Feeling like a bad mother!

globalds

Nice thread this one.

I reminded me of when I was a kid and stopped over at a mates.

His Mom made me cornflakes with Sterilised milk ...I had only ever had Pasteurised ..That was the hardest breakfast I ever managed to finish

Lip_Stick

globalds wrote: »

Nice thread this one.

I reminded me of when I was a kid and stopped over at a mates.

His Mom made me cornflakes with Sterilised milk ...I had only ever had Pasteurised ..That was the hardest breakfast I ever managed to finish

You're lucky. I can remember umpteen times asking my mam if my best friend could stop for tea.... NO... was the reply. She did let my bed wetting friend stay over for a week in the caravan on holiday, and I felt a bit embarrassed about it, not knowing that she'd talked with her parents so knew the situation. All I could think was 'my mum is going to go nuts!'

katholicos

When my daughter was young, we invited her best friend around for tea....when she saw we were eating bolognese she wrinkled her nose up and said 'oh, i don't like that sauce, i will just eat the pasta without sauce'.

So i gave her what she wanted. I felt awful serving her plain cooked pasta but she had requested it and as tea was on the table i was not about to start cooking for a finicky child. I think i felt most odd about it because i had visions of her telling her mother that i had only served up plain cooked pasta for tea.

Fortunately i knew her mum quite well and new her daughter was 'a bit OCD' when it came to food (by the mothers own admission).

OP, don't give yourself a hard time, you offered a meal to the child, the child declined, your child got a free meal out of it and you got extra for the freezer. It's a win win situation :-)

rosie383

I now only ever make pasta if I have unexpected kids in for tea. We eat a varied diet with almost everything cooked from scratch. I no longer put the time and effort into trying to get other peoples' kids to eat something fancy. I do pasta as all the kids like it, and then they can have it plain, with cheese, whatever.
Mind you I was secretly giggling to myself in the kitchen the other day. DD1 pal invited herself to tea. She eats the worst diet ever. She doesn't eat breakfast, doesn't take a packed lunch to school or have school dinners, instead she gets between £2.50-£5 per day :eek: to spend at school. She eats NO fruit or veg at all!!! Well, she was here the other day and I had spag bol for tea. She lapped it up........ loved it, but if you saw her face when I told her it was full of grated veg ( carrots onions tomatoes etc) plus oats. Well........:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
My daughter thought it was hilarious. I have to say I didn't feel guilty at all. I asked her if she wanted what we were having, and she could have been welcome to plain spaghetti if she'd wanted.

duchy

I think there's two types of picky with food kids. The ones where strange or unliked foods are almost phobic -and the spoiled type who have parents who will rush to offer alternatives as a matter of routine.

Mine falls somewhere between the two-he has aspergers which means like and dislike are two extremes with not much middle ground-even at 19 he will not eat anything green knowingly -thankfully he likes fruit even if it's green though however I've always worked on two principles-"You can't say you don't like it until you've tried it" and "If you are a guest you eat what you can and leave the rest and are polite about it". He got back yesterday from an adventure couple of days in the Peak District-He didn't starve !

Kids have dislikes for all kinds of reasons -so long as your child is getting proper nutrition don't worry about other people's kids. Quite honestly though I think the other Dad was a bit rude-knowing you'd prepared a meal and then giving both kids something else gave his kid an odd lesson in graciousness and manners.

destroyerofdebt2011

As a child i was brought up on very bland diet because thats what my parents ate. Meat, peas occasionaly other veg and potatoes only was what was served most probably 5 nights out of 7 with one night being fish and chips from the chippy and pizza (only cheese and tomato) from a takeaway another night.

I used to enjoy going to other peoples houses it made me discover many other flavours i would never have been exposed too. i used to smell all the yummy smells coming from the kitchen and always viewed that if my mate liked what his mum was cooking then i was sure on hell most probably would too. italian and indian cooking in particular were some of my fav. My mum tried to tell this one mum in particular that i wouldnt eat lasagna as i didnt like that kinda food till the other mum chirped up and said well she had it last week and asked for seconds along with the other kids.

Sometimes i think the fussiness is just a creation of the parents own tastes enforced on their kids i've always liked spicy foods, but u still wont catch my father in particular eating anything that even smells slightly of garlic let alone has chilli or curry powder in it.

Dont feel guilt OP you will prolly find ur child has already talked with their mate and deicided on their next playdate and discussing whos got the best tea lined up u can garentee the one serving the chips will win over the one serving potatoes and veg... because in kids eyes grown ups eat potatoes and veg just look at the kids menus on most resturants.

YORKSHIRELASS

I suppose that as adults we tend to forget that food isnt really all that important to kids.

My boys have eaten the same as us since they were babies. I know some parents who have this idea of adult food being different to childrens food but I was never brought up that way. We all sit down together and eat the same evening meal every day. When the boys were little and we were having something spicy I just made a very mild version for them.

Of course there are some things the kids dont like. Eldest son hates fish pie for example, so we never have fish pie for tea, unless he is out. Neither of them are very good at eating salad but thats no big deal, they can have veg instead.

When they went through the fussy toddler stage they didnt have to eat their tea if they didnt want it. No big deal to me, but there wasnt an alternative. If they didnt eat what was on their plate they didnt get anything else. Maybe I have been really lucky but that worked for me and we now have a good list of family meals that everyone likes and I can rotate these around which makes life easy and keeps the grocery bill down.

I do remember when I first met my husband he "didnt like" a lot of things that he had never tried. I know his Mum used to cook about four different meals every evening because no-one would eat the same. I remember going round there for tea and thinking what a nightmare it was and vowing to not be like her when I had my own kids.

ab7

globalds wrote: »

Nice thread this one.

I reminded me of when I was a kid and stopped over at a mates.

His Mom made me cornflakes with Sterilised milk ...I had only ever had Pasteurised ..That was the hardest breakfast I ever managed to finish

Think thats bad I can top that I'm a Scot raised on porridge with salt went to stay with my cousins for a week and was given porridge with sugar :eek: It was so sweet it made my teeth quiver :rotfl:

Taliahmai

I think i need to change my meals so my sons friends stop asking to come round lol.....he has 3 of his friends that fight to come over for tea as they love it when i do either pancake nights or pincic nights. both of which usually end up with me cooking a huge batch of pancakes and laying out loads of differnet topping ideas (or doing an indoor picnic) then dragging all the quilts down on the living room floor and putting some dvds on while they eat it......(we normally have dinner at the table every night but this is always a treat they love, ive not yet found any of his friends that didnt like the pancakes lol

zippychick

As this is more a families related subject , and it's dropped down the OS board, I've moved it to the families board where you will get some more input. I wouldn't feel bad about it but would plan a pizza making night with the boys ! They would love it.

Zip

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