Rental property a total disgrace

BitterAndTwisted

Actually, I have dealt with a situation a bit like this with my neighbours a while back. I offered them help, and then advice. They were very nice about it and have never left stuff strewn about again.

This possible rat problem is just that at the moment, a possible one. And I think that you're worrying about this needlessly.

I have a vague feeling that I wouldn't like having someone like you living next door to me. I expect you'll be thinking about going to the police about the colour of their curtains next.

ILW

dantheman2010 wrote: »

You just dont know what offence people will take or the reaction if you are questioning or enquiring their cleanliness etc.

Thats why I was perhaps going to just put a letter through the door, just not sure what I would put.

I dont want to offend them. Its just tricky.

They are more likely to be offended by a letter, as if they do misunderstand any of it you will not be able to explain. In my experience, talking is always the best first choice.

dantheman2010

ILW wrote: »

They are more likely to be offended by a letter, as if they do misunderstand any of it you will not be able to explain. In my experience, talking is always the best first choice.

Thank you. I may just have to do it. Just a little unsure how I would go about it, without causing any offence.

BitterAndTwisted

Please don't put a note through their door. It can be seen as rather passive/aggressive, especially if said note came from someone living mere feet away.

How about smile and a friendly "Do you need some help shifting those cardboard boxes? Do you know when the collection day is for them? Maybe we can give you a hand with them"

dantheman2010

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Please don't put a note through their door. It can be seen as rather passive/aggressive, especially if said note came from someone living mere feet away.

How about smile and a friendly "Do you need some help shifting those cardboard boxes? Do you know when the collection day is for them? Maybe we can give you a hand with them"

This is better advice, I would do that but I rarely see them, I leave before they go to work and they come home after I do. All I was going to do was put what you suggested above in a short letter. I do think you are right though. So thank you for this post.

ILW

dantheman2010 wrote: »

This is better advice, I would do that but I rarely see them, I leave before they go to work and they come home after I do. All I was going to do was put what you suggested above in a short letter. I do think you are right though. So thank you for this post.

You are making excuses (and I think you know it). Take a deep breath, knock on their door, shake their hand, introduce yourself as their new neighbour and offer a bit of help. You have nothing to lose.

Gwhiz

Dan,

You've had similar advice from most posters. You HAVE to go and talk to the neighbour - there really is no alternative.

Why not pop round with a bottle of wine, welcome them to the area and say something like "I remember when I moved in it took me a week or so to get rid of all my crap. If you need any help, or need to know when the bin collections are, just ask"

theartfullodger

dantheman2010 wrote: »

TBS - does your username stand for Total Bull Sh*t??

Listen Dan, l****e, that sort of attitude is not helpful or the way matters should be conducted and unlikely to get you the help you want/need. (I accept admonishment for l****e btw...).

TBS is a very helpful, informed and highly regarded contributor... Wish I had her(?) time, energy & knowledge!!

I completely agree with TBS's comment - go talk to the neighbour for c***** sake!!

alfiesmum

dantheman2010 wrote: »

Thank you. I may just have to do it. Just a little unsure how I would go about it, without causing any offence.

Having read through your replies on this thread, I'm guessing that's a problem you have cropping up a lot in your life ...:rotfl:

dantheman2010

theartfullodger wrote: »

Listen Dan, l****e, that sort of attitude is not helpful or the way matters should be conducted and unlikely to get you the help you want/need. (I accept admonishment for l****e btw...).

TBS is a very helpful, informed and highly regarded contributor... Wish I had her(?) time, energy & knowledge!!

I completely agree with TBS's comment - go talk to the neighbour for c***** sake!!

Now I thought we were spending time making up scenarios for what our usernames could stand for. My mistake.