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Am i entitled or penalised???
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If they are 16+ and your two are 2 and 4 then next year your eldest will be at school and your youngest will qualify for the free 15 hours a week and your childcare costs will go down. Your partners elder children will be 19 in a few more years and will need less financial support. The best option might be to look on it as a difficult and expensive situation which will gradually improve as from next year.
I think a lot of people face similar astronomical fees when their children are small, but you will reap the benefits as the situation lessens.0 -
Anxiousmum & lauzellen said that partners should be supporting one another & that what is his is mine & vice versa therefore meaning I should work to pay my oh & ex wifes debts!
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Hmm, I never said any such thing! lol I did say it was alien to me not to be supportive of each other, but didn't say you should be paying his wife's debts or his child support either, I do believe I was referring to your comment on 'his bills' - at the time, it was not known they were from a previous marriage! Again, please READ the posts before you make comments such as above - I just hate being misquoted. I do believe it's something you said I should do in an earlier post!0 -
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Are you still here anxiousmum...you do seem to want to argue with people rather than actually writing constructive helpful comments.
Maybe you are unhappy in your life as you seem intent on hijacking the post on a personnel level.
Go & busy yourself & I will check out my childcare vouchers!
Oh dear Sillysue .....I'm totally happy in my life at the moment thank you for commenting
It would be on a 'personal' level though - as I'm not into human resources/personnel. I'm not here to 'argue' with you, Sillysue, just correct where it is stated I have said something that I haven't in fact said! Apology for the misquotes accepted.
Good luck with the vouchers.0 -
I did ask about entitlement & people suggested that my oh stay at home to look after our children.
I explained that this wasnt financially possible due to other financial commitments he has..ie children & debt from marriage.
People then said I should work & pay for his other children & his wifes/ohs debts.
I explained why I would not do that & lauzellen posted mentioning inheritance she would have to share with siblings...
I merely replied to her post re inheritance so maybe you should "rant" at her for mentioning it 1st!
There has been nothing nasty said just facts.
Oh finances are a combination of debt from previous marriage & maintainance of other children.
I plan to look at work vouchers which are offered & thank you all for your imput.
Hold on one bloody min!! I merely mentioned it to show we are all equal in my family. You have no idea how I was treated initially as a child by my "step family" but we are all adults and have grown up, matured and moved on. I think it's absolutely disgusting that you should say you thankfully don't see you OHs children! "Thankfully" as they are 16+ and shall soon be too old to recieve maintenance your OH wouldnt "have" to provide for them anymore. Love how you say he has nothing when you are supposed to be equal!!Daughters Sealed Saving Pot - start them young :money: £90 :T0 -
The point is if the figures he puts down on paper ie declares to the taxman, are manipulated to take account of/hide his maintenance payments then they are not his true earnings, you are not showing your true household income, and I suspect if you were you would not be entitled to the benefits you are intent on claiming. It seems as if you resent the maintenance and so want the state to pick up the shortfall.0
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That depends on your true income as to whether or not your would be entitled... be warned the HMRC will find out if you claim something by deliberately fiddling the figures.
What happens when he will be considered to have contributed to your assets i.e. when in a much better situation?Daughters Sealed Saving Pot - start them young :money: £90 :T0 -
Sillysue - when your grammar insinuates something totally different to what is meant to be said, yes I'll correct it to be clear Just as, when I am misquoted, I will correct it to be clear.
I have a life.......and I'm loving it!!!!!!!
Putting you on my 'ignore' list now Sillysue, as you really do get my goat 0
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