when your parents get remarried ...

74jax

mrsspendalot wrote: »

My cousin is an only child and her mum was single for most of her life. It was always an understood thing that she would inherit her mum's house, as there was no one else who could inherit it. With 10 years to go before retirement, her mum met and married again. My cousin's first question was about what would now happen to 'her' inheritance ... would she still get the house or would the new husband get it. Then once the new husband died, who would it then pass to - to her, or to his next of kin from his blood family, therefore bypassing her entirely event though it was always her mum's home. Perhaps the OP is wondering something similar?

If this is what 'Deals' is asking then the answer is whoever the parent leaves it too in a will.

I'm sure she would be pleased to know that although her mum was sinlge thorughout her life, she found someone she loved and who she could share the remainder of her life with. If the mum was to die first I would expect the house to go to her partner to continue to live out his days in.

But no-one can answer this, it totally depends on what is in the will.

mrsspendalot

tattycath wrote: »

Personally, In my situation, myself and my husband both have children from previous relationships and having discussed this, we have decided to do an equal split between the children.

I think we will do the same when we make wills, although we've never sat and discussed it.

Hubby has DD from marriage 1
I have 3 children from marriage 1
We are about to have a baby of our own also.

I wouldn't want my 3 existing children to not inherit anything from me in the event I died, and it passed to hubby, and then on his death it only went to his biological children (his DD and our baby).

Likewise, I dare say he will feel the same if he was to go first, leave it to me, and then it only went to my 4 biological children and left his DD out.

Only fair way in step-families is to equally split between all children I suppose, although it is rarely black and white. We will take advice from a solicitor when we come to make wills.

mrsspendalot

74jax wrote: »

I'm sure she would be pleased to know that although her mum was sinlge thorughout her life, she found someone she loved and who she could share the remainder of her life with. If the mum was to die first I would expect the house to go to her partner to continue to live out his days in.

No she wasn't pleased

Newly_retired

I think the only thing to be done is to make sure that everyone writes a will. Far too many people do not have a will and do not necessarily realise the rules of instestacy.
It would really be very insensitive of "children" to raise the issue in a way which suggests they are money grabbing, but the fact is that if there is no will, then each parent's estate will pass to the new spouse, who could then leave it to whoever s/he wanted.

Apricot

My situation: My mum has my sister and I. Stepdad has 3 children - they then have two children together.
In the event of their deaths the house passes to whomever is the surving spouse (If they both die and my little bro & sis are still under 18 it goes to whoever will be caring for them). The surviving spouse then has it willed that on the event of their death the house & any money are split equally 7 ways between the children.

Becles

I can see why it causes problems.

My uncle and his wife split up. He had two daughters who went to live with their mother. He met someone else and eventually moved into her home with her children. Her children left home and they married, sold the house and bought a bungalow together.

They were semi-retired working just a few hours a week each when my Uncle died. He'd made a DIY will that was invalid (not sure why or what was on it) so everything went to his wife.

His daughters who were now married with families of their own were furious and thought the bungalow should be sold and the profits split three ways with a share for each daughter and the wife.

The wife disagreed as she would have lost her home, and not been able to buy anything else with a third. She argued that the daughters didn't appreciate that the sale of her house was a big contribution to buying the bungalow, so getting a third back was very unfair.

It ended up in a huge argument and the daughters don't speak to the rest of the family now.

Definitely agree that the parents need a will that clearly states what happens in the event of a death, to make sure this messy situation doesn't happen.

BillTrac

Nuts to inheritance.


I plan on spending it before I go....:rotfl:

Pollycat

Deals
you've made 2 one-line posts on this thread, both of which aren't really very explanatory of your circumstances.

If you haven't got a definitive answer to your question, why not explain your circumstances so people can give their opinions instead of trying to second-guess what it is you want to know.

thorsoak

Sadly, my OH died recently and apart from the medals won by his father during WWII which have gone to No 1 grandson, I've inherited what he left (not a lot!) .

My children's ambition - that I go SKI-ing (spending kids inheritance!).

Deals, it sadly sounds to me as if the children of the parents you are talking about think that they have certain rights and entitlements. This kind of thinking causes most of the problems in families - if you are in any sort of position to persuade them out of this way of thinking, you will save an awful lot of unhappiness, both now and in the future.

onlyroz

Deals wrote: »

should they leave anything to the kids of their first marriage and how would you sort it out that is makes it fair for everyone?

What do you mean, "how would you sort it out" - there's nothing for *you* to sort out. It's up to them.

I would certainly dishinherit any money-grabbing vultures that I'd produced along the way...