The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

graemecarter

mrsrainman wrote: »

Morning All!

I'm still undecided about what to do with the info from last week. I really want to talk to him about it but I keep being a bit of a wimp and putting it off. I just know he'll get all defensive about it and tell me to stop going on about it. I had to go out for a couple of hours last night so left him in charge. I had to leave the house knowing that he'd already drank 1 bottle of wine and there was still 2 in the fridge, i felt like crying. He's been off work the last couple of days with a bad back (can't move his head, can't lift anything, doesn't feel up to driving, etc). Funny how he managed to walk to our local shop and carry back 3 bottles of wine yesterday.....................
I don't understand how he can't see how his behaviour effects others. Maybe he's such being selfish.

Bearacus - Congratulations on becoming an Auntie again!!

MrsR xx

I know a few alcoholics. Some of their partners have attended Al-Anon (it provides support to anyone whose life is, or has been, affected by someone else’s drinking) and have benefited hugely.

graemecarter

flimsier wrote: »

Make that 26 and Saw - the final chapter

MrsR all my thoughts are with you. I don't know if he's an alcoholic. I've been there before, so he might not be - but he's certainly dependent. I think the term "alcoholic" might not be a useful catch-all for everyone who is dependent on alcohol! xx

I think there are negative connotations with the world 'alcoholic'.
But for me, I need to admit I am alcoholic so I put the work in to prevent me from picking up.
I could say that I was addicted to alcohol, alcohol dependent, or a drug addict instead (alcohol is a drug), but 'alcoholic' works for me.
However, you're right in that it's only semantics, so whatever works for people.

graemecarter

365days wrote: »

Hello. Long time no speak.

Tomorrow is my 2 year sober anniversary. Hurrah for me.

When I realised with the help of this thread that I had to stop drinking I fought the idea for a long long time. Surely I just needed a bit of a break from it all. Surely I had let myself get into a bad habit and now I had a few AFD's under my belt I could go back to drinking like a normal person. When i finally realised that the only way to control my drinking was not to drink it scared the living daylights out of me. How could I stop doing something that I had done everyday for the last 20+ years? I was a drinker, a party girl, a ladette. I prided myself in being able to hold my drink and boy could I. I don't need to say aymore about how low I hit...it wasn't tragic low. I kept my job, my family and my home. But i lost my self respect, my joy of life and most importantly myself.

I would love to say the last 2 years have been easy. Thye haven't but I'm sure a bottle or two of wine wouldn't have made them any easier either.

I'm 2 years sober. I am an alcoholic. I am happy to 'speak' to anyone here if they want to ask me anything about my journey.

Best wishes to you all. May your drinking be under your control whatever that may be.

Great post. Bravo you

graemecarter

365days wrote: »

Thanks Gien. It has been worth it. I no longer have to worry about people smelling my breath at work. I sweat less. I shout less. I never wake up thinking 'Oh !!!! did I really do/say that' I dont have to rotate my shops so people don't realise just how much wine and vodka i get through in a week. I don't have to make separate trips to the dump with my empties. I don't wish my time with my son away so I can get him to bed so I can start drinking. I don't have random sexual encounters. I don't feel like !!!! when i wake up. I am brave enough to accept my emotions however uncomfortable they may be without the aid of an alcohol cushion. I have lost 3 stone. I have gained some amazing friends and lost some dodgy aquantainces. I have a son who is proud of me.

Crazily I am still tempted to have a drink from time to time....most days it never even crosses my mind. I will have to live with the fact that I will never be able to drink normally but the benfits of that outweigh the costs. Profoundly.

Ditto - though the thought goes quickly and as long as I don't act on it, then it does no harm. It's only a thought at the end of the day, and I have lots of nonsense thoughts.....

shaggydoo

November :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

:j = target achieved


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PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck! (and if I've made any mistakes, don't be shy, please let me know!)

EVERYONE WELCOME

graemecarter

cheezypeas wrote: »

365days, your post so hits home to me. The odd AFD I find easily manageable, but the thought of never drinking again (esp. in social situations) just fills me with fear/ dread. Being totally AF is my ultimate goal but I've got some work to do yet.......

Many congratulations on your 2 year AF anniversary :T

I dabbled lightly (2.5 glasses) with the red wine on Tuesday, but was back to AF on Weds so up to 10 AFD please Shaggy.

Have a good day everyone

It did with me also. That's the nature of my alcoholism. It tells me that life is not worth living without alcohol, as all the 'fun' will go.
My reality is nothing like that. The world is a much bigger place, and I am engaged with life, not living half my life in hangover and an alcohol induced haze.

shaggydoo

fedupandskint wrote: »

Hi Shaggy,

I would like to rejoin for November. I am pledging 30 days AF
I haven't done too well AF for Oct I think I need to come back into the fold for Nov.

See you all next month

You're on the list!

jungle_jane

Hey everyone

well i have had the most rubbish October ever - once my dry September was over, i just went straight back to my evil, partying ways. I also put on half a stone and stopped going to the gym in favour of boozy nights at the pub scoffing pies and chips.

So i am going on a dry November with the exception of one night when i am going to see Motorhead!!

flimsier

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flimsier

I'll go for 27 again in November please shaggy.