Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

alwaysonthego_2

Ted_Hutchinson wrote: »

Just too good to be true? No nappies - and no potty training

saw a programme on tv about parents in the USA doing this, very interesting

bylromarha

For me the comment at the bottom is how I feel! Not worth it, especially not having broken sleep for such a long time until child is dry all through the night.

jovichick123

I agree with Gina Ford on almost everything - she got me through weaning with my LO and yes, I had a contended baby due to her books.. definately not worth the stress... and I wouldn't want to be covered in poo!

Elle00

I am completely lost.

What are people talking about? How can you not toilet train your toddler? Without them wearing nappies either? You're surely not talking about the nonsense where new parents hold their babies over the toilet at 3wks old are you? Because that entails getting the floor regularly pooed and weed all over as well as oneself. And medically speaking children do not tend to develop bladder control until around 18m of age anyway.

As for Gina Ford I have no idea what she has to say about the subject so you'll have to share if you want us to understand! I never used any baby books for my son and never had a problem with his sleep pattern or behaviour or anything either.

If you don't actually teach your child how to use a toilet and when to use it, how will they ever know?

BTW toilet training in general and going without a nappy at night are usually treated separately. I wouldn't take nappies off at night at this age - that's madness!!!

azjh77

I was confused too Elle83, but now I get it...Ted's bit is a link to an article about forgoing nappies altogether (click on the blue writing)

Sounds like madness to me, and I certainly don't have the time to watch the baby every time he looks like he might need a poo !! Call me lazy, but we use nappies in our house! And after 4 kids I have had my share of being peed on too... How do they cope when they take their kids out?

I don't rate Gina Ford personally, but she was right about this article

-Gina Ford, author of Potty Training In One Week, is less sure. "Of course it can work, but with the stress it puts modern-day parents through, is it worth it?"


I have a 3.5 year old in nappies as he is a bit 'behind' and is not in the slightest interested in potty training (he can't talk either so doesn't tell us when he needs changing, which is generally a sign that they are ready) Might be worth trying your method on him though Elle.

Elle00

azjh77 wrote: »

I was confused too Elle83, but now I get it...Ted's bit is a link to an article about forgoing nappies altogether (click on the blue writing)

Sounds like madness to me, and I certainly don't have the time to watch the baby every time he looks like he might need a poo !! Call me lazy, but we use nappies in our house! And after 4 kids I have had my share of being peed on too... How do they cope when they take their kids out?

I don't rate Gina Ford personally, but she was right about this article

-Gina Ford, author of Potty Training In One Week, is less sure. "Of course it can work, but with the stress it puts modern-day parents through, is it worth it?"


I have a 3.5 year old in nappies as he is a bit 'behind' and is not in the slightest interested in potty training (he can't talk either so doesn't tell us when he needs changing, which is generally a sign that they are ready) Might be worth trying your method on him though Elle.

Ahh I didn't realise it was a link!

Yes it is what I suspected, the bit about holding babies over the loo at 3wks old LOL. My son has made signals he needs the loo since he started forming solid stools at around 8wks old but that said, it can be anything from 1 minute to 1 hour after he starts making the signs that he actually goes. I agree with the Gina Ford comment in that respect, who the heck has time!!! Also I really can't see how a newborn, that cannot hold its own head up, can control its bladder? We're talking developing muscles here. I can understand the few exceptions that manage at 12 - 18m but certainly not before 12m.

I'm considering making a die-hard attempt at training in the next fortnight because I'm going back to work full-time June 25 and am a bit worried that if I don't commit now he's ready and willing I'll "miss the gap". He shows 75% of the "signs" that he's ready so it seems silly to wait around until after I've returned as it'll seriously pro-long his time spent in nappies. He's such an independent chap that I don't think it's right for him personally to stay in nappies past his second birthday because it'll annoy him being reliant.

Don't know if it makes you any more optimistic about your 3.5yr old but my youngest sister did not say a word until 4.5yrs of age and yet became fluent almost overnight and was ahead at school by 6yrs old! Similarly we were panicked (HV, GP etc) that my son could talk and feed himself etc but not sit up at 10m old; he sat up, stood up and cruised in the same week at 11m old... Swings and roundabouts sometimes.

bloomin_freezing

Hi all

Right potty training....

My DD has recently turned 2, we bought her a potty getting on for a year ago now. She knows what the potty and toilet are for. When myself of OH go to the toilet she happily follows us in there, pulls out her potty sits on it, sometimes she makes noises as if she's going to the toilet, then she asks for tissue, wipes herself and outs her potty back. The only problem is she doesn't actually do anything when she's sitting on it.

She will tell us immediately, or sometimes just before she needs to go in her nappy. If her nappy is off, she'll come up to us saying 'wee wee' if she needs to go. So we'll try 'would you like to go for a wee wee on your potty?' and sit her on it and she says NO, and she will not do it. She'll run and get herself a nappy.

How can we make the transition to actually 'going' on her potty? I have also tried a dolly that wee's, put it on her potty, made it wee and then said 'look what baby has done, good girl baby' etc but DD just found this amusing!!

I really would like to get her toilet trained this year as pre-school will start anytime after xmas.

Please help!!

hellies

I dont have any advice but just thought id let you know that my dd is exactly the same!!! she also loves the potty, knows what its for, says she has done something on it, asks for and uses the tissue but never actually performs!!!

angeluk69_2

I don't know whether this will help you but it helped my DD who is 3. My mum knew that I wanted to get her PT so had the idea to tell her that knickers are for daytime and nappies are just for bedtimes because thats what big girls do. After a couple of days of knowing that we wouldn't put a nappy on her during the day, she realised that she would have to use the potty.

We started off having the potty close by (in the same room) and would keep asking if she needed to wee roughly every 20minutes. And once she started using it we moved it further away each time.

We have been lucky and have managed to get her dry during the day within about 6 weeks. And she has even decided she will sit on the toilet by herself and does number 2's without us having to prompt her to try, unlike our 6 year old DS.

HTH

helend

When potty training my dd I waited until I had a fortnight off work and left her nappy off the entire time:eek: . I bought the potty book for girls:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Potty-Book-Girls/dp/0751366854/ref=sr_1_6/026-1392615-1861252?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1186387296&sr=8-6

Gave her lots to drink and sat her on the potty whilst we read the book a couple of times - this kept her occupied enough and her mind on what we were doing long enough for her to do a wee and make the connection IYKWIM- course tonnes of praise and stickers. After that we were just asking her if she needed a wee-wee and she would use the potty.

We also tried to get her to use the toilet within a couple of weeks as we'd been told that can be difficult if they get too used to the potty.

Hth and good luck