Struggling.. failing miserably.. don't know what to do or how to feel anymore :(

Messrs_Arthur_and_Terry

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I am exhausted.. depression.. fed up.. my motivation has gone.. I need sleep.. I am now barely eating on a day to day basis.. instead eat rubbish in the evening to comfort myself.

Why will no one help me? Why am I treated like I make it all up?
Is that how I come across? An attention seeking idiot who will make things up about my baby just for a conversation???

Well let's look at your strengths. You already have another child so you must know a thing or two. You know you aren't coping and therefore believe there is a solution. You are asking for help and empathy so you are functioning.

Let's look at what you boy is coping with. He doesn't have a daytime nap, he's been crook for five mnths out of six. He has a red throat and bowl problems. He's not getting a good sleep. Knock out the fact that six month olds are a problem anyway and your kid still appears to have something wrong with him.

I'm no expert by any means, but I am a father. My wife would have had our kids in to hospital with possible strep throat or some other infection pronto.

One of the simple methods to reduce nightime dirty nappys is to give junior a warm bath before bedtime. This will relax the muscles and encourage movement before settling down for the night shift.

sjc3

Im so sorry for what you are going through. It sounds like silent reflux to me too. When you mentioned that he tenses his muscles and throws himself back and the red raw throat. I so hope the gaviscon will work.

I would definately go back to another doctor and get a second opinion. Babies dont cry and scream like your little one does unless something is not quite right. If they are ok in themselves and all their needs are met ie clean, dry, fed, warm etc then their natural instinct is to sleep. Its quite obvious from what you wrote that something is stopping your little one being able to settle.

I have been in your shoes, my dd had an awful time of it for the first two years of her life with extreme eczema. As hard as it was too cope with we at least knew what was wrong and how to help soothe it. Sending massive ((((hugs)))) as I know how hard it is to cope on hardly any sleep.

Do you have any friends or relatives who can help you. If you are not sleeping and barely eating then you quickly run the risk of making yourself very ill. As your little one is only 6 months your body is still recovering from carrying him and giving birth. Please turn to someone close to you for more help.

teasleym

I have a 4 mth old with reflux, only diagnosed a couple of weeks ago and she has always struggled to sleep. We have been given ranitidine to help soothe her stomach.
If you think it could be silent reflux and the waking up uncomfortable sounds v familiar, you can try propping up one end of the cot so that his head is higher than his stomach, this helps my little one a bit. Also although people frown on them, dummies help them, the sucking makes them feel better.

I know how you feel, my little one was waking up constantly and the only thing that would soothe her was to be fed, but as she has "normal" reflux this would lead to her being v sick, not very good in the middle of the night! Like yours she doesn't sleep too much and likes to be held to be settled down, she's been screaming all morning whilst I've been out and about with her in her pushchair! She finally went to sleep in the car, so I've left her in her car seat for some peace and quiet!
Is it possible to see a different doctor at your practice, my doctor was very good and referred us to a pediatrician straight away, but if he hadn't I know which day is his day off and I would have made an appointment with a different doctor on that day.
I hope you can get some help, I know exactly how you feel, I have my husband to help me and he has come to the doctors with me so I can get some sense, but it must be really hard on your own. I have been struggling too and I hope you can get some help.

SingleMumOf2_3

sorry I havent replied to you all. Just wanted to update really. Spoke to a few osteopaths for advice and they all said it could definetely help him. So I have booked him in with a local one for tomorrow afternoon. They have even said after checking him and taking his history if she feels it will not benefit him, then she will not charge me. So I have put my ipod nano on ebay to fund it fingers and toes crossed please that we finally find something to help my little man to be happy and settled. We really could do with some happiness after all the stressed and strains we have been through.

sjc3

Bless you, you are such a good mum. I really hope this appointment helps. Sounds like you have found a good one to go and see. Do let us know how you get on hun.

Britwife

I'm so sorry hun that you are having to deal with this but I have to say, I admire how you're handling it and seeking out help. I think if it was attention seeking crying, he would have just started but seeing that he started when an infant, it's got to be something else.

I'm so hoping your apt goes great for him and it helps you all.

God bless