Improving my life in 2011

vasseur

Mags30 wrote: »

Woke up to the sad news this morning of the passing of one of our music friends. Not entirely unexpected, he had been fighting cancer for some time, but very sad all the same. RIP J

I really want to attend the funeral, and I will but it's about 3 hours drive from where I am now so I'm going to be on the road for a lot of the weekend.

This is so sad. One of my dear friends died in January after fighting breast cancer for 18 months. She went through all the horrific chemo and radiotherapy and it still came back. She was only 42. ***ing awful disease.

I think going to the funeral will be a good thing. It's all part of the healing process. Look at it as a celebration of his life not an occasion to mark his passing. Do drive carefully though.

Mags30

It's been a very emotional day and I'm exhausted. I need to be asleep but I can't sleep. After a week of pre-Christmas city traffic I was loving the country roads today UNTIL the final leg of tonight's drive. I could see ice on the road. Was quite an effort staying calm and being careful while making sure not to miss the places I needed to turn.

I know the route to where I was going but I don't know the area at all so if I got lost in the dark with ice on the road, well I have no idea how I would get out of that situation. It's difficult for someone to help you if you can't tell them where you are. Anyway none of that happened and I'm safe in my bed now.

Mags30

Many tears were shed at the funeral.

I was happy that the family put the framed photo I brought them on the coffin. His family don't even know me, but his wife recognised me as the publicans PR girl. She even told the publican to make sure to thank me for her. I expect the funeral was really stressful for the family as they had to deal with so many people they didn't know but I'm sure they must have been touched to have seen how popular he was. :A RIP

I've been crying loads all weekend and today as well but I'm not sure why :huh: . Yes I'm very sad about the death of our friend but I wasn't close to him or anything, I just had many lovely chats with him at the music venue, he was a character. I'm not a big fan of Christmas either so I guesse it's a combination of things.

Mags30

BUT something lovely happened today. I had a phone call asking for my address as I've won another prize :T:T It was a text competition from the brand of ham my mother buys My mother made a point of keeping the competition stickers and getting me to enter it.

The prize is a €200 "one4all" voucher (that's an Irish brand name, just means you can spend it anywhere :T:T I'm DELIGHTED with this but I'm not keeping it. I'm going to put it in the bag with my mothers Christmas presents. It's hers because it's her who always buys the brand. I expect she'll be delighted with it, who wouldn't be! She'll try and give it back to me but I won't allow her.

I do have a plan for it though My mother who is thankfully feeling a bit better threw out the sofa and matching armchairs last week. (well she donated them to somebody who wanted them) so the €200 needs to go towards the new sofa which of course I'll be using too.

Mags30

At the time I got that phone call about the prize I was re-purchasing 2 of the photo frames I used for the funeral photo. I promised copies of the picture to 2 of the musicians he played with.

I know I do a lot for other people, sometimes too much but it must be karma or something that I've been getting things back.

I think some of the tears at the weekend were because I was so overwhelmed by the kindness of some people I met. My publician friend who was also feeling very emotional about the funeral was reminding me that I'll ALWAYS have a home there. Somebody else noticed a broken brake light on my car and insisted on fixing it for me :A Probably a small thing to others but like @polesalot and @Lula I'm used to having to sort everything myself so it's lovely that people want to look after me.

I came home with 2 signed cd's from musicians as well. They just wanted me to have them.

Mags30

Sunday is the perfect day for Christmas :rudolf::xmastree:It gives us a whole week to get organized. Shops were very quiet today, papers are suggesting many of them will close early next year and I believe it.

vasseur

I'm glad the funeral went as well as it could have. i think at times like these it just puts everything else into perspective. The time of year definitely hasn't helped your emotions either. I know so many people that are completely cheesed off at the moment. More so than any other year

Well done on the competition and good luck trying to give the prize back to your mother. Good to hear she's feeling much better. You're probably right about the karma thing

I really know where you're coming from re the car maintenance. I've got a broken reverse light on my car at the moment and I can't fix it . I took the car to Ha lfords the moment it was pointed out to me but the man there couldn't get the bulb out and he said the one I'd bought was the the wrong type anyway. I told him I'd bought the one the manual in the shop said I'd need for my car but he said the manual wasn't always right :wall: I haven't got the time or the money to book it in to a proper garage. I wish i had more male friends who knew what they were doing with cars At the moment I'm just being very careful where I'm parking and just hoping that no one notices my reverse light isn't working. I'll just have to feign ignorance if they do :shhh:

Mags30

polesalot wrote: »

I'm glad the funeral went as well as it could have. i think at times like these it just puts everything else into perspective. The time of year definitely hasn't helped your emotions either. I know so many people that are completely cheesed off at the moment. More so than any other year

It's SO STRANGE but despite being a bit of an emotional mess I'm actually having a fabulous week. Nice things keep happening. Had an invite today to a huge event from a guy who I've chatted to a few times but don't really know. Apparently he has nobody to go with and needs a date. For some unknown reason he seems to have decided that might be me.

There are people who would do anything for an invite like this but he has no interest in people like that. I'm rather reluctant to go too, it's way out of my comfort zone but I'm just so flattered that he would consider bringing me. It took me ages to realise he was serious, I thought he was joking BUT he actually is serious. He asked for my phone number and gave me his I have a feeling nothing will come of it, I'm not particularly interested but I'm going to send him a text tomorrow to say thanks :A

Would have sent the text tonight but I've had a few glasses of wine (Christmas present) so I'll leave it until tomorrow.

I'm always rather reluctant to include new people in my social circle. His invite involves celebrities but I was much more excited when my music venue friend rang earlier and invited me to go to Killarney @Kerry78 on Christmas eve. I'll be there

Maybe this is why I'm very single. I'm more willing to drive for 2 hours to go for coffee with someone I've known for 20 years than to go on dates.

Bargain of the day I bought a dead poinsetta on clearance in Tesco earlier for €0.20. No I'm not completely stupid, it came in a gorgeous gold ceramic pot so I got the pot for 20 cents :T Going to keep an eye on the clearance flowers for the next few days and hope nobody who knows me sees me buying dead flowers

Mags30

Really busy but I sent the text to say thanks and of course he replied. He sent some very charming texts which brightened up my day BUT no need to get too excited, he writes scripts as a job so of course he can do just the right amount of charm. Thankfully he also appears to know when to stop so he's unlikely to make a nuisance of himself like painter.

vasseur

Mags30 wrote: »

Really busy but I sent the text to say thanks and of course he replied. He sent some very charming texts which brightened up my day BUT no need to get too excited, he writes scripts as a job so of course he can do just the right amount of charm. Thankfully he also appears to know when to stop so he's unlikely to make a nuisance of himself like painter.

You sound very cynical - just like me . Nice to get the invite though so you must be flattered that he has picked you.

Great poinsetta bargain :money: