Vasectomy Vs Sterilisation

shellsuit

Wow, didn't think I'd get so many responses, thank you all for taking the time to reply.

My husband has got an appointment with the GP for next Tuesday, so with a bit of luck we'll know more then

mum24boys

My DH had a vasectomy the end of October. We are currently waiting for his samples to come back clear. We have 4 boys and dont want any more. I drove DH there, it was done at a local surgery by a GP and waited in the waiting room. My DH was fine, slight discomfort after, but he needed a lift home, he was white as a sheet and a bit woosy. A weekend of sitting on the sofa with lots of oooh and owwws but back at work Monday. Same as other posters iv done my bit now its his turn.

nerak_y

I went last Friday with my ex from 5 years ago to get his done (we're still friends), since we split he has had 2 children and doesn't want more.

He found the procedure a doddle...due to being knocked out from a sedative and was tender and stuff for the weekend but took it easy and returned to work on Monday. He has had some pain as the week has worn on so has went back to the pain killers.

Poor nurse presumed we were together and was giving me the 'use other precautions for the next 16 weeks until we know it was successful; talk! Eeeeeeeek

nerak_y xx

mrsspendalot

Interesting thread! I am currently expecting baby #4 and do not want any more children after this one. Hubby is not even willing to consider a vasectomy at all. This is our first child together, and he also has a daughter from his previous marriage, so we have 5 kids between us! I have had 2 mirena coils which I have found really good, but don't want to have them forever and would like something a little more permanent. I'm thinking maybe sterilisation for me is the way to go, but then I've been told that the mirena is more effective so I'm not sure! Maybe if we sit and have the chat with the GP together after I've given birth she might be able to sway him a little bit, as I understand it is a much easier procedure for the man to have.

ellay864

My ex had vasectomy when our youngest was just a year old. He had no problems afterwards at all....well not unless you count the journey home from the hospital who called a taxi for him, female driver who gave him a very knowing look as he gingerly climbed in and winced as he sat down...then took a route home that took them over pretty much every speedhump in mid Cheshire :rotfl::rotfl:
OH now won't consider the snip as the ex hubbie of a former g/f of his had ended up with ED issues. I didnt want to take the pill so now use the Mirena coil which is much lower hormone doses and has virtually stopped my periods...brilliant

DKLS

mrsspendalot wrote: »

Interesting thread! I am currently expecting baby #4 and do not want any more children after this one. Hubby is not even willing to consider a vasectomy at all. This is our first child together, and he also has a daughter from his previous marriage, so we have 5 kids between us! I have had 2 mirena coils which I have found really good, but don't want to have them forever and would like something a little more permanent. I'm thinking maybe sterilisation for me is the way to go, but then I've been told that the mirena is more effective so I'm not sure! Maybe if we sit and have the chat with the GP together after I've given birth she might be able to sway him a little bit, as I understand it is a much easier procedure for the man to have.

With all honesty I can say it was a doddle I suspect like many men he is afraid of any medical intervention on his old man and has fears of not being able to perform post op, pain etc however with a competent clinician risks for vasectomy are very small, due to the nature of the work I do and the way I am, I researched all the options available for my wife and myself, I downloaded surgical protocols, read just about every clinical research paper, and studied stats on potential side effects and failure rates so my wife and I could make an informed decision as to what was best for our fertility.

The only real frustration in the entire process was when I approached my GP and asked for a referral and he refused as I don't have kids and "I would change my mind" :mad:

JBD

I was sterilised [female] 10 years ago, it was done as keyhole surgery. I was only in hospital for a few hours and had a couple of small stitches. No pain or problems at all.
However there are some potential problems with female sterilisation. One is that they do occassionally fail. Another is that there is an increased risk of ectopic pregnancy.
Obviously your consultant should discuss all possible complications with you though.

mrsspendalot

DKLS wrote: »

With all honesty I can say it was a doddle I suspect like many men he is afraid of any medical intervention on his old man and has fears of not being able to perform post op, pain etc however with a competent clinician risks for vasectomy are very small, due to the nature of the work I do and the way I am, I researched all the options available for my wife and myself, I downloaded surgical protocols, read just about every clinical research paper, and studied stats on potential side effects and failure rates so my wife and I could make an informed decision as to what was best for our fertility.

The only real frustration in the entire process was when I approached my GP and asked for a referral and he refused as I don't have kids and "I would change my mind" :mad:

I dare say you're right re his worries about the 'effects' it might have for him

I think that if we were sat having a full and frank discussion in the GP office about it, and he was made aware of the simplicity of the procedure he may come round to the idea. Also, his DD was born by emergency section, so he's never experienced a woman in childbirth yet .... that experience might make him think that a little snip really isn't that much of an ask in the grand scheme of things :rotfl:

stu20vt

Nope will never have a vasectomy for anyone. Crazy to have an operation that could have implications just because you want to have sex when in the mood, and can't be ersed to put a condom on.

celebrate

hi i had one patient who had key hole surgery -not sterilisation but gallbladder and they perforated her bowel-she is 20years old and has a massive scar down her belly and is on morphine and under a pain clinic, (they had to open her up twice as postop had an abcess)

i had another patient when i did gynae who had a perforated bladder froma laparoscpic procedure left with a catheter and prospect of further surgery on bladder.

Not trying to scare you but every surgery has its risks.

for me ITS THE MIRENA, THE MIRENA THE MIRENA-EVERY TIME!!!
it has a failure rate akin or better than sterilsation, it will help with those irregular heavy periods (most women don't have a period or soemthing v light now and again)which you can get near the menopause. The amount of hormone released into your blood is so tiny it is very unlikely to cause side effects. It has drastically reduced the numbers of hyeterctomy's done, It has revlutionised gynaecology. I'm not exaggerating!! I hope you can reconsider having definite iireversible surgery and opt for a mirena coil