Feeling like a bad mother!

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi all

Need to get this off my chest. DS was out playing with a friend this afternoon and came in at 4pm to ask if his friend could come round for a play and stay until 7pm. Of course I say but we are having curry for tea (which was already made) and I know his friend is fussy about food. I dont have much else in the house at the moment to offer as an alternative.

DS goes off to discuss this and comes back. Can I go around to their house Mum he asks? His friend wont eat curry and his Dad will buy them both a takeaway pizza.

Now I feel like a right skinflint. I know DS wont be bothered but I feel bad about it. I feel like I should have offered to make something else. What would you have done?

I think maybe I am feeling it a bit because I havent spent much on them this half term, although we have had a nice week.

GEEGEE8

More fool the friends dad for wasting money on takeaway pizza!

Don't worry OP, you have done nothing wrong and are setting your son a good example.

redkids1972

Your son and his friend wont have given it a second thought to busy with their fun activities, its difficult but don't beat yourself up invite him another day when you having something he may like too eat

bluebag

YORKSHIRELASS wrote: »

Hi all

Need to get this off my chest. DS was out playing with a friend this afternoon and came in at 4pm to ask if his friend could come round for a play and stay until 7pm. Of course I say but we are having curry for tea (which was already made) and I know his friend is fussy about food. I dont have much else in the house at the moment to offer as an alternative.

DS goes off to discuss this and comes back. Can I go around to their house Mum he asks? His friend wont eat curry and his Dad will buy them both a takeaway pizza.

Now I feel like a right skinflint. I know DS wont be bothered but I feel bad about it. I feel like I should have offered to make something else. What would you have done?

I think maybe I am feeling it a bit because I havent spent much on them this half term, although we have had a nice week.

You made a gracious offer of some food, it was declined and an offer of alternative food was made to your son, no problem.

Tish_P

Don't feel bad. You'd made a delicious meal, you'd not been given any notice that the other kid might be coming, and other people's fussiness is not your problem.

The other kid's mum is probably posting somewhere "Feeling like a bad mother. I bought my kid junk food because he wouldn't eat the homemade curry at his friend's house!"

heretolearn_2

Tish that is so true!

Feeling guilty over nothing is part of a mum's job description.

OP - you don't have to feel bad. Ask the friend around for dinner another night.

quintwins

maybe off to make them a pizza next week if it makes you feel better, i'm so glad i don't have that problem yet the worst i have to feel bad about is my 4 year old just got brain freeze from ice cream:eek:

YORKSHIRELASS

Thanks everyone, you have made me feel better. OH has also just said that it was a bit short notice and I shouldnt feel bad about not making an alternative meal at 4pm.

I do find it hard with my friends kids though, they all seem to be fussy eaters. My own kids eat pretty much whatever is put in front of them. I invited another friend to stay for tea a couple of weeks ago and he said he didnt like lasagne.

Oh well, the OS bonus is that there is a good portion of chicken curry left to go in the freezer!

katieclampet

Tish_P wrote: »

Don't feel bad. You'd made a delicious meal, you'd not been given any notice that the other kid might be coming, and other people's fussiness is not your problem.

The other kid's mum is probably posting somewhere "Feeling like a bad mother. I bought my kid junk food because he wouldn't eat the homemade curry at his friend's house!"

:rotfl:That sounds about right! Why do we (mothers) always beat ourselves up!!

katie

Dazi

I agree, no need to feel bad. You had a perfectly good meal you could offer his friend, his friend didn't want it.

Have to say, my kids are a lot older but can remember kids coming to tea who would not eat what we had and had a jam sandwich instead!

There was one delightful child who would only eat omlette and peas, didn't come to mine but went to a friends and wouldn't eat the omlette as it had brown bits on it, said friend was mortified when the kids mum came to pick her up and the child cried and said she was hungry cos she couldn't eat the omlette as it had poo on it :rotfl:needless to say when my DD wanted to invite her for tea after school I said oh what a shame, I haven't got any eggs

I would say invite the boy over to yours and let them make their own pizza (I also used to find this was a good thing as it took up a lot of time:D)

charlies-aunt

Dazi wrote: »

There was one delightful child who went to a friends and wouldn't eat the omlette as it had brown bits on it, said friend was mortified when the kids mum came to pick her up and the child cried and said she was hungry cos she couldn't eat the omlette as it had poo on it

:eek: :rotfl: :eek: :rotfl: :eek:

Didn't know whether to tut or laugh! Can't think that the little dear got asked more than once anywhere!