets, cramps, diahorhea, next to no appetite and a little bit snappy with everyone.

Week 2 - the cravings kicked in. Everytime something happened that annoyed him he was looking for a drink to help him cope. Still suffering the diahorhea which became progressively worse. Headaches started along with minor shakes, feeling very cold and struggling to be civil to people. Alongside this came the enthusiasm for doing things which has been absent from his life for a very long time.

Week 3 - Still suffering the stomach upsets (although not as frequently), the tiredness and feeling cold although this has been joined by aching muscles and joints and random stomach cramps. The cravings are fewer but stronger and triggered by things happening which are out of his control. Daft things like the kids arguing over a tv programme. He has no patience whatsoever but is beginnning to think about long term things. Hes a much nicer person to be around. We've had one major wobble which saw him driving to the shop to buy a bottle which sat unopened in the kitchen overnight and was then stashed out of sight. Hes only just beginning to realise how much drinking has affected him and everyone around him.

The plusses outweigh the negatives. I'd love to say we're financially better off now that hes not spending £10-£25 a night on booze but thats not true. Hes spent far more than that on projects to occupy himself and stop him sitting on the sofa getting slowly more and more drunk.

Equally it would be nice to say that reducing his calorie intake by the 2000 plus calories found in his nightly vino has made a huge difference to his waistline but thats not true either. His body is very bloated and retaining huge amounts of water to the point he could easily pass as someone well into the final stages of pregnancy. Substituting his booze for coke (the drinking not the snorting kind) and fresh fruit juice isn't really helping but hes craving sugar and is still eating less than our 8 year old daughter thanks to a total lack of appetite.

Hopefully over the next few weeks his body will settle down to being alcohol free which should make life easier for him.

It would be at this point that I should point out that OH does not consider himself an alcoholic. In fact as far as hes concerned hes just a regular social drinker who has over done it a bit and has gradually crept from a couple of glasses of wine with dinner to two or three bottles and a couple of cans of beer or cider consumed at break neck speed in a very very short space of time prior to flaking out in a heap to wake up an hour or so later as an obscenely verbally abusive ranter none of which he remembers in the morning.

Its been hard on him but its made a huge difference to those around him with the most difference being noted at work where someone finally told him hes been like a zombie for months and its nice to finally see him happy. Thats made more difference than anything I could ever say or do.

Hes not alone in this. Its far more common than you think but admitting it to yourself is the second hardest thing you'll ever do. The hardest thing is actually doing something about it.

shaggydoo

darwins_mum wrote: »

Where is everyone today? Are Chloris, Miss Piggy and myself the only members of the Wide awake club this morning?
Laundry on the line, off to the tip with garden rubbish from yesterday mammoth clean up and then collect DS1 from the train station.
As soon as I finish my breakfast in bed.
Have a great day y'all
DM

Hi Dm - is that a plus one for me?

shaggydoo

moo2moo - I hope your OH continues on his AF path and that things continue to get easier. Good Luck.

shaggydoo

April :-

= 7 days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

Pregnant Posters = :A

:j = target achieved
Bearacus 8/14

Beckseven 6/21
Chloris 8/20
Darwin's Mum 7/15
eca00 10/20
Fed Up 13/TF
Gien 11/20
Happyshopper 12/20
Lala 10/20

Lottie /10
Mackeroo 11/25

Maggie 5/12
Maman 8/10
Miss P 12/18
Phoenix D 14/30
Rachelww 11/21

RossieCheecks 4/16

ScotDebs /9
Shaggy 9/17
SOS 11/23

Toomany 5/15
Trasij 12/30

Will /7

Yorkshiremanc 1/20



PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck!

mrsrainman

:wave: Morning All

We've had a week off work so not had time to post, but have been dipping in and out to see how well you're all doing.
Had a couple of days in Portsmouth (Sunday - Tuesday) which was fab, then back home to decorate the spare room ready for Little Bean.

I wish I could be reporting that MrR has come to his senses an is completly AF but it's not to be. He wasn't too bad while we were away but it's been downhill since Wednesday, with one incident resulting in a very nice plant pot being broken

So after having a relaxing start to my week I think I will be going back to work with high stress levels and a horrible cold _pale_

Phoenix - I hope you're doing ok and your little bundle is holding on. I had a small amount of bleeding at 10 weeks (and it was 3 days before christmas). Sent me into a complete panic, but now LB is happily kicking the **** out of me :rotfl:

Miss P - Sounds like you have had a fab week! Back to work tomorrow though :doh:

Hope you all enjoy your sunny sunday!!

Mrs R xx

darwins_mum

Morning Shaggy, thanks for keeping count.
I finally got my first green jumpy thing!
Woop Woop

mrsrainman

moo2moo wrote: »

It would be at this point that I should point out that OH does not consider himself an alcoholic. In fact as far as hes concerned hes just a regular social drinker who has over done it a bit and has gradually crept from a couple of glasses of wine with dinner to two or three bottles and a couple of cans of beer or cider consumed at break neck speed in a very very short space of time prior to flaking out in a heap to wake up an hour or so later as an obscenely verbally abusive ranter none of which he remembers in the morning.

moo2moo - I could have written exactly the same thing about MrR. Unfortunately i'm still waiting for him to have his lightbulb moment. At 6.30 this morning I was wondering why he continues to spend £10-20 per day rather than putting that money aside to help us when i'm on 50% salary.
I hope your OH sticks with it.

MrsR xx