O/S Daily Thread Sunday 13th Feb

Bitsy_Beans

Cranky - What happens if you say put him to bed at 6.30pm rather than 6pm? Can you try changing the time in increments rather than a big hourly jump and see if that helps? Have you spoken to the Dr at all to see what they can suggest?

Tru - Well done to Mr Tru

DD is doing the same thing. Again. At the top of the stairs moaning because I won't carry her down. I fear this will be a loooooooooooooong day of me trying to stop her pushing my buttons

jackieglasgow

What about bribes Bitsy? Pennies on every other stair for her to pick up, something like that? xxx

bargainbird

jackieglasgow wrote: »

What about bribes Bitsy? Pennies on every other stair for her to pick up, something like that? xxx

Or a choc button

Loulou2010

howold is she bitsy?

NoahsPennilessMummy

morning:D
Another one up very early with DS:o Trying to give DH a lie in but DS and his noises can get loud:eek:
Bitsy I would try the lots of praise route and ignoring the bad as much as poss....therefore she is getting lots of attention for being good and hopefully wonr feel the need to be bad on purpose iykwim
cranky i have the same thing here:cool:....except as he has got older he now goes to sleep later but still gets up at silly o clock:o. He is the same with food....I have learnt to feed him regularly and leave a drink out at all times as he wont think to ask for one. If he is late with a meal or doesnt eat properly he gets very angry and grumpy and by then you cannot explain to him that he needs to eat something;).
People at work etc still say to me " oh how do you manage" etc it drives me nuts....what else can I do he is my son! You have to carry on. As long as you feel happy there is no underlying problem then thats fine....and they shouldnt forget he has had a big upset in his life and that is bound to affect him to some extent. Hope you have a good day with him today and he eats a huge roast dinner:D

I am full of cold today...have had a migrane for a few days on and off and now awful head cold
Am doing nothing OS today am chilling with DS:D
Making Chicken roasted with chorizo for tea later......DS will have sausage, yorkshires, mash and veg ( most of it already made previously and frozen;))
DH still enjoying playing with his new toy....internet radio....I think he regrets getting it sometimes as I have it on Spanish stations and he hasnt a clue what is going on:rotfl:

Bitsy_Beans

Lou she's 2 and a half. Up until last couple of weeks she was fantastic. Really compliant, sweet natured and helpful. But lately she's just awkward, runs off when I try and get her coat and shoes on (thinking it's all a big game), won't lie still to be changed or dressed, won't walk properly (kicks off at nothing and then won't be chivvied along), won't go in pushchair either (have to fight to get her in as she arches her back). DS had his moments at the same age but she's far worse. Its a standing joke at school with my friends, they know I am coming as they can hear DD screaming her head off!

She just sits and smiles when I tell her off, she doesn't like being on the time out step but that's not preventing or changing her behaviour and trying to get her 2 year old brain to understand actions have consequences.........<sigh> I do carry out my threats and she cries if I take her toys off her but nothing seems to be improving her behaviour. Apparantly my niece who's 5 months older was exactly the same and is a bit better now. However I fear my sanity will not last that long! I don't expect her to never misbehave, she's a kid after all but every day it's a nightmare and as much as I hate to admit it I don't like her very much at the moment <insert guilty mummy icon>

jc2703

Morning all

Must be the weekend for stroppy kids. My DS2 flew off the handle yesterday flinging his remote at the wall and exploding. I calmly told him to pack a bag a leave. I put up with that carry on of his father for 15 years and I'm not putting up with it from him. DH was at work (thank god otherwise DS2 would have ended up out of the window) I went out for a while and told him to be gone when i got back. he wasnt and he asked where he was supposed to go and i told him I didnt care. And at that point I realy didnt. It was as if his behaviour had flipped a switch and a huge barrier dropped. Strange to feel that way. Anyway DH asked if he would wait until he got home and then he was extraordinarily calm and rational. So DS2 is still here and under orders. And as for the younger ones - I am very close to telling DD to pick a window......

So I drank stupid amounts of alcohol last night which did lift my mood and i feel ok this morning - just read the riot act to DD and told her I am sick of her stamping feet, shouting, screaming, tantrums and if she doesn't belt up she will be going to live in the Naughty Girls home I could arrange a mini bus with national pick-ups if required

Today will be spent mostly [STRIKE]hiding in the kitchen [/STRIKE] cooking and baking as the younger kids are off school this week so I'll fill the biscuit tins, make chicken and ham pie for todays dinner and take out some braised mince from the freezer to make a shepherds pie for tomorrows dinner. I also fancy making a Mixed bean Chilli to portion up and put in the freezer for my dinners.

Still on the healthy easting thing, still listening to Paul McKenna and the only 'bad' thing i've had is the redbull last night....not too bad considering I'd been at it a month yesterday. haven't been weighed again yet so will try and do that this week.

Enjoy your Sunday x

halight

tru wrote: »

Morning :hello:

We saw one of mr tru's old friends yesterday, they used to work together, in fact mr tru taught him everything he knows He started his own business a couple of years ago. He asked how work was going, we told him about the redundancy. He rang us later in the day and asked us to meet him and his wife in a nice country pub, where he offered mr tru a job :j :j :j It's about a 20 minute drive to work, much better than an hour and 15 mins :j It's less money than he's on ATM but still do-able for us and he'll get a van instead of a car (who cares! lol). They asked me what I do, not as part of the chit-chat but when we were talking seriously. I don't know if that means anything or not. Though I'm a very good whipper (I'll leave that to your imagination, lol) and he knows that, I did it a couple of days a week when they worked together.



I'm going to carry on stockpiling til the end of March, while his wages are higher.

That's it, no OS from me but I just had to tell someone Please keep this off FB for now, we had a plan (just a little one) which we still want to carry through, can't do that if people from his current job know about the new job

ETA - it took me ages to type that (I wondered off halfway though to make a cuppa!) so I missed the other posts. Praise didn't work for my kids either! I'd be boiling inside, but gave the impression that their bad behaviour didn't bother me in the slightest. And I developed 'the look', that seemed to do the trick. I can't remember anything else - my youngest is 19yo.

Well that great news about Mr trus job:T:T
Just goes to show that you can have everything you wont in life by helping other get whta they wont!.
If mr tru had not taken the time to teach that other man so well. Year later the other men would not have been able to offer him a job when he most needed it. Just goes to show the things we do now can pay off one day, Even if its years down the line.

Loulou2010

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Lou she's 2 and a half. Up until last couple of weeks she was fantastic. Really compliant, sweet natured and helpful. But lately she's just awkward, runs off when I try and get her coat and shoes on (thinking it's all a big game), won't lie still to be changed or dressed, won't walk properly (kicks off at nothing and then won't be chivvied along), won't go in pushchair either (have to fight to get her in as she arches her back). DS had his moments at the same age but she's far worse. Its a standing joke at school with my friends, they know I am coming as they can hear DD screaming her head off!

She just sits and smiles when I tell her off, she doesn't like being on the time out step but that's not preventing or changing her behaviour and trying to get her 2 year old brain to understand actions have consequences.........<sigh> I do carry out my threats and she cries if I take her toys off her but nothing seems to be improving her behaviour. Apparantly my niece who's 5 months older was exactly the same and is a bit better now. However I fear my sanity will not last that long! I don't expect her to never misbehave, she's a kid after all but every day it's a nightmare and as much as I hate to admit it I don't like her very much at the moment <insert guilty mummy icon>

dont feel guilty! give it a few months and i'll be saying the same when my ds hits 2 :eek: mind you... he was being a terror the other day :mad: i'm sure someone famous said once that being two is like being a teenager :eek:

with the stairs - how good is she with them? is she able to walk down them herself? if you were downstairs, singing, dancing, having a wonderful time (over exagerate it) her curiousity may get the better of her and she'll come down? obv wont work if she cant come down by herself iykwim?

Bitsy_Beans

Loulou2010 wrote: »

dont feel guilty! give it a few months and i'll be saying the same when my ds hits 2 :eek: mind you... he was being a terror the other day :mad: i'm sure someone famous said once that being two is like being a teenager :eek:

with the stairs - how good is she with them? is she able to walk down them herself? if you were downstairs, singing, dancing, having a wonderful time (over exagerate it) her curiousity may get the better of her and she'll come down? obv wont work if she cant come down by herself iykwim?

She can use them fine. Has done for 6 months. When she was a bit younger she was carried down in the morning but I've been explaining for months that she's too heavy and mummy has a poorly back so can't carry her. She accepted this and was happy for us to hold hands instead. It's like a control thing now, I left her up there whinging and she's bumped down on her bottom and is now happily playing.
She's also picking up stuff from DS, like his need to be first. She now wants to be first and they end up bickering.

Will make an effort to ignore the bad behaviour and increase the positive praise (which I do to an extent already but I shall do even more) and she's going in the pushchair regardless from now on. She'll whinge but tough.

Thanks for all your advice and comments. You lot rock