Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

moozikgal

No experiance myself, my LO is only 13 months. Have you tried rewards? i have heard that a sticker chart or a bag of things from the £1 shop work as she gets something every time she goes.

bestpud

Neither of my daughters would use a potty (they just didn't like them). Our childminder found out with dd1 as we were getting nowehere. She tried her with a toilet training seat and we never looked back. We had exactly the same 'issue' with dd2 so just went straight to a seat on the toilet (again, never looked back!). Ds (our eldest) used a potty no problem (he preferred one) so I guess it's a case of finding what they like?

Other than that, how about taking her to choose some 'big girl' pants? Dd 2 thought she was the bees knees when she chose hers - had to tell everyone on the shop what she was doing!!! Of course, her favourite character (think it was the tweenies) don't like to be wee'd on!

Really, I think you have to take a deep breath and remove the nappies altogether - she will go eventually and if she starts to wet herself, you can swiftly aim for the potty and give her loads of praise when some gets in there.

Curious_George_2

we went for the big girl pants and the reward system,
i also recommend doing it over the summer when the weather is nice and you can be nappy off... do you have a garden? so if she does wet herself while running about out there it doesnt matter too much...

the biggest tip i can give you is dont make too big a deal of the accidents and mistakes, my 3 year old niece was doing really well with the potty training, but something happened (im not sure what) and she started wetting every pair of knickers... to the point that she has had to go back into nappies again,

LJM

weve used sticker charts for both our girls,but my youngest never liked the potty she went straight to big toilet with a seat and step.for the potty if she says she wants to go but gets a nappy,why dont you lay the nappy over the potty and ask her to do it then.then gradually you could take it away,it may sound mad but a friend used this way and it worked.dont get upset if she doesnt get it straight away stay calm,dont get upset at accidents ignore and clean it up.try not to mix knickers with pull ups it gets confusing stick to one or other,i know it can be hard when your out but a tip i was given was to use the change mats you can buy and lay them bottom of pushchair/car seat least if she wees then its not gone right through,you could always use an old towel.hope some of this is helpful,good luck

StartingAgainKayla70

Hi ya

My daughter is 3 in September and we tried a few months ago but she just wasnt having a bar of it, then two weeks after she just wanted to do it and took to it like no ones business.

I think that your daughter may not be ready for the potty at this moment in time, but I would still leave the potty in view and like my daughter she may just want to get on it and do her business.

Good luck x

Doozergirl

I think she's probablt not quite ready. My daughter was the same. She would sit on it and 'practice' but refused to wee in it. I think they need to be entirely conscious of needing to wee or poo before they actually start.

I would just introduce the potty every week or so and eventually she decided she was going to have a go. We did a little dance, phoned daddy and nanny to tell them and she was away She uses it constantly at home.

Cruiksl

Like some of the earlier posters - leave it until you're ready.

Friends of mine advised the same and said when the child is ready - you can do it in a couple of days.

We tried my dd when she was 25 months to get the inlaws off our back knowing she wasn't ready. We had lots of accidents and for 3 days, I tried the pants, rewards etc. All that happened at the end of the 3 days was a very stressed little girl who when we asked the question did she need the toilet then would get very upset.

I left if for another 2 months but in the meantime, I left a potty lying around and every so often would read a potty book that we'd got. We tried again with the pants, stickers etc and this time she was ready and managed to get her trained within 2 days and has been dry ever since.

Every child is different and you have to go at their pace.

hth

Lynn

amazamum

Hi,we were dreading potty training my son.
He got to 2 months before his 3rd birthday and although he knew what the potty was for he wouldn't do anything on it,we put him in big boy pants,but he just sat on it all of a sudden and we haven't looked back,I think he just wasn't ready when we wanted him to be.
We were dreading it as he couldn't start nursary unless he was dry.
The only time he wants a pull up on is for a poo and for night time,but again he will get passed that phase in his own time.
My advise don't rush them,they relax more and they will try to please you.
Ps my Ds thinks he's great now and asks to wear daddy pants,nothing else will do lol

dollydoodah

Michaela wrote: »

Hi ya

My daughter is 3 in September and we tried a few months ago but she just wasnt having a bar of it, then two weeks after she just wanted to do it and took to it like no ones business.

I think that your daughter may not be ready for the potty at this moment in time, but I would still leave the potty in view and like my daughter she may just want to get on it and do her business.

Good luck x

Agree completely. My daughter is 3 at the end of the month and would not use the potty up until 6 weeks ago. One day, after a nappy change, I said to her 'don't you think it's about time you started using the potty like a big girl?' and she said 'yes'....and that was it. Not a single accident (including long car journeys) and dry day and night ever since.

We had tried previously and she just didn't get it but once *she* made the decision to use the potty we have had no problems at all.

Savvy_Sue

If you think about it, the sensation of weeing into a nappy must be quite different to that of weeing with a bare bottom. Just having your bits exposed to the air can feel quite peculiar, so it's perhaps not surprising that they want the security of weeing into the nappy rather than the potty, even if they KNOW they need to wee.