How to Get Through The Tough Times The Old Style Way.

fedupfreda

Thanks Greenbee - some good ideas there. :T

I'm looking at the sunset and listening to some cool sounds at the moment.:D

I was thinking of painting my toenails different bonny colours after the bath.

I'll come back with some more mood lifting ideas later - when the cogs have whirred into action :cool:

ceridwen

GreyQueen wrote: »

I had a look at the overlay which popped off LR7 (my back molar as my wisdom teeth are gone). Bearing in mind everything checked out fine in January, there is now a small wear hole in the metal so I think decay has started in what is left of the tooth and that caused the underlay to ping off. I've has it about 15-16 years and it was the last ditch then before a crown, so I am blaming IB for the wear and tear. And the pain and suffering which will no doubt follow. My own dentist doesn't work on Fridays but I got an emergency appt with his partner but I suspect it'll just have to be a patch job until next week.......thank goodness for savings and a £100 bonus from a bank account which will be coming my way next month....

Sorry to hear about this - both the hassle factor and the cost of dealing with it.

My first thought was "Ooh...I would be SO annoyed with Idiot Boy about that....". I know, I know that I have read MANY times in literature written over the last few years that "Its not what happens to you - its how you react to it that matters". Every time my reaction is the same - ie "Stuff and nonsense - try telling THAT to anyone who has been through any sort of major trauma that has been caused by other people:mad:".

By now - I take the view that "Some people DO cause trauma of some level or another to other peoples lives - whether accidentally or deliberately - and its best to just take a pragmatic view about it (as in thinking "I'm human - they might have an effect of some description and its best to plan for how to mitigate that effect until I've dealt with this/solved the problem"). In your case - its your teeth (as well as your sleep) that are suffering because of Idiot Boy. I know (from personal experience) that teeth grinding whilst asleep can result from being "put through the mill by someone/something" - and, by now, factor in extra time/attention at the dentists if I know I'm going through a "bad patch" in my life - because I have realised it will have an effect on my teeth.

I honestly think it makes a lotta sense to analyse any bad situation happening in one's life for the foreseeable future and realise that "This type of situation often has some sort of effect on people experiencing this sort of problem - so it may affect ME in the same ways and I must ensure that I look out for/put money to one side for dealing with the effects this sort of situation sometimes has on the people experiencing it".

It really DOES make a lot of sense to realise that - no matter how much you tell yourself "Do NOT feel bothered about it - just DEAL with it" that it might have the same effect on you as it will on many other people and plan on how to mitigate the effect until the problem situation is resolved.

Hopefully its only another couple of weeks and then the problem will be over with - as Idiot Boy will be living elsewhere. Fingers crossed for you GreyQueen.

Frugalista

fedupfreda wrote: »

So,as lots of people are obviously finding it tough at the moment - anyone got any good ideas as to how we can all cheer ourselves up - preferably not involving food? (what with tooth problems, colds, tummy trouble etc etc think we all best steer clear ATM!)

Anything cheap - or preferably FREE.:D

We could all do with some cheering up what with everything which has been going on at home and abroad recently.:(

So come on peeps - anyone got any good ideas on cheap mood lifters??

This thread will give you lots of ideas -

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2039611

HTH

ceridwen

redlady_1 wrote: »

Mad arthur LOVES Kale!!!

I am curious though, how do you propose someone keeps a child from screaming?

I was an ALMIGHTY screamer as a baby - leastways so my mother tells me:o - and the best way she found to deal with me was to hand me to my father (at which point I apparently promptly shut up and started "batting my eyelashes" at moi daddy:rotfl:). I was always a Daddys Girl and he could deal with me when my mother couldnt.

I think it would be perfectly "fair" to mention to the parents that the baby's screams are coming through the wall - as maybe they havent realised how thin the walls are before buying the house (errr...yes...I do think the peeps producing noise are the ones responsible for dealing with it - rather than the poor peeps on the "receiving end".....).

But - I guess its benefit of doubt to start with that maybe the parents didnt realise how thin the walls are and that adaptation (by the parents...) will be needed.

Fingers crossed that - once the problem has been pointed out to them - that they will work on ways to solve the problem (whether by handing the child to opposite sex parent to cuddle, soundproofing THEIR place, moving to a home with thicker walls or whatever). But - it is true that a child screaming is the parents' problem to deal with (and not the neighbours' problem).

Hope this is successfully resolved soon.

Rowan9

Squeaky - your post was really inspirational. Good luck with the belt tightening. I look forward to hearing how you get on.
Made some spinach soup today from a reduced pack - 40p. It's made quite a lot and is so dark green it's got to be healthy!
Got Economy Gastronomy from the library when I went in to collect my requested book. I enjoyed the prog when it was on and will have a flick through the book to see what I'll make. On a mission to empty freezer though so we'll be having odd things for the next few days and no bulk cooking.
W

ooops cross posted with Ceridwen - just want to say that NO parent wants their child to be crying. Sometimes it just isn't easy to 'solve the problem'

ChocClare

GreyQueen - yes, the chicken freezes extremely successfully. I often batch cook it and then freeze it in foil tubs for instant(ish) meals.

Sorry to hear about your tooth - I do sympathise as I've just had to have a bridge after my back tooth which was 98% filling collapsed. I'm not even going to tell you how much it cost :eek:. To be fair, I haven't had anything done to it since I was about twenty, so it's hardly surprising.

On the veggie chilli front - my DD is a vegetarian, and I made her a veggie chilli the other day with JUST vegetables in it. I used beans (French), broccoli, peppers, onions, leeks, mushrooms, carrots, 2 tins of mystery beans (can't remember what they were - black eyed and cannelli, I think) and 2 tins of tomatoes. Possibly 3. Go on, you've got plenty. Plus the usual chilli powder and a hint of cumin and some grated chocolate. It made enough to freeze and it was yumola. Certainly didn't need any Q in it - can't say I'm too fond of Q myself, though the "chicken" strips aren't too foul - I think they taste like bread cubes myself but apparently DD thinks they're nice :rotfl:Anyway, we all had some with rice and garlic bread and it was lovely.

Confession time: I am a soft Southerner. No way is my heating going off yet. It's only on for an hour while we get up and then it comes on again at 4 for when we get in in the afternoon. My sitting room could be used for the storage of meat and dairy products if the heating wasn't on...:rotfl:

Gailey, my boy had a Christening gown but I lovingly handcrafted and embroidered it in the days when I could be bothered to do such things. I also made him a wedding ring shawl out of 1 ply shetland lace wool. For my DD I made a different Christening gown which was more girly, and a bonnet, and a silk and wool coat as she was christened in December. I look at these items occasionally and marvel at how I managed to produce such things while working full time as a marketing manager in a very stressed-out job. Perhaps when I have grandchildren that time will come again (although probably not, as I have the whole collection now ). Or maybe I'll just drink gin.

shegar

purpleheather2810 wrote: »

Right I'm going to try this for tea tonight - surplus of milk and I was wondering if I could use normal rice since I'm trying to have a NSD... Does it really not need any sugar??

So how did the rice pudding go down??.....Im mad keen on rice since I found it microwaved lovely...:D I dont add sugar or anything it taste just right to me, although I cant have sugar I suppose ive got use to not adding it in foods..........I used just normal long grain rice tesco brand, yet when I went in the co op today to replenish stocks of rice..!!:j:D I bought the co op own brand and it say on the packet for puddings where as the tesco didnt say anything .......nerver mind rice is rice to me......:j

squeaky

ceridwen wrote: »

I honestly think it makes a lotta sense to analyse any bad situation happening in one's life for the foreseeable future...
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It really DOES make a lot of sense to realise that - no matter how much you tell yourself "Do NOT feel bothered about it - just DEAL with it"...

Sorry for the very selective quoting - but as I read the post it's these two points that leapt out at me.

This because they embody a fairly basic philosophy of life that can really help at times. Bad things of all kinds happen. Some of them you did (that's the generic you ) and others were done to you.

If you can't/won't/don't deal with them but instead fret, worry, harp-on about them they can stick with you for a long time. Eating away.

So yes, if you can step outside yourself a bit, aiming for a different perpective, and analyse what went wrong and why... once you've got that bit worked out you're more than half way home. What's left is to decide what you can and cannot do to remedy things or avoid that situation in the future.

Learn the lessons - then drop the rest in with the garbage - 'cos that's all it is.

In an earlier post I mentioned that I'd deliberately put myself in debt for the first time in years. It's not a big one but it's going to eat almost a quarter of my income for a year. And I'm not bovvered

It was scary as a big black scary thing for a day or two until I got hold of myself and told myself "Well you got yourself into this... so how are you going to deal with it?". I've been right through my bills and managed to save a bit here and there, I've given up two main "luxuries" (for a year ) I've hacked away at things and I'm now, after a busy old day, at the point where my short fall on meeting the payments without my finance going into reverse is a mere £14 per month.

So if I can't find fifty pence a day by going hard time OS and living off one or two extra bog-offs, special deals, and yellow stickers - well you can take me outside and shoot me

Everybody's situation is different, I know. But the technique of having a good look at things, working out what you're looking at, and then fixing what you can and living with the rest - that's what helps you sleep at night.

Same thing with future worries about Tough Times. Work out what they are, work out what you'll do IF it happens - then roll over and go back to sleep


Excerpt from Squeaky'sBigBookOfHardLifeLessons

ceridwen

I know that one set of neighbours I had previously (in a thin-walled place) dealt with the fact that they wanted to play their stereo at reasonable volume but realised that wasnt fair on the neighbours to do so deal with the issue by putting cork tiles up wall to wall, floor to ceiling on the adjoining wall. With that - once I became their neighbour - I was only (mentally) screaming at them to "shut up" once in the time I was there. Think that those cork tiles on the wall must have absorbed a normal level of noise. I wonder whether that would be something the parents of the screaming baby could do - and whether it would be sufficient to stop an "innocent party" (ie the neighbour) being put through this too?? I know cork tiles are very 1970s - but if dated decor is the way the parents could deal with this - then I guess thats what the parents will have to live with until the baby stops screaming? I'd certainly much rather live with dated decor personally than wondering how on earth not to inflict my problems on some "innocent party"...

I have read before now that its possible to have someone (ie the "noisemaker" in this case) put up those large (24 egg a time???) cardboard egg containers all up/down the wall concerned. I dont know if that actually works at stopping noise coming through the walls at someone?? Has anyone tried this?

I still think the parents need to be told about the problem (in a reasonable tone of voice) in case they hadnt realised and hope that they are reasonable enough people that they accept their need to solve it one way or another - if need be by modifying their house to stop noise coming through the walls at the neighbour.

shegar

Ive just thought of another cheap and cheerful desert to have ......its home made semolina...!:j that will be just as cheap to make as rice is............Next time I go shopping I will pick a packet up , its the cheapest way to make desert by making your own..........espeically when you have little children to feed , cos a big dish of home made rice or semolina will go further than buying one tin...............I was thinking about tapioca pudding, I remember when we were at school we use to call it "frogspawn".........

Ive got a little wren nesting in one of my nesting boxes in a ivy arch.......:D.sweet little thing, he really as a loud song to sing , I watched him taking stuff into the nest today, so I went in the chicken run and found a good handful of fluffy soft hen feathers and scattered them within 10 foot odd of the nesting box, he wasnt long picking them up to line the nest with. Oh how sweet is that.........:j:D...what a beautiful time of year to see wildlife starting to nest, after such a cold winter, dont know how the poor birds got through it..........