O/S Daily Thread Sunday 13th Feb

bargainbird

Ok, so it's just dawned on me it's valentines day tomorrow and would like to make a nice meal ....

What i'd like make for starter....I have a jar of and would like to make a soup any ideas....

Have mince that needs to be used thought Spag Bol any other suggestions ?

de1amo

i swing between thinking it is the drugs that i have to take that maintain life in a slightly depressioned state or deeper psychological 'learnt' patterns that havent been leant due to my unbringing--the nuturing process seems to have by passed me-whether that was due to my bi polar condition making me 'different! or parental i dont really know or blame anyone or thing--so is it cbt or dbt to try correct a behaviour that was never learnt or does depression make you a little less 'feely'---manics are nightmares for psychologists and you may be detecting why??
i have been stable for many many years but remain sensitive to the breeze blowing anywhere in this world but tend to be as sensitive as an elelphant when trying to express myself!! My wife chats on a turkish site for bi polar and she loves the reality of their personality--we have just talked aboout things and she revealed this startling fact! personally i try to keep my head down!

Loulou2010

de1amo wrote: »

i swing between thinking it is the drugs that i have to take that maintain life in a slightly depressioned state or deeper psychological 'learnt' patterns that havent been leant due to my unbringing--the nuturing process seems to have by passed me-whether that was due to my bi polar condition making me 'different! or parental i dont really know or blame anyone or thing--so is it cbt or dbt to try correct a behaviour that was never learnt or does depression make you a little less 'feely'---manics are nightmares for psychologists and you may be detecting why??
i have been stable for many many years but remain sensitive to the breeze blowing anywhere in this world but tend to be as sensitive as an elelphant when trying to express myself!! My wife chats on a turkish site for bi polar and she loves the reality of their personality--we have just talked aboout things and she revealed this startling fact! personally i try to keep my head down!

from what you say cbt may be more benefical but then again i'm not an expert. i'm not great with feelings either but have always put that down to my childhood (bad one ) and just missed that part of learning out. its hard to explain really. feelings to are just confusing and i have no idea what to do with them

de1amo

i was going to add to my mail--something i thought of while i was making my cuppa soup!

When manics get ill they tend to blow extremes of cash to a point where i have seen many ruined lives --mental illness is no forgiveness! when i was ill i fought with all my mind to stay controlled financially out of instinct(you lose the logic side of thinking and revert to base personality i think)--in recovery i saw the after math of the people with my illness trying to rebuild and it further 'steeled' my mind to seeking to gain security in money! if that makes sense--bi polar means obviously 2 extremes of mood --i think behaviour of spending to not spending are the echoes. i live in mind that being extravagant maybe is a sign of illness coming--the spending can trigger off the illness in feeling 'alive' its an intermingled system!
i will try cbt to see if i can learn the nuturing love!

Loulou2010

i guess it depends of the type of bipolar. they are several different types. for some the manic periods arent so frequent or 'manic'. but a big part of the illness is recognising the signs and getting in control of them before they spiral out of control. sounds you've managed that

jools27_2

de1amo- im not sure that you need to challenge things, or just find a way to accept and live with your feelings. Over the years many of the bipolar people I have worked with have struggled to accept their feelings/emotions when they are stable as they can actually feel their mood level is low when its not, many of them so much prefer to be a little bit "high",IYSWIM? It must be very difficult not having many people to talk to daily, though, even on a superficial "nice day today" kind of level.
Redruby, big hugs, I used to be like this with my in-laws, untilthe crisis of MIL having breast cancer forced her to accept help from "strangers"! Sadly FIL deteriorated mentally and she couldn't cope any longer, he is now in a nursing home and although at times the care isn't 100% what we would do we know they are both safe!

de1amo

The meds keep the illness under control but bubbling near the surface there is stress and physical expressions of inner tension--i can forget to take my daily meds but if i come across any slight stressor i go off like a boiling volcano-yesterday it was my family in the uk on skype, i wondered why i had risen to the bait and then i noticed i hadnt taken my meds--i had been ok all day at home with my wife and daughter!--i was chatting on here happily after the outburst and still hadnt taken them--i also suffer cycles of racing heart which has no medical reason--its just stress but is masked by the meds and expresses itself as fast heartbeat---as they say my buttons get pushed!
When i return to the uk i last about 7 days when i feel relaxed and happy to be there but after that the stress exhibits itself no matter how careful i am with my meds--i used to drink every night at least 2 bottles of wine when i lived there because everything around me was a trigger--here i feel at ease and despite having to work i feel a thousand times better--i can understand why people with my illness cant work in the uk but for me it is benficial both financially and mentally but back there is different
i can follow the not challenging the 'way of feeling but the feeling of slight depression is a bit like having a hangover or being 'unwell--the brain is all consuming and takes away rational cognitiveness--gawd i feel like dying! when 'you got a hangover! hangover never kill but the brain is depressed enough to make you feel it is preferable!
İ dont know what İYWSUSINM means lol

karren

went to first aid course with brownies 10-3 which was £5 but dont know if i can claim the money back yest but £5 wont break the bank
came home to lunch cooked and iroing done by hubby so ill ferry the rest of family to rugby match and pick up as thank you
and when they are there ill come home to chill and watch dvd as a rare treat to have time alone with out mound of iroing or cleaning to do
im working rest of week so have be organised later to sort unches etc for rest of week i batch cooked thurs so part organised for the teas.
so catch you all later in the week x

sistercas

halight wrote: »

I really wish people would stop telling how bad DDs are to bring up!
It dont make me feel any better as iv got two of them the same age, and all this to look forward too:eek::eek:

my DD's are lovely (most of the time)

Ruby (((hugs))) to you , its very difficult , you may have to put your foot down with your mum otherwise you will end up being run ragged x

Tappers how frustrating, good job you had insured him though x

i have just made DH a valentine cake , a heart shaped sponge with pink cupcake icing (was supposed to be red but didnt have enough red food colouring ) DD1 has decorated it with marshmallow hearts- i am also going to do him steak with peppercorn sauce and chips tomorrow :A

time for another cuppa

jc2703

Made Chicken & Ham pies, a batch of hobnobs, making a small pasta bake with the left over chicken & ham pie filling, bean & veg chilli in the slow cooker (smells fab!) and I think that might be me done for now!