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Eejit_2

allen35 wrote: »

Well done you and wish you well on whatever path you take (you don't need luck) sure it'll be the right decision.

Mammys aren't that bad eh!

Well this one has come into her own - despite the Ogre figure I had/painted of her on here. :eek:

If nothing else comes from this, I've finally got my Mammy, rather than the Mother I've known.

ekkygirl

Skinticket wrote: »

thanked for stating the blinding obvious.

I think the word you were looking for was "blindingly" and at least the other poster offered some sympathy and advice unlike you!

clairec79

I'm glad you are being supported, good luck with the future whatever you decide (but I agree with the person who said go to the police about the rape, even now months done the road)

melbi_uk

Eejit wrote: »

Sorry I haven't been back on before to update you all. It has been an absolute whirlwhind of events this past week and I've been too exhausted to log on never mind post a reply.

The meeting with out Student Advisor couldn't have gone better if I had tried. She was lovely. Didn't judge me (didn't ask either) and offered not only practical advice but emotional support. She even offered to mediate between my Mum and I but I thought it best I made the call myself.

I phoned my Mum pretending to have failed a pre-exam test (heck, I'm the first Uni student in the family, they don't know it doesn't exist :rotfl:) but she really surprised me. She told me to stop lying to her and tell her what was really wrong. I lied again and told her I was upset that I was about to fail my exams but she said, in her words "Emma, this is your Mum you're talking to, I know there's something wrong".

I broke down and told her. She was on the next available flight here and she's hardly left my side since. Thank God she can't stay here overnight or I'd be smothered between her and Joanne. I can't believe I painted her and thought of her as this big Ogre. She's been great.

She came with to see my SA and we've sorted out the practicalities of when/if I become a single student Mammy.

It's such a weight off me (pardon the pun) just to know my Mum will be here for me whatever I decide when the time comes.

Just now need to deal with the headf*ck that this is giving me. Hopefully I'll know what's for the best when I deliver him/her.

Thank you again to everyone for your kind words and support through this. I honestly couldn't have got through this whirlwind few weeks without you all.

Emma. :T

That's is great news. See, us mums are not all that bad :T

All the best for the future xx

Eejit_2

Just wanted to post another quick update and thank you all again for your support.

I moved into a new flat this week as I realised I need to move out of student halls soon. It was arranged with the help of my SA but it's not a term time flat, I can stay here year round. My Parents are paying the rent on it so I don't have to worry in that respect.

My Mammy has been great but overbearing at times. I could not have got through this past month without her, but it is nice to have a break. She's coming back next week so I had better brace myself. :rotfl:

I;m still undecided yet on what to do but I'm sure I can figure that out when the time comes, I'm sure I'll know what's right.

Thanks again to you all.

Emma xx

snookey

Good luck Emma and Im sure you will make the best decision for you and the baby.

sp1987

Just saw this post and wanted to say best of luck.

Hopefully you will have time to think about things and consider what is right for you. If you want to keep the baby there will be plenty of support for you to do so. If you want to cope, you can cope. If you do not or cannot cope with a child, there will be support there too.

Just make sure you take all the time you need to make the best decision possible.

UnderPressure

WOW what a thread and what a journey, I am so pleased you were able to talk to your mum as a parent I was so upset to think of you going through all this on your own I had a feeling your mammy would want to support you and be there for you.

You show a remarkable brave and independant side to your personality I for one take my hat off to you

I just want to wish you the very best of luck with the birth and the final decision, the biggest one I suppose you now have what sounds like some fantastic support around you so hopefully that will make things abit easier. I really do wish you the best of luck

On a final note I do want to plead with you to speak to the police, the man (although he cannot really be called this) that has put you in this situation really does not deserver to get away with it, he quite rightly should and needs to be punsihed...................................

All the best Emma

livermum

What an emotional thread! Emma I'm so glad that your mum has been so supportive. Often we imagine people's reactions as being so much worse than they actually are. I really hope that everything works out for you, I do agree with the other people on this thread though about you going to the police. I know that it would be hard for you but I'm sure that your mum would be there to support you and this "man" deserves to be punished for what he has done to you.

Good Luck with everything.

LadyMorticia

Good luck Emma.