Toddler Toilet Training help! (merged)

chewy62

HI! Just wondering what I should do about my 3YO son who has been toilet trained for 7 months but has started doing pees on the lounge carpet, and even did a poo there yesterday! :mad:
Took him to the docs and he had a urethra infection which has now cleared up, so there's no real reason for it. When I catch him when he has just done a pee, he looks all pleased with himself, so I think he is doing it out of badness. :mad:
Does anyone have any ideas?? Thanks!!!

borntoshop

Do not react as if its a terrible thing first of all, if he is smiling it may mean he is more pleased about getting your attention than what he has done.
Make as little comment as possible that is negative, instead say something like " Didnt you not have time to get to the toilet, next time shout me and I will come with you! Lets clean this up shall we?

Rachie_B

has anything changed in his life / routine ?

new baby ? house move ? split / separated parents etc?

these things can affect a child and cause them to start wetting / soiling again

if none of these things then yeah it could be for the "attention" ,so when he does it ,say nothing just take him off to the bathroom and change him DONT give him any attention for doing it ,(ie ignore the bad behaviour )even shouting etc lol as any attention is better than none in a childs eyes

when he goes on the toilet then praise him up loads (ie reward the good behaviour )

hope he stops it soon

chewy62

Thanks for the tips! i recently started working on a Friday aftrenoon, always worked on a Saturday but his Dad is at home then. He does seem to do it a bit more on Fri. and Sat.so that might be something.
he also likes running about with his pants and trousers off, and any time you leave him on his own, he takes them off and hides them behind the sofa!
Not sure if this is relevant, but it might be!

bubbles_2

Hi..

I need some voices of experience please!

My daughter is 2 years and 2 months old. She is able to communicate well with adults and children and is in fact ahead of her time as regards development. Therefore, I thought it was a good time to start potty training.

It's now day 3.

She has not yet managed to wee anywhere else but in her trousers/knickers BUT by the end of day 2 she managed to do a poo (sorry!) on her potty. I thought i would reward her and told her that harry the hippo (whos on the front of her potty) has left her a reward. (So i put a mini box of sweets under the potty).

She LOVED it. Said thankyou to harry the hippo..and i thought i may have cracked it... UNTIL ... her sweets ran out so she sat on the potty again straining until the smallest currant (for want of a better word!) was produced and harry could give her some more sweets!

This morning she has wet again in her trousers and i put her on the toilet upstairs to try for a poo but she didnt manage it and said its not coming yet. Within 2 mins of me leaving the bathroom she had done it on the floor! arrrrrrghhhhhh

I would be quite happy to quit for now and try at a later date as i have a 7 months old baby and im starting to tear my hair out but she likes the fact that shes in knickers not nappies and doesnt want to wear the nappy anymore.

I would really like to know.. is this normal... by day 3 no real progress as such? Do i persevere or quit and force the nappies back on? I didnt really want to put her in pull ups as i have heard that these actually help delay the process... and shes on a go slow as it is it seems lol

Any advice would be really appreciated.

Thanks
bubs

Karnam

i think it sounds like you're making progess for 3 days, it took 2 months for my little sis to manage to get her head around it.

are you offering rewards for pee as well? if the rewards are the same, then she might not try straining so much in order to get a potentially bigger reward for a poo...

well done though, keep trying it sounds like you're getting somewhere!

HopeElizzy

Perhaps a sticker chart rather than the sweets? Then you can offer a sticker every time she sits on th potty and does anything. My daughter decided to wear pants at about the same age and there was no changing her mind so we stuck it out and she did get there. Initially although it may seem repetitive ask if she needs the potty every 20-30 mins as they forget if you don't keep reminding them. Also they generally need to wee about 20 mins after having a drink so remind her a short time after having a drink. Take her to the loo when you go as she may imitate you by sitting on the potty when you sit on the loo. That would be a good opportunity to show her wiping and hand washing as well.
The main thing is, if you're going to keep going, make no fuss when there's an accident and don't show any displeasure just keep on with the enthausiasm when she gets it right.
Good Luck

Rachie_B

IMO she may be too young,id leave it til the summer months when she can run round garden with nothing on her bottom half

still offer the potty in the meantime ,before bed/ bath / after meals etc

praise loads for just sitting on it and for of course "producing " something lol

i wouldnt go down the route of offering sweets myself,but maybe read her fave story/ comic whilst she sits on it

i dont think you need the pressure at the mo with a baby aswell

and pull ups dont delay the process as such as they are just a nappy but the child is able to pull up / down on their own

maybe try reusable trainer pants as opposed to the desposable "pull ups" ?? cheaper and because they arent as absorbant she will feel when shes wet better than if she wore a disposable

Good luck

avondale

Bubbles,
I think for 3 days of training your daughter is doing okay, my son is going to be 2 in MAY, and has been using the potty for about 2 months. All i can say is persistance is the key, he says he does a pooh regardless of whether its a wee wee (lol). We sit him down on his potty at times when he watches his cbeebies and try to keep him nappy free for as long as possible. Like yourself we've had our mishaps, with walnut whips found on the carpet, not a nice sight as you well know. We don't actually reward him but praise him verbally, as we are money savers (LOL). All i can say is that he's slowly but surely getting the hang of it, i sympathise with you as you have another little gift who needs your attention and time. My son is continually asked if he would like to use the potty and is now telling us when he needs a pooh regardless of what end it comes out of. He also likes to wear pants now and we have similar situations to you whereby he wets them. We have been using pull up nappies and i can't say they are holding him back in any way. My own personal opinion is that i don't make a big deal out of it but always praise him when he uses the potty, but on the other hand my partner bless her is driven mad by the fact that he hasn't conquered the potty, pardon the pun, yet.If you can keep going i personally would as for 3 day training your daughter is doing fine.
Good luck

hatsepsovet

Definitely don't give up after 3 days. It took my daughter about 2 weeks to be potty trained. I would definitely recommend sticker chart instead of sweets as well.