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Lucy1010

Hey Googlewhacker

It is so easy for a man..

beachie

Lucy1010 wrote: »

Hey Googlewhacker

It is so easy for a man..

For some men it is, for some it is not - the same applies to both sexes.

I am male and find it uncomfortable to be sat in the pub on my own however I do love going for walks along the beach of walking on my own.

Aesop

Lucy1010 wrote: »

Hey Googlewhacker

It is so easy for a man..

I know a man who will not go and eat dinner in a restaurant on his own. he will go to a pub on his own but not dinner, etc.

curlygirl1971

Lucy - just PM'd you. For gods sake make sure you make yourself a brew first..........(Its the mother of all PM's )

bluebag

Lucy1010 wrote: »

Ladies, namely CaledonianPrincess, Kerri, CurlyGirl, DMS, Everhopeful, Schoolrunmum, and anyone else that is thinking the same...

Have you not been in a situation where uninvited men invade your space thinking that because you are on your own you need some company? That's what has happened to me whilst left at a bar for a few mins in the past...

This is what I worry about... appearing desperate and a good hunt for lonely fat blokey at the bar sipping at his pint.....

Great idea to take laptop/kindle/book... but what is the point of sitting yourself in a bar when you could be at home on sofa with laptop? What's the difference apart from being chatted up by lonely fat blokey OR envying the group of people having a laugh sat next to you...?

LOL I am soooooo optimisitc aren't I! :rotfl:

Yes, you do get some of the chat up at times, sometimes it's Mr 'oh you poor dear, I feel sorry for you' (contemptable oik) and sometimes it's an interesting chappy looking for conversation.

Some of it depends on the venue as some places attract the contemptable oik more than others, but generally easy to deal with by politely closing the conversation and returning full attention to the book.

Mr interesting however may get the book stashed in the handbag.

I only ever had one complete idiot who was being a bit of a stalker at a club, I talked to the bouncers about it an explained he was making me uncomfortable and I was there alone. They threw him out.

Lucy1010

Aesop wrote: »

I know a man who will not go and eat dinner in a restaurant on his own. he will go to a pub on his own but not dinner, etc.

Hi Aesop

Last year on a lovely holiday I noticed a man holidaying by himself. He sunbathed everyday by himself, he ate lunch by himself and then he got dressed up for dinner and sat by himself. He didn't make any friends during the trip (most guests were couples) and I felt guilty for not saying hi in case we got lumbered with him (terrible to feel like that and I do feel somewhat guilty)

I felt sorry for him. He looked so lonely.

I don't want to "look" like that lonely person.

poddle911

Hi Lucy

I'm all in favour of doing things on your own, whether you're single or not! I used to feel the same - that I'd look sad and lonely having a glass of wine on my own - but nobody knows your circumstances except you. You could be in a fabulous relationship with some gorgeous man who is off on a business trip and just fancy a drink; you could be in a mediocre relationship and have left your OH at home watching the telly or anything!

The only difference is your perception - maybe the man on holiday wasn't lonely? Maybe he was content in his own company and enjoying a break. As I said, I always used to hate seeing people eating alone in restaurants until my OH pointed out that it was much more sad for someone on business or who fancied a nice meal to be sitting in their hotel room/at home on their own.

Sorry if I'm coming across as preachy! I'm not a great example as I probably didn't realise this until I was in a relationship, but now I'm happy to sit and have a drink on my own or go to a museum or whatever on my own. Obviously don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with, but it's easy enough to get rid of unwanted attention and you may well meet Mr strong arms!

vka1

Having read all these thoughts, I just have to pitch in! I'm with you Lucy1010.

I cannot stand having a drink or a meal out on my own, even if there is a perfectly plausible reason for it, like being away for work or killing time while waiting for a train, friend, whatever....I'm not sure if people judge or not - some do some don't I guess. But, when it comes down to it, i'd rather save the pennies I have for such indulgences on sharing them with friends.

Going to classes, shopping, walking purposefully through the park etc all fine. Alone in a pub? Phew, I admire all those who can enjoy it!

V

kerri_gt

Lucy1010 - don't make me come (errr where do you live?) there and drag your single ar*e out to a pub and physically shove you through the door to the bar :rotfl:

You are the queen of ifs/buts/maybes and 101 reasons not to step out and do things sometimes Now I'm not suggesting you start hanging around all the bars in your town each and every night (for one that wouldn't be good for your debt busting :rotfl:) but stop worrying so much about what may/may not happen.

Yes, someone might make an advance who you aren't particually interested in, but just be polite and say so - alternatively, you might find that they are really good company and you have a new friend. On the flip side, some drop dead gorgeous guy might sidle across to the bar...and there goes single life

As for what people think a) if you don't know them, what does it matter what they think and who are they to judge? b) they are most likely not in the slightest bit interested about why you're there and couldn't pick you out of a police lineup if their lives depended on it.

If you want to go out for a sunny walk, go, enjoy the sun and be happy. Perhaps take a camera, or a book, or a picnic and enjoy the world around you. Even if you're not in direct conversation with someone, you're still part of what you're seeing (blimy! that's a bit deep for a Tues night...off for a cuppa now )

Lucy1010

vka1 wrote: »

Having read all these thoughts, I just have to pitch in! I'm with you Lucy1010.

I cannot stand having a drink or a meal out on my own, even if there is a perfectly plausible reason for it, like being away for work or killing time while waiting for a train, friend, whatever....I'm not sure if people judge or not - some do some don't I guess. But, when it comes down to it, i'd rather save the pennies I have for such indulgences on sharing them with friends.

Going to classes, shopping, walking purposefully through the park etc all fine. Alone in a pub? Phew, I admire all those who can enjoy it!

V

So glad I am not on my own with this! Thanks VKA!