The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

RuthnJasper

yoemma wrote: »

welcome. firstly, i'm sorry to hear about your dog. and secondly, you've made a big step by talking about what is going on in your life right now. i think it's maybe a good idea to talk to your doctor and your mum. maybe you could write down what you've put here? i know it's hard to talk when you're feeling low and they'd be able to know what you're thinking.

we're all hear to listen to you. x

Thank you so much yoemma - that is really helpful. Just off (with dog) to speak to mum now... gulp!... x

yoemma

RuthnJasper wrote: »

Thank you so much yoemma - that is really helpful. Just off (with dog) to speck to mum now... gulp!... x

good luck and give your dog a big cuddle from me! :grouphug: x

fakeplastictwee

RuthnJasper wrote: »

Hello all,

Being brave and posting on here for the first time. Have been resorting more and more to booze as my trusty sidekick Jasper-dog heads slowly towards his end of days. However, had the rude awakening last night that, because of this, I now only have £48 to last me from now until the end of the month.

In half an hour or so, I have to go to my parents' house and grovel to my mum to ask if she can lend me enough money to tide me over. I know she's really at the end of her tether with me and I'm going to have to come clean and tell her that I've spent my money on vodka (just lately, been getting through around ½ a litre per day - and I can see this getting worse - so I need to stop now).

Trouble is, things are only going to get worse in my personal life, and I cannot afford to go out, etc. I cannot even afford a TV. I would REALLY appreciate some advice and tips from anyone as to how I can get through the current period of absolute hell without resorting to alcohol? I'm already on top-strength antidepressants and I try as hard as I can to occupy my mind with reading, gardening, walking, etc., but sometimes I just can't bear to be alone with my own thoughts and drinking is the only source of comfort (I do realise how pathetic that sounds).

If anyone has any advice, I'd REALLY appreciate it. Very many thanks. xx

Hey, well done for posting on here. Admitting these things to yourself can be really difficult but everyone on here will try their best to support you.

I think the advice you've already been given above is great. I would echo what Miss Piggy says about talking to your GP as your antidepressants won't be at their most effective, and getting that chemical balance back on track will help you feel stronger.

xx

fakeplastictwee

RIGHT. Had a few drinks at the barbeque yesterday and I'm feeling a bit rough today, so I'm hoping to get my first AFD today! I think if I get one under my belt I'll feel much better. Will report back later.

Needstochange

Morning all :wave:

Slept in until 9 this morning which is very late for me. Feel great today after an AF day and the house is going to benefit as there is loads to do. I will be drinking this evening but whereas in the past I would have started on my first drink about now it wont be till after 6.

Ruthnjasper welcome to the board and all I can say is that you will receive lots of lots of support here and zero judgement. Admitting you have a problem that you want to sort is the major step and like maman I am cutting down but with the premise that I had accepted my drinking was way out of control. Its a strange thing with alcohol in my experience - if I told everyone I was on a diet or giving up smoking I am sure I would get loads of support but when I say I am cutting down alcohol it seems to be the opposite. I hope your mum offers you the support you need but if she doesnt then we will and you can always confess all to Jasper - he will just give you a hug :)

Needstochange

fakeplastictwee wrote: »

RIGHT. Had a few drinks at the barbeque yesterday and I'm feeling a bit rough today, so I'm hoping to get my first AFD today! I think if I get one under my belt I'll feel much better. Will report back later.

Go for it fakeplastictwee - you will feel so smug at bedtime

RuthnJasper

Needstochange wrote: »

Morning all :wave:

Slept in until 9 this morning which is very late for me. Feel great today after an AF day and the house is going to benefit as there is loads to do. I will be drinking this evening but whereas in the past I would have started on my first drink about now it wont be till after 6.

Ruthnjasper welcome to the board and all I can say is that you will receive lots of lots of support here and zero judgement. Admitting you have a problem that you want to sort is the major step and like maman I am cutting down but with the premise that I had accepted my drinking was way out of control. Its a strange thing with alcohol in my experience - if I told everyone I was on a diet or giving up smoking I am sure I would get loads of support but when I say I am cutting down alcohol it seems to be the opposite. I hope your mum offers you the support you need but if she doesnt then we will and you can always confess all to Jasper - he will just give you a hug :)

Thank you Fakeplastictwee and needtochange and MissPiggy too. You are all very kind. Have just come back from my mum's. She's told me to go and come back at 7pm tonight, so will have to stew for a bit... Ah well. Just punishment, I daresay. At least Jasper got some meaty scraps out of this visit!

fakeplastictwee

Needstochange wrote: »

Go for it fakeplastictwee - you will feel so smug at bedtime

I'm clinging on to that thought... there's some nice cold beers left in the fridge from yesterday that keep popping into my mind as I'm bored, even though I'm feeling tired from yesterday... crazy! Will find something else to do instead.

maman

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Didn't want to be carrying a bottle around, looking a bit dodgy!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:


Yesterday afternoon that little boy came knocking again. I insisted on going and speaking to his Mum to let her know where he was. And you know what?? She didn't give a flying monkeys where he was.

Why am I not surprised MissP, but at least you did the right thing.

yoemma wrote: »

the postie put a 'can not deliver' slip through the door as the envelope was too big! they didn't even attempt to knock at the door.

That's been happening a lot around here lately too but they tend to leave stuff on the doorstep without even checking if you're in:mad: I think they've probably had working conditions changed so they're rushed off their feet. Fingers crossed it's good news when you do get to open the envelope! And well done on being AF, despite the circumstances.

Needstochange wrote: »

and like maman I am cutting down but with the premise that I had accepted my drinking was way out of control. Its a strange thing with alcohol in my experience - if I told everyone I was on a diet or giving up smoking I am sure I would get loads of support but when I say I am cutting down alcohol it seems to be the opposite.

I, too, started cutting-down because I was drinking 1+ bottles a night, every night. Now, my tolerance is way down and a bottle is too much and that's only at weekends. Last night I only drank half a bottle, if that (probably less 'cos I just looked in the fridge to check as I couldn't quite believe it;)) then I had a nice cup of tea. I know what you mean about the attitude of friends but you'd be surprised how many people try to force cakes and sweets on you when you're on a diet (usually quite large people:D).

fakeplastictwee

maman wrote: »

I, too, started cutting-down because I was drinking 1+ bottles a night, every night. Now, my tolerance is way down and a bottle is too much and that's only at weekends. Last night I only drank half a bottle, if that (probably less 'cos I just looked in the fridge to check as I couldn't quite believe it;)) then I had a nice cup of tea. I know what you mean about the attitude of friends but you'd be surprised how many people try to force cakes and sweets on you when you're on a diet (usually quite large people:D).

I must've cut down my intake without really trying as when I first posted on this thread a couple of years ago I was able to polish off nearly a bottle a night. Now if I drink in the week it's never usually more than one drink and at the weekend I still wouldn't be able to drink a whole bottle of wine if I was just sat at home. Probably explains why I lost nearly a stone without really noticing too!

I still feel like I need to get the habit under control though. I feel like I NEED to get that glass of wine in the evening to unwind, even though quite often afterwards I'll wonder if I even enjoyed it.


I got invited out to a last minute barbeque this afternoon. BBQ + sunshine = beer. Never turn stuff like that down but I stayed home and went for a lie down instead. Managed to sleep for 2 hours so must've needed it!