Bit of Advice Please Rgarding My Children

zagfles

dogfish12 wrote: »

Well, all I can say is that there are some disgusting judgemental people who have `contributed' on this thread. I hope I never meet you.

Seems that's some peoples' only reason for posting on this board!

zagfles

skcollobcat10 wrote: »

One of my friends was a stay at home dad for 2 years. His wife left him and took the child with her. Her conduct was very bad (drunk driver with child) and she could be considered to be a bad mum but in the end the court gave her full custody. She had only been with my friend for a couple of years, he owned the house before she ever met him and the minute she got custody she forced him to sell the house and wanted half of it.

I could never understand why the courts gave her custody, she was unstable with her drugs for her mental illness, she did not have any close family to help her and she was bringing strange men back home to the flat which would have upset a young child. He meanwhile went back into full time employment and had a large family around him, the child would have wanted for nothing, it was his silly wifes idea that he be a stay at home dad and she work full time although all she got was pin money and was not sufficient to provide for a family when she could hold a job down for long enough each was merely weeks or at best a couple of months before she had to find another job.

Similar thing happened to an ex colleague a few years ago. It seems the family courts are still very sexist.

redpete

SixNineSix wrote: »

as i say, im remaining very calm and very fair regarding the whole situation. i want nothing to jeapordise me not seeing my kids and being the main provider for them, as i have been all their lives.

I understand why you feel like this but don't do yourself down. One reason your wife was able to buy the things she wants to take from the home was because you were looking after the kids instead of working, you should not feel it is fair that she has the right to stuff that makes up the home that you both helped put together. All the best in sorting things out.

xnatalie81x

Stay strong. A relationship breakdown is hard enough without negativity x my ex refused to give back our stuff (I'm talking EVERYTHING) and family were brilliant help (even his mum who no longer speaks to him) it has taken 9 mOnths to replace everything, even on very low income. Get over to old style and put aside a little money every week - the satisfaction of buying ur own stuff is a real motivator.

My kids dad doesn't see them anymore as he cannot be bothered, he tried for a few months but has stopped. No matter whether u r male or female u r primary cater and I admire ur calmness and the fact that u say ur thinking for the kids but I don't and y should u wanna tell a forum ur innermost feelings etc. I've been where ur an if u want a positive shoulder - Pm me x

Good luck as the initial break is the easy bit, now it will start to get messy x x