Paying 'keep' HELP!!!

Sweetheart

I'm 23 years old and working. My mum (a single parent) was made redundant from a good job in November and now, three months on she said that she can no longer afford to subsidise me and my brother and we must pay our proper share of all the bills/mortgage/council tax. (I'm 23 he is 21)

She says that with part of the mortgage included all utility bills are £1200 month -so expects me to pay £100 a week. (£1200 divided by three)

I've refused to pay as its way too much. I've discussed this with my friends and all of them say she is trying to scam me and that I could get a place of my own for less than that.

She says if I wont pay - I have to move out as she will put a lodger in my room.

Why should I pay this much? Its so unfair. I told her that I wasnt going to pay. She may not care about my future but I do! I'm saving up for my future

Also I absolutely object to paying toward HER mortgage!! Why should she profit out of me??

I told her I didnt believe that the bills were so high and demanded she give me copies. She said it was degrading to have to send me the bills and make a budget for my inspection but I think its because she is scamming me. She did send me it though.

I am refusing to pay any more than £50 a week. My brother is, looking for a job and earns £65 a week in his part time job, and my Mum is not entitled to benefits as she was paid redundancy.

So her current income is £200 a month plus £120 from my brother and she should be getting more from him not me.

Can you please give your opinion so I can show this to her to demonstrate how unfair she is being. I'm only 23 and trying to save up to move out but she wants me to go now as he cant afford to keep me. This makes me so angry as I'm hardly ever here

sueeve

Grow up or get yourself a flat.
Or you could suggest a compromise amount.

Mupette

Sweetheart wrote: »

I'm 23 years old and working. My mum (a single parent) was made redundant from a good job in November and now, three months on she said that she can no longer afford to subsidise me and my brother and we must pay our proper share of all the bills/mortgage/council tax. (I'm 23 he is 21)

She says that with part of the mortgage included all utility bills are £1200 month -so expects me to pay £100 a week!!!!! £1200 divided by three)

I've refused to pay as its way too much. I've discussed this with my friends and all of them say she is trying to scam me and that I could get a place of my own for less than that.

She says if I wont pay - I have to move out as she will put a lodger in my room.

Why should I pay this much? Its so unfair. I earn good money but I need it for going out and for my clothes, phones and stuff, and my student loan. I told her that I wasnt going to pay. She may not care about my future but I do! I'm saving up for my own place.

Also I absolutely object to paying toward HER mortgage!! Why should she profit out of me??

I told her I didnt believe that the bills were so high and demanded she give me copies. She said it was degrading to have to send me the bills and make a budget for my inspection but I think its because she is scamming me. She did send me it though.

I am refusing to pay any more than £50 a week. My brother is, looking for a job and earns £65 a week in his part time job, and my Mum is not entitled to benefits as she was paid redundancy.

So her current income is £200 a month plus £120 from my brother and she should be getting more from him not me.

Can you please give your oninion so I can show this to her to demonstrate how unfair she is being. I'm only 23 and trying to save up to move out but she wants me to go now as he cant afford to keep me. This makes me so angry as I'm hardly ever here!!!!!!!!!!!:mad:

Good luck finding something cheaper.

xoxo_2

Good luck finding somewhere to live, paying your bills, food, etc for less than £100 a week. :rotfl:

Lucy1973

sueeve wrote: »

Grow up or get yourself a flat.
Or you could suggest a compromise amount.

Yep. You'll find once your out in the real world,100 pounds a week?? You'd wish you snapped your mum's arm off with an offer like that:(

onlyroz

Presumably this is a wind up. You're being offered a bargain, and if you disagree then good luck with finding somewhere else.

Tropez

£100 per week doesn't seem bad at all.

When you factor in rent/mortgage, council tax and fuel costs you would be hard pressed in many areas to find somewhere that cheap.

Paying part towards her mortgage isn't her profiting out of you. It is keeping a roof over your head. If she defaults on the mortgage she risks losing her home. She could indeed take in a lodger to meet up the shortfall and there are even government benefits in place to people who take in lodgers that change the amount of taxation favourably.

"Clothes, phones and stuff" doesn't really seem like saving for the future. Do you go through clothes at such a rate that replacing them is a necessity?

If she's living off £320 per month she is currently living off less than many people who claim benefits are required to live with.

If you're hardly ever there then why not move out anyway?

Lokolo

Sweetheart wrote: »

Also I absolutely object to paying toward HER mortgage!! Why should she profit out of me??

So you'd go out and rent, and do exactly the same for the landlord......

I also cannot believe you are 23 and acting like this.

building_with_lego

Sweetheart wrote: »

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Why should I pay this much? Its so unfair. I earn good money but I need it for going out and for my clothes, phones and stuff, and my student loan. I told her that I wasnt going to pay. She may not care about my future but I do! I'm saving up for my own place.

Mupette wrote: »

Good luck finding something cheaper.

You beat me to it, Mupette!

Interesting order of priorities- first= roof over your head, then bills.

You'd pay around £300 per month for a room in a student house round here. Maybe negotiate on the rent to exclude anything towards the mortgage? Don't be too tough on your mum though, it's really hard being made redundant. And I'm sorry to say it but you come across from your post as being selfish and spoiled.

kimmi_b

You say you begrudge paying towards "her mortgage" and yet you expect to be subsidised so you can buy clothes, go out, have a mobile phone etc.

After all the years she has looked after you and when she needs your help you turn on her.

You sound like a selfish little madam and if you were mine, I'd have kicked you out a long time ago so you know what the real world is like.

I don't have much spare money these days but I'd give my Mum the clothes off my back if she needed them. Shame on you.

chris_n_tj

If this isnt a wind up.
If your mum cant aford to pay the mortgage you will all be on the street. Grow up and put your hand in your pocket. Even better move out, then see just how hard it will be to pay your way in the real world.