Feeling like a bad mother!

Spendless

Reminds me of when we had friends and their kids (who are older than mine) and were ordering a take-away. The other mother insisted that we bought fish & chips as well as the curry we had planned cos 'hers wouldn't eat it'. Ours would have, even if they didn't like the main meals, they'd have had all the bits eg rice/naan/chips. Not overly impressed, cos we'd said the take -away was our treat and now it was costing a lot more, we made sure that we had some frozen pizzas in from then on.

Other friends knowing their child was a faddy ater, either fed him before hand or just asked if we had something simple in, eg noodles.

I also remember looking after someone elses kids whilst she was in hospital and them asking for tinned spaghetti, but only if it was hoops and not shapes- then they got a lesson from me in how tinned pasta is made.

God, reading that I have some friends with faddy kids. They are all older than mine. Must be the reason I ignore DD when she claims 'she doesn't like it'.:rotfl:

onlyroz

I remember as a kid my dad going ballistic because he'd cooked quiche and chips for us and my brother's friend. The friend went "uuuuggggghhhhhh egg" and refused to eat a mouthful. I think, when my kids get old enough to invite friends round, I'd probably go for something safe like spaghetti, but if the kid wouldn't eat it then I wouldn't make him something else.

We have an adult friend who won't eat any vegetables at all - only meat and potatos. It makes eating out with him extremely difficult - because my choice would be Thai or Indian - but he won't touch it. As a result, we tend to eat at TGI a lot...

littlerat

Definitely don't feel guilty - I was always a fussy eater as a kid (err actually... still am..), some probably from seeing my Mum's habits, quite a few are just my own. For about 2 years, the only thing I'd eat outside of home or my grandparents was chicken nuggets, chips and beans (or tomato sauce). And my parents were not the pandering type either, I just would go without if I couldn't have that. Meant there was only 2 or 3 friends whose houses I could go to - the main 2 both were quite fussy too.

Even now I never like going to people's houses if I don't know what I'll be eating as for instance I won't eat meat that's not well done (ie brown all through), which is the biggest hinderance ever. So many people like meat done to medium

balletshoes

YORKSHIRELASS wrote: »

Hi all

Need to get this off my chest. DS was out playing with a friend this afternoon and came in at 4pm to ask if his friend could come round for a play and stay until 7pm. Of course I say but we are having curry for tea (which was already made) and I know his friend is fussy about food. I dont have much else in the house at the moment to offer as an alternative.

DS goes off to discuss this and comes back. Can I go around to their house Mum he asks? His friend wont eat curry and his Dad will buy them both a takeaway pizza.

Now I feel like a right skinflint. I know DS wont be bothered but I feel bad about it. I feel like I should have offered to make something else. What would you have done?

I think maybe I am feeling it a bit because I havent spent much on them this half term, although we have had a nice week.

in a situation like this, when dinner is already made and you don't have much else in, I don't think theres anything wrong with what you said. if it was a planned playdate i'm sure you would have catered for your son's friend, and i'm sure they both know that too .

Ellie-Marie

Please dont feel bad, when I was little I used to have a separate plate and knife/fork etc for my beans, chicken nuggets and alphabites as godforbid, any of them should touch each other! (I was so scared of food after choking once, i only ate this meal for about 2 years)

My friends mums regulary still bring this up when I go round as they used to think it was really funny!:cool:

onlyroz

littlerat wrote: »

Meant there was only 2 or 3 friends whose houses I could go to

Wasn't this, in itself, enough to make you buck up your ideas? I'd have hated to be the one that never got invited round, especially for such a silly reason...

skipsmum

Ellie-Marie wrote: »

Please dont feel bad, when I was little I used to have a separate plate and knife/fork etc for my beans, chicken nuggets and alphabites as godforbid, any of them should touch each other! (I was so scared of food after choking once, i only ate this meal for about 2 years)

My friends mums regulary still bring this up when I go round as they used to think it was really funny!:cool:

lol, I was exactly the same, and I think it started after choking. I still like everything pureed to mush.

Becles

I wouldn't worry about it. Some children are really fussy.

One of my sons friends came round and requested sausages in advance, then made me cut the ends off his as he said he didn't like the ends and only liked the middles?!

I was standing cutting them off wondering why I was doing it, as if he been one of mine they'd have been told not to be so daft

mumcoll

Never mind fussy eating children, when we were first married, I used to pick to peas out of the mixed veg for my husband. How dedicated was I?

He now eats peas - as he obviously couldn't be bothered picking them out himself after I clued up a bit!:rotfl:

FatVonD

duchy wrote: »

"You can't say you don't like it until you've tried it"

That's always been my approach and my son will eat pretty much anything you put on his plate (including WARM cornflakes at his dad's house!)