What do you think you would do if....

Pixiechic

Does your husband want anymore children? Have you spoken to him about your worries?

Just put your best foot forward and head in the direction of your Doctor. Worry when you have reason to and then work out your options.

You have only been off the pill for 4 months and sometimes that can take it's time to get out of your system.

fannyanna

Pixiechic wrote: »

Does your husband want anymore children? Have you spoken to him about your worries?

Just put your best foot forward and head in the direction of your Doctor. Worry when you have reason to and then work out your options.

You have only been off the pill for 4 months and sometimes that can take it's time to get out of your system.

Yes he does. Funnily enough he also worries that we'll have problems but because of him - as at the ripe old age of 32 he may very well be past it :rotfl:

You're absolutely right.

I think in a way posting on this forum has done me the world of good. As I've typed away I've realised how stupid I sound and reading everyone's logical responses has also made me think more reasonably too.

I'm now no longer on the verge of tears and I will book a doctors appointment tomorrow morning.

Pixiechic

You don't sound stupid, you sound concerned.

Book that appointment and don't worry, all could still be well

fannyanna

Pixiechic wrote: »

You don't sound stupid, you sound concerned.

Book that appointment and don't worry, all could still be well

Thank you - you're very kind :A

casbah

fannyanna wrote: »

I'm 26 but I feel like I'm 46

as someone who is passed 46 I can assure you 46 IS NOT THAT OLD :rotfl:

casbah

Also, at your age I feel most people are at a crossroads, No longer a child/young adult and not yet ready to go it alone.
Have you considered forgetting ALL of this for a while? Why not give yourself 6 months off, make a list of things you want to do in the next 6 months, i.e Go see a West end show, go jet skiing, learn to ride a horse anything to take your mind off this, I had 'trouble' falling for my first child...........my wonderful GP told me to forget about it, keep busy and let nature do her thing, it happened!!!!
Cas

Alikay

Well, firstly my daughter came off the pill last summer and hasn't had a period since - but now she's 2 months pregnant, so delays in your system getting back to normal are common and don't necessarily indicate long-term infertility. Also you've only been trying a short while: Up to a year is normal, over a year is very common....give yourselves time!

If you're really worried, pop to your GP and ask them to run some blood tests to rule out a few of the more common reasons for absent/irregular periods. You also really need to get some help with your feelings towards your partners children: They are not going to go away, and the older they get the more complex their emotional needs will become. Jealousy and insecurity can be very destructive when they get out of control.

Kittendreich

I'd encourage you to go to the docs just to put your mind at rest, but don't worry if they don't 'do' anything with you. It varies with everyone's circumstances, but generally (i.e. if there is no specific health reason) they wouldn't do any investigations until you have been trying for over 12 months - possibily a bit more since you are still young. I found it hard to get my head round the switch from using contraception (where they tell you that you'll get pregnant at the drop of a hat!) to trying to conceive where trying for months and years isn't unusual!

I'm a step mum and it is a difficult and underrated thing to do well - but worth putting in the effort. I see my OH's good relationship with his DD as a great thing and support it 100% - it shows he will be a good dad to ours (if we ever get to have them). It is hard that he is a parent and I'm not - but I'm much older than you so have different things to consider. My advice would be to relax, enjoy yourselves and try not to worry until you do know there is something wrong or (like me) you are running out of time. Step children are not the same as your own children, but they are still family and the more effort you can put into getting on with them as an important part of your OH the better for everyone.

podperson

Whenever I've come off the pill or depo it's taken about 6 months for my periods to start again so from November isn't really that long. Also irregular periods isn't a sign of poor fertility so if those are the only factors that please try not to worry so much. I know it's natural when you want something this much but at the moment you seem to letting fears over something that hasn't even happened yet (and probably won't, you are both young and although it's awful that some people have problems with fertility they are in the minority) affect your relationships with your hubby and his children now.

minerva_windsong

Apologies if I'm being a bit blunt, but is it a worry that you might not be able to 'give him' a child and therefore if you couldn't conceive your own child you would think, "Well he has two children already so it's obviously something wrong with me"?

Don't forget 26 is very young - the average age for a first baby in the UK is 29, and lots of women don't have their first child until they're in their 30s, so you're not exactly 'behind the times'. Most GPs won't refer you for fertility treatment until you've been trying for a considerable period of time (I'm not entirely sure how long but a year rings a bell), and some won't until you are over a certain age - around 30 to 35 but that varies depending on your Primary Care Trust, although if you have any medical problems like PCOS which may affect your ability to conceive they may refer you sooner. It may be worth getting tested for that if you can just so they can rule it (or anything else) out, and if it is that they might put you onto medication which can help before going down the IVF road.

Do any of your friends have children? I'm just wondering if that's partly the case and you're feeling a bit left out (but obviously tell me to get lost if I'm wrong!).