Struggling.. failing miserably.. don't know what to do or how to feel anymore :(

jeanniebeanie_2

Please go back to your GP (or another one) and insist on a referral to a paediatrician. Stand your ground without shouting and losing you temper, but INSIST.

The clue is in the title- GENERAL practitioner. Whilst they are an excellent front line service, they are not specialists. What you describe is in need of further investigation. You and and your child are suffering and it must not be allowed to continue. If you feel you will be judged or not taken seriously then tell yourself your child is suffering and you are the only person who can get him help.

Be concise. Take a bullet pointed list detailing symptom/concerns and ensure it is read.

Good luck

Edit: Cranial Osteopathy- I would not dissuade you from trying that in terms of relaxation- it could well make him more calm. It won't, however help with the "explosive poos and griping tummy" you have described.

Counting_Pennies_2

SingleMumOf2 wrote: »

so with him being forcepts delivery I have left well alone as the last thing I wanted was him to be even more unhappy.

This sends me a message.

Have you tried Cranial Osteopathy on him?

Many babies have a traumatic birth, and especially with forcepts this is going to cause no end of problem to his head.

Please if you try nothing else, get him to a good cranial osteopath. Ask around the baby clinics. If you are near Berkshire I can recommend someone really good.

I have known so many people who have had this, and after a couple of sessions they are different children.

hth

PS - please don't worry about posting, we wouldn't reply if we weren't happy to help where we can.

ailuro2

don't know the baby's history, and don't know medical history either, but now he's 6 onths old are you thinking about some solids for him? Might go longer between feeds, and of course you might get a nap when he naps - the whole world looks better after a good nap, doesn't it?

Have you asked your health visitor for help - keep a diary of when he sleeps / poos / cries so you can show her what he's like.

snookey

Hi Iv an idea of what your going through as my son woke on the hour every hour until he was 14 months.
First of all if you dont think the controlled crying is working dont do it. Its okay for the profs to tell you what they think you should be doing but they are not dealing with the situation. Second you will get through this.
My suggestions would be to use a beaker to give him milk as that way he may not take as much air in. Use a hot water bottle wrapped up in a towel to lay on his stomach if he shows stomach cramps. Putting him over your shoulder and walking up and down stairs can help with the trapped wind and some babys love the rythmic motion.
Hanging a childs plastic mirror at the side of his cot can focus his attention if he wakes early.
Leave his nappy off after a feed to allow air to circulate and it allows him to have free movement of his bottom half . Moving his legs should help any trapped wind.
If he is having loose bowl movements it could be that he is constipated. Sometimes an overflow can happen and explosive poo. Boiled water with a tablespoon of pure juice may help.
If all else fails go to a&e and insist they look at your son.

Quenastoise

I would second what the others said and insist that you get a referral. Trust your gut feeling.

rachbc

another vote for some cranial work, esp if he was a forceps. it really can work wonders xxx

FBaby

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

Have you tried Cranial Osteopathy on him?

My heart really goes to you and you have all my sympathy. I had two colicky babies and very little support and I remember the first months are the worse in my life. The feeling of helplesness at trying to comfort my baby and the overall exhaustion and lack of sleep was absolutely horrendous.

As stated above, I would try cranial osteopathy. I tried everything with my son, every possible bottles on the market, every treatment, lactulose free milk, homeopathy, you name i tried. The only thing I was hesitatant about was osteopathy, mainly because of the cost but also because I couldnt see how it would help. Well I will never know it is was that, but after only one session, the constant crying was over and he slept for the first time through the night at 5 months old. The osteopath did warn me that it could be worse because it got better and sure enough, it did, the first night after was worse than ever and i cursed myself for having done it and felt even more hopeless and loss, but the night after, he was another baby and after that, was such a gentle and happy baby, i couldn't believe he was the same. I took him again when he was 12 months old and suffered from a chest infection that wouldn't go away, and again, it really made a difference. Coincidence? Maybe, but i was certainly worth the money.

Good luck Mumof2, hang in there, it will get better.

building_with_lego

I have cranial osteopathy when I go to my chiropractor (she is multitalented!) and it's SO soothing it's hard to stay awake sometimes. See if you can find someone who treats babies *and mothers* and indulge yourselves. ((Hugs)) xx

Spendless

ailuro2 wrote: »

don't know the baby's history, and don't know medical history either, but now he's 6 onths old are you thinking about some solids for him? Might go longer between feeds, and of course you might get a nap when he naps - the whole world looks better after a good nap, doesn't it?

Have you asked your health visitor for help - keep a diary of when he sleeps / poos / cries so you can show her what he's like.

I'd not thought about this either as babies weaned younger when mine were little, so this is something else to look into.

Eager_Elephant

I would like to agree with Cranial Osteopathy - if you are in Suffolk I can recommend a good one.

My daughter was always a very poor sleeper, she used to wake at least 10 times a night, I read up on CO and found one in the nearest town.

I took her for one session and that night she slept through, after that she only used to wake 2 or 3 times which of course was brilliant.

The Osteopath suggested that as she had been born so quick her head did not have time to adjust to the size of the birth canal and so it was forced creating a pressure.

I wish I had done it sooner (but did not know) as I took her at nearly a year and of course she was reluctant to let anyone touch her head, obviously if they are younger it would be better.

EE