Am i entitled or penalised???

charlieismydarling

Yes I do see it that way...they are someone elses children as they arent mine.
His ex wife doesnt pay for my children so why should I fund hers?
My children are my priority not other peoples.
We are a partnership but when I met oh thay had been separted for 2 years so no costly divorce or costs & lets be honest when you meet someone you dont request a financial CV on a 2nd date do you?

Er... Because his ex wife's children are also your OH's children too and they presumably live with her.
Your children may be your priority but your OH must give equal priority to both sets of children. Does he have debts form his first marriage? If so he would be better off looking for a higher paid job.

lauzellen

Do you have contact with your partners children? Because I sincerely hope not having been on the receiving end of a step mum who had that sort of view when I was a child - thankfully she has grown up and now treats me the same as her two sons from her previous relationships as my dad and step mum have been married for over 20yrs now after she nearly ruined the marriage with her views and opinions. My father on the other hand brought up her two boys as if they were his own right from the start - we are now one large family albeit we're now adults. I shall have to split my inheritance eventually with these other two men but I do not care as I see them as my brothers albeit by marriage. I am btw my dads only child.

p00hsticks

sillysue wrote: »

You expect me to pay for someone elses children, there divorce & someones elses water bill... Anyone else want me to pay anything for them???

This remark would sit a lot better with me if it didn't come from someone who is looking to see how much they can get other tax payers to contribute to their childrens child care costs ......

sillysue

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AnxiousMum

sillysue wrote: »

Thankfully I dont see his other children

Wow.....if my husband EVER made that comment - especially with the 'thankfully' in front of it, well, personally I'd show him the door. The fact that when we met, I had two children from a first marriage - I would totally expect that my children were accepted as part of the package. Yep - it can take effort, but at least he was prepared to make that effort for me, the mother of 'someone elses' children. My older children came long before my partner......and they'd be here long after him as well.

Actually, I hope your husband doesn't get to hear/read comments like that about his children......

Hopefully your attitude doesn't rub off on your own children too much - after all - they are brothers/sisters with your OH's eldest children!

charlieismydarling

This seems to have moved on from an enquiry regarding working tax credits onto something entirely different and quite nasty and the true nature of the OP is revealed.

You asked about entitlement. Now you are ranting about your OH's children from a previous relationship. And therein lies your problem and the resentment resulting from it . He has debts and other commitments that he brought to your relationship.

Talk of his children not inheriting from your will and your parents will is frankly ridiculous given the initial enquiry. And highly unpleasant too.

You may receive better responses from a forum dealing with relationship matters rather than one relating to benefits and tax credits.

sillysue

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charlieismydarling

It seems from what you post that the problem is that he pays too much maintainance? Or is it his prior debts?

Nevertheless, neither would affect entitlement to wtc or ctc.

sillysue

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charlieismydarling

People then said I should work & pay for his other children & his wifes/ohs debts

No they didn't. They suggested that it was financially nonsensical for your oh to work for so little money.

In fact if he stayed at home he would have to pay very little for his other children. The csa would not be able to come to you for any money.

I can understand your frustration with regard to prior debts and commitments brought into a relationship as been there and done that myself.