Real life MMD: Should I ask ex for money?

looby75

adrian_clark wrote: »

You are of course right. It is important to know the situation in order to offer any useful help. However, it's also an opportunity to recognise the ugly truth that it is more often than not men who fail to honour their wedding vows. I can only represent the male perspective: Loving a women well takes action and commitment. It takes overcoming all the sexual temptation, addictions and nonsense that culture conveys to the male species. Would you say that we would face fewer of these calamities, that fracture families and so often takes children from their fathers, if men treated women with the dignity, value, honour and respect they deserves as wives and mothers, while providing and protecting in accordance with promises made at the outset of their marriage? There is helpful studies of the roles and purpose of men and women at www.marshillchurch.org

I really wish you would stop jumping to the conclusion that it's the man's fault that the relationship broke down and stop spamming the thread with you link to a church website that has no relevance to the discussion.

as your previous posts were removed by admin shouldn't that be enough to tell you they are inappropriate here?

adrian_clark

looby75 wrote: »

I really wish you would stop jumping to the conclusion that it's the man's fault that the relationship broke down and stop spamming the thread with you link to a church website that has no relevance to the discussion.

as your previous posts were removed by admin shouldn't that be enough to tell you they are inappropriate here?

I am sorry, I need to be clearer. I am seeking to keep my contributions highly relevent, appropriate and helpful. Spam is stuff imposed; whereas the link above is simply proposed as having helpful information for financial and relational matters to which this thread refers.

Do you not see that I am admitting none of us know the imortant and intimate details? This is why discussing the broader general lessons relating to money matters and relationships seems appropriate. My question to the previous contributer was intended to examine those issues so that we can each seek to learn from one another.

I am simply seeking to participate, see where we can share experiences and help each other. I cannot see that the many cruel comments on this thread targeted at the woman who asked the question are helpful. Is not loving our spouse's better the path to better stewarship of finances? Is not two www.moneysavingexperts.com , living and thinking in unity better than two facing emnity, calamity and conflict? History so often proves, that the man has failed to keep his lifelong binding promises and has not been held to account, this thread exposes that shameful issue so that we can condsider helpful solutions, hence the link in my previous contribution, you're welcome. :money:

adrian_clark

tallgirld wrote: »

Just say to him

"Look i'm skint. I can not afford to drive 200 miles anymore so can you come and visit the children yourself?"

Exactly, "man up cupcake".

yvonne13_2

You can't change the goal post and suddenly ask him for extra money.
If you are struggling with money that's your business, you had the chance to have double what you are getting in the first place.
Sorry to sound harsh but whether he is on descent money or not is not your business and I don't think its fair to complain when it was you that agreed to take half the money in the first place.

adrian_clark

yvonne13 wrote: »

You can't change the goal post and suddenly ask him for extra money.
If you are struggling with money that's your business, you had the chance to have double what you are getting in the first place.
Sorry to sound harsh but whether he is on descent money or not is not your business and I don't think its fair to complain when it was you that agreed to take half the money in the first place.

Should we not seek what is best for the welfare of the children? Does not their mother have their best interests at heart? Should men who abandon women not be dealt with for their broken promises and cruelty?

mattcanary

adrian_clark wrote: »

You are of course right. It is important to know the situation in order to offer any useful help. However, it's also an opportunity to recognise the ugly truth that it is more often than not men who fail to honour their wedding vows. I can only represent the male perspective: Loving a women well takes action and commitment. It takes overcoming all the sexual temptation, addictions and nonsense that culture conveys to the male species. Would you say that we would face fewer of these calamities, that fracture families and so often takes children from their fathers, if men treated women with the dignity, value, honour and respect they deserves as wives and mothers, while providing and protecting in accordance with promises made at the outset of their marriage? There is helpful studies of the roles and purpose of men and women at www.marshillchurch.org

What a load of !!!!!!!!. You are an insult to men all over the world - automatically assuming the man to be in the wrong? How do we know it wasn;t the OP in this case that was playing around - if indeed anyone was?

Get back to your church and stop spamming this thread with your claptrap

mattcanary

adrian_clark wrote: »

Should we not seek what is best for the welfare of the children? Does not their mother have their best interests at heart? Should men who abandon women not be dealt with for their broken promises and cruelty?

Er, it was the OP (a woman) that moved over 200 miles away, not the man. Broken promises and cruelty - where has this been mentioned on either side here?
Can not a father have the best interests of their child at heart, as well as a mother?

We are talking about two parents (ie: two human beings) here and their child. !!!! off with your gender stereotyping to where the sun doesn't shine