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Help me find my lost children

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  • What were you arrested for ?

    First time was for GBH, prosecution dropped case, but the plan was the police bail prevented me returning home.

    Second time was ABH, case dropped no evidence. Only for bail to prevent me returning home

    Third time ABH, I was tried but was aquitted on order of the Judge, I grassed up PWC for credit card fraud while I was in the Police interview room and the tape was running. I made sure the police interview tape was not quietly spirited away. Police not happy with me abusing the PACE Act by "turning the police interview into a circus" as the prosecutor put it. PWC was convicted given a suspended sentence and ordered to repay the credit card company.

    A later civil case for injunction and occupation order was granted in my absence but was later set aside when I was asked to defend it retrospectively. Cost application by PWC was struck out when I produce the police tape.

    CSA became involved and charged 30% on income, so I filed a counter-claim in the courts for Occupational Rent on my house so PWC ended up being worse off using the CSA,

    Quite frankly the whole thing was stupid. There was no need for any of it.
  • tattycath wrote: »
    If the pwc has poisoned their minds or lied in other ways i.e saying their father is dead or in prison-they would not look for him.
    I just hope he finds them and can re-establish the father/ child bond with them. xx

    I agree with you all the way, the children have a right to know. She has already tried the prison route and attempted to have me convicted and put away.
  • Good luck with this hope you find them again.
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  • Broken_hearted
    Broken_hearted Posts: 9,553 Forumite
    Am just speaking as the parent of a 14 year old who can be very headstrong, knows a hell of a lot more about computers than myself. My son has grown up with his parents living together though so very different from the OP.
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  • pupsicola
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    Skipmaster wrote: »
    First time was for GBH, prosecution dropped case, but the plan was the police bail prevented me returning home.

    Second time was ABH, case dropped no evidence. Only for bail to prevent me returning home

    Third time ABH, I was tried but was aquitted on order of the Judge, I grassed up PWC for credit card fraud while I was in the Police interview room and the tape was running. I made sure the police interview tape was not quietly spirited away. Police not happy with me abusing the PACE Act by "turning the police interview into a circus" as the prosecutor put it. PWC was convicted given a suspended sentence and ordered to repay the credit card company.

    A later civil case for injunction and occupation order was granted in my absence but was later set aside when I was asked to defend it retrospectively. Cost application by PWC was struck out when I produce the police tape.

    CSA became involved and charged 30% on income, so I filed a counter-claim in the courts for Occupational Rent on my house so PWC ended up being worse off using the CSA,

    Quite frankly the whole thing was stupid. There was no need for any of it.

    Blimey your ex sounds like a complete headcase. I take it any contact you have with your kids when you manage to locate them will be far away from pwc. There is no way on earth I would go anywhere near her. Supervised or accompanied access would be a very good idea so she cant try and pin anything else on you.
  • vitriol
    vitriol Posts: 70 Forumite
    edited 19 March 2011 at 1:41AM
    you have the right to know where your children are, see a solicitor, they will find your children, basically they write to the child benefit departments ect, then once the address is known the solicitor will then write a letter to the mother and ask her to disclose the address and whereabouts the children are, if this letter is ignored a second letter will be sent saying that the whereabouts of the children will be given without her consent if she doesn't reply and give valid reason for withholding information.

    p.s. a solicitor told us this
  • Skipmaster
    Skipmaster Posts: 37 Forumite
    I tried a solicitor but I picked the wrong one. I had a young dolly-bird who seemed inexperienced. She told me the CSA replied saying they "has no obligation to provide the requested information"

    I didnt pay her bill, but had she consulted her superiors, she would have learned of the Seek & Find Order.

    Admittedly, even the county court staff had to ask around & do some head-scratching to identify the correct forms and the statutory fee when I telephoned them.
  • vitriol
    vitriol Posts: 70 Forumite
    the solicitor you had didnt need to contact csa, all a solicitor needs to do is take information from you, i.e. date of births, names, mothers name, last known address ect , he will locate them for you and follow procedure as i said, i would imagine the only way info would be withheld is that if you are a serious serious danger to them,

    every parent has a right to know where there children are

    good luck
  • Skipmaster wrote: »
    First time was for GBH, prosecution dropped case, but the plan was the police bail prevented me returning home.

    Second time was ABH, case dropped no evidence. Only for bail to prevent me returning home

    Third time ABH, I was tried but was aquitted on order of the Judge, I grassed up PWC for credit card fraud while I was in the Police interview room and the tape was running. I made sure the police interview tape was not quietly spirited away. Police not happy with me abusing the PACE Act by "turning the police interview into a circus" as the prosecutor put it. PWC was convicted given a suspended sentence and ordered to repay the credit card company.


    A later civil case for injunction and occupation order was granted in my absence but was later set aside when I was asked to defend it retrospectively. Cost application by PWC was struck out when I produce the police tape.

    CSA became involved and charged 30% on income, so I filed a counter-claim in the courts for Occupational Rent on my house so PWC ended up being worse off using the CSA,

    Quite frankly the whole thing was stupid. There was no need for any of it.

    Jeez!
    They are making you sound like a

    WIFE BEATING, POLICE GRASS
  • missmontana
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    Skipmaster wrote: »
    That fits!

    I was accused of violence, but the police realised it was a farce because the date and time of the alleged violence did not correlate to me being anywhere near the house (was at work - driving a skip truck on a tacho etc) and her previous numerous comoplaints to police of the same when witnesses were able to contradict her claims.

    I can now see why I was constantly pestered by police, - her boyfriend is a cop and she must have known it would have blocked all contact.

    bit of a contradiction, police realising it was a farce, yet police pester OP
    Skipmaster wrote: »
    Tried all that, and google images etc,, I even tried to hire a detective, but she didnt want the work.

    A SAR on Google london offices revealed she (or her brother - his internet connection) has been entering my's full name into google on a regular basis since 2005.
    Skipmaster wrote: »
    I tried a solicitor but I picked the wrong one. I had a young dolly-bird who seemed inexperienced. She told me the CSA replied saying they "has no obligation to provide the requested information"

    I didnt pay her bill, but had she consulted her superiors, she would have learned of the Seek & Find Order.

    Admittedly, even the county court staff had to ask around & do some head-scratching to identify the correct forms and the statutory fee when I telephoned them.

    Funny how the PD and Solicitor were both female. I am sure there's more than one of each in the phone book!
    OP doesn't seem to have much luck with women....
    Be who you are, say what you feel, those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind.
    They say that talking to yourself is a sign of mental illness. So I talk to the cats instead.
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